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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Seth Andrews - The Copycats: How Christianity Steals The Best Ideas

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Soren Sagan on Wednesday. 9 Replies

Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

Tags: steal, borrow, copycat, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Finding Your Roots

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Chris G Dec 15. 9 Replies

I've been into genealogy for a long time. It's fun, especially with internet help, but increasingly frustrating. You see, I've hit "brick walls". And being a Smith doesn't make research any easier.Wouldn't you think I could find the death date and…Continue

Christmas: Behind the Curtain (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by sk8eycat Dec 12. 11 Replies

Well, it's that time of year again.  Time to gird our loins, put on our battle armor and join the (dah-dah DAAAAAH!) WAR AGAINST CHRISTMAS!!! [groan!] Yeah, most of us have heard that crap before, probably too many times, in fact, how atheists are…Continue

Tags: Christmas, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Secular and Reclaimed Winter Holiday Songs

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by sk8eycat Nov 26. 41 Replies

This is an appropriate day of the year for this subject...What are some of your favorite winter holiday songs?It would be especially good to share powerful new secular lyrics to tunes that have become associated with Christmas.…Continue

Tags: singing, lyrics, reclaimed, reclaiming, HumanLight

Aljam

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Grinning Cat Nov 24. 4 Replies

I'm not a news hound by any stretch, but I do like to stay informed about what's going on in the world. (I despise "local" news with all the reports of murders, robberies, fires, etc.)The national "evening" news shows really irritate me. I hate…Continue

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 22. 79 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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Comment by Plinius on December 6, 2012 at 1:26am

It must be fear, Sk8eycat, because the believers have taken an unseemly advantage of other lifeforms, by claiming to be better or more important. But the effect is bad, as I found out when growing up fundie: it isolates you from everything, even from yourself. I really came into my own when I discovered that we're all stardust - it's a source of happiness to me.

Comment by Ian Mason on December 6, 2012 at 12:19am

That's a very charming video, Patricia. Sort of says "it's natural to be nice".

Bonjour, monsieur. Vive la Marianne!

Comment by Napoleon Bonaparte on December 5, 2012 at 9:38pm
Comment by sk8eycat on December 5, 2012 at 6:25pm

Joan, I was SO proud to be working at KCET when Carl Sagan's "Cosmos" was in production there; I got chills sneaking onto the sets when they weren't in use. 

But the biggest thrill of all was when the series finally aired, and Sagan explained so clearly about supernovae and how "We are ALL made of star stuff."  And on another episode, when he looked right into the camera and said, "Evolution is a fact," I jumped up, cheered, and clapped my hands. (I was watching it alone at home.)

I do not understand why so many people have a problem with the fact that we are descended from blue-green algae and other life forms.  Even the buybull says Adam was made out of dirt, so what's the diff? ("Ashes to ashes, dust to dust."  That's their dogma, so what are they whining about?)

Comment by Ian Mason on December 5, 2012 at 3:45pm

Joan, that sounds like a happy nest of children, perhaps because you are so positive in your view of life.

Felaine, hoping for the best for you.

I've now found out that my flight WAS cancelled due to weather and not an airline fuck-up. The problem is that England grinds to a halt at the first hint of snow. A cross-channel rail trip would be something like a 24-hour trip, pehaps longer. A direct flight takes 1½ hours plus travelling time on the ground and the usual standing in queues, about 5-6 hours in all and is a lot cheaper if booked well in advance. Oh well, I've lived in Denmark for nearly 26 years and this is the first time it's happened so the odds have been pretty good. It's just bloody annoying that it happened now.

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 5, 2012 at 3:30pm

Melinda, Oh! Yes indeed! enjoy the Winter Solstice and your daughter! Time slips by so quickly and being with a loving daughter is about the best treat I can think of. Right up there with being with loving sons and all their offspring. They do the cooking, now, and hosting the parties and I can simply wallow in the joy of it all. 

I feel extremely fortunate to have been able to shake off the old mantle of myths and fables that laid claim on my thoughts and actions for so many years, and I am free to think about things once forbidden. I can see myself as part of this fantastic universe and not destined to some terrible burning eternal fire or a place that some claimed to be paradise and I could only see boredom. 

