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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

This group is not intended to compete with other groups on topics they cover but to "fill in the cracks." Whenever a discussion dwells at length on a topic for which there's an existing group, we urge you to provide members a link to that group to continue along their tangent.

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Please start a discussion to share stories, photos, and videos. Replies will pop up in your "latest activity" and a conversation can develop from the feelings and thoughts you contributed. Groups are built on discussions.

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Seeing Things (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on Thursday. 2 Replies

TheraminTrees doesn't release videos very often these days,  but when he does, they are positive GEMS.  Most recent of his works is the following, wherein he dismantles some of the common rebuttals atheist get from believers when we assert our…Continue

Tags: seeing things, YouTube, TheraminTrees

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 15. 4 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

You'll NEVER Guess Who Just Showed Up on Mr. Deity!!!

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Feb 14. 11 Replies

I don't believe this one either, but ... well, here it is: And would you believe - Mr. D made me laugh!  RD, that is!Continue

Tags: Richard Dawkins, Mr. Deity

Seth Andrews' Rebuttal to "10 Women Christian Men Shouldn't Marry" (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Feb 6. 20 Replies

It seems as though some numb-nuts New York pastor by the name of Stephen Kim has written two marriage advice pieces for christian men and women.  Not surprisingly, his suggestions come straight out of his never-fail magic book.  Seth Andrews of The…Continue

Tags: advice, marriage, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, Stephen Kim

Seth Andrews' New Book, "Sacred Cows" (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Patricia Feb 6. 7 Replies

For the last few podcasts, Seth Andrews has been alluding to a new literary effort he's been working on.  Well, the cat is out of the bag ... or perhaps I should say, the cow is out of the barn!  Seth's new opus is entitled: Sacred Cows: a…Continue

Tags: book, Sacred Cows, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Living in the Answers

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Patricia Jan 18. 13 Replies

I am weary of those who declare they understand all the answers to the creation of the universe and Earth. They claim they know the answers to the questions of life, meaning, death, and the afterlife. Those with all the answer speak with confidence,…Continue

Tags: confidence, education, government, family, afterlife

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Comment by Ian Mason on February 17, 2015 at 9:41pm

Good to hear from you, Carl and glad that your break wasn't caused by health problems. 

Comment by Bertold Brautigan on February 17, 2015 at 8:02pm

Hate to rub it in, but it hit 64 degrees today and it was gorgeous. Getting lots of yardwork done.

Comment by k.h. ky on February 17, 2015 at 7:59pm
Berthold, I absolutely agree with that! We got 13 inches of snow the last 24 hours with another 2-3 inches predicted tonight. Then our temps will drop below zero :(
Comment by Bertold Brautigan on February 17, 2015 at 7:48pm

Thanks for articulating your thoughts, Carl. I had also thought being atheist at least to some extent entailed realizing life is too short for petty bullshit.

Comment by k.h. ky on February 17, 2015 at 7:39pm
Carl, I'm glad your health hasn't taken a sudden turn for the worse. Isn't family the most wonderful thing?
I hope you're feeling stronger.
Comment by The Flying Atheist on February 17, 2015 at 6:42pm

Hello, everyone.  I'm back from a little break which I felt I needed after the recent blow-up here.  I was quite shocked at the response to that stupid dog gif I posted.  The reaction, I thought, was overly emotional and hyperbolic.  To me it was visually obvious that the cranking of the dog's tail was just pretend, and that the dog, its tail and spine were not being physically harmed or twisted in any manner.  Furthermore, like icing on the cake, I was even more astonished that shortly afterward, a post appeared addressing the issue of sexual abuse of dogs and bestiality (!), as if that topic was somehow related.  At that point I felt I needed a break from the insanity.  Abuse of animals is an important topic, but I think the dog gif I posted was the wrong springboard to start that conversation. 

I also have read Ruth's post, Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors.  In it she makes an important statement:  "As I see it, the video wasn't the real cause of our problem." 

Obviously, there were some other long-standing and festering personality and character issues that surfaced via an ugly display of nasty personal comments.  That exchange took on a life of its own, leaving me at a loss for words.  I'm deeply saddened that, as a result, we have lost not only members from our group but persons who we consider to be our friends.

Whether you agree with my above-stated opinions or not, I'm glad I could finally sit down and express my feelings.      

Comment by Ian Mason on February 17, 2015 at 10:42am

Thank you, everyone. I've chatted with my nephew and it seems that his heart episode should be a one-off event. (I had one like it years ago. Hasn't happened since) His 17 y.o. cousin is out of hospital although still under doctor's care. My brother and his wife are, it seems, coping as well as possible but are in bed and asleep before 10 p.m. every evening. They need the rest, especially my brother who is up at 5 a.m. for work. I'll get updates from my nephew as and when things change.

Thanks again, lovely people.

Comment by Plinius on February 17, 2015 at 7:53am

A cartfull of bad trouble in your family, Ian! It doesn't feel good when your help is unwanted, but it doesn't mean you are unwanted.

Comment by Randall Smith on February 17, 2015 at 7:39am

Yikes, Ian. Perhaps a phone call, email, or letter might be appropriate and appreciated. Shows you're thinking of them.

Yes, I had a feeling we'd lose Mindy. I'm still in a state of shock over all the fuss. On my old blog site, I made a mortal enemy when I mentioned the words "will power" when trying to lose weight, like "you gotta have...". Now, I can make new enemies over here!

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 16, 2015 at 10:37pm

Ian, sorry to learn of your family members with a lung infection, another with heart irregularities at 22 y.o., a collapsed lung in their 17 y.o. nephew., an elderly father in a care home, and their dog, old, ailing and incontinent. It sounds as though they need quiet and rest. Perhaps there is another way you can give them support and encouragement. The information that now is not a good time for you to visit them reflects respect for you, even as you could help in some way. 

With all that you list indicates these are long term problems and they may need your help at some future time. In the meantime, keep yourself healthy, your spirits up, and focus on letting them know you are available when/if they need you. 

I'm glad you shared your feelings with us; this is a good place to express your disappointment. 

 

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