My purpose in life is to be genuinely me, not some fabricated wretch that could never live up to another's expectations. My sense of direction comes from being awake and aware of events taking place around me. Some things I can change, some I can't, and some just feel so important to me I surge ahead as if I do make a difference. 

Having my origin being the exploding stars that produces all the elements that make you and me, and that we share our origins with everything on Earth gives me a great big kick in the behind. I really am! I am what I am, and so are you. Isn't that great news!?

The fact that I will return to the elements from which I emerged makes me just want to dance and sing and inspires me to breath each breath with a sense of wonder and meaning. 

Just as all these wonderful cats that appear on these pages, and the amazing birds that exist on the Earth means I am part of all of that and I am so damned grateful to have this life, aches and pains and all that. It is a price well worth paying to be conscious of it all. 

And my dear friend, you contribute to my joy in so many ways. Melinda, shine your light and sing your song, and dance your dance, and be all that you are. You and I can be partners in the dance of life and all who share these words create a web of life worth living. 

Comment by booklover on December 5, 2012 at 2:55pm

Felaine!  Awesome way to get your name!  I always liked that it reminded me of feline! :)

Joan, I LOVE your outlook on life!  How funny the shorter lady offered to help you get something off the shelf.  Interesting how people see themselves.  I don't mind getting older I guess.  I just hope I don't get sicker.  I have 'conditions' I guess, not illnesses.  Just chronic things to live with.  I am just grateful for my family , pets, and friends (ESPECIALLY you friends here in this group.  Very comforting!)  I love that you have decided to let others do the work when you feel like napping!  Naps are great!  I need to move on to a different phase in life now that my kids are adults.  Still deciding what.  I'm grateful I don't have to be in a rush to decide.  Just going to enjoy the Winter Solstice, having my daughter home until next semester, snuggling with my pets, and eating the delicious food available this time of the year!  Hugs to everyone~ Melinda

Comment by sk8eycat on December 5, 2012 at 2:28pm

Ian, can you go by rail to the Chunnel, and get to England that way?  Or would that require too many train changes, visas and other gov't red tape?

Joan, yes, Sk8eycat and Felaine are the same split personality. My first name is the same as my mother's (Frances), so I've been called by my middle name (Elaine) all my life to avoid confusion in the house...I never bothered to ask my parents why they did that to me, and it's way too late to do it now.  It's caused all kinds of problems with tax returns Social Security, Medicare, contracts, etc., etc.

When I started working for The Pet Press (at home, via e-mail), Lori wanted to put my name on the masthead.  I was on Disability at the time, and I didn't want anyone to know I was doing any work at all, so I came up with a serendipitous nom de plume that was close enough to "feline" to make me happy.

An' dat's de trooooffff!

>^,.^/p>

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 5, 2012 at 2:20pm

Patricia, great news! A Yule Log ready to warm and brighten Winter Solstice? 

Ian, I can hear your frustration and need to get some reasonable service at a reasonable price. I do hope you get to your Mum and can sort things out. My thought go with you. 

Melinda, I love these "perspective" photos. The cat really does look drunk! Your aging comment rings a great big bell for me, with even a drum roll and blast of a bugle: "I am getting old!" My youngest granddaughter was going through some rough time appropriate for a young woman of her age and I was going through some rough time appropriate for my age ... but there isn't as much fun to look forward to going on the down-hill slide. 

So, I guess the best plan, at least for me, is to be a "participant observer" and observe my aching joins, tired back, weariness, disinterest in doing anything productive, and just soak up those delicious naps, and happily accept offers to open doors or carry heavy packages. One little old lady offered to help me get a jar off the top shelf of a grocery store and I asked her how tall she was ... she was an inch shorter than I am. Oh dear! when little short old ladies offer to help me, I must look pretty old. 

Well, the fun things are visiting with you guys each day, doing a bit of reading and writing, finding pleasure in my local grocery store and hardware store, and gleefully trek off to all those doctors' appointments. I even had the great excitement of having my yearly "serious" talk with my financial advisor this morning. Yippee!!

I planned to go testify against coal trains coming through Spokane last night and I was just too tired. I could have given such a strong speech that the plan would have been scuttled at once. Oh! Well! Someone else has to do the work now. I am too busy napping. 

Comment by booklover on December 5, 2012 at 2:13pm

Ian, sorry about your cancelled flight and having to pay way more for another one!  SO frustrating when there's nothing you can do about it!

 

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