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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Fall is already here--do you celebrate the holiday season?

Started by Deidre. Last reply by Brent Feeney yesterday. 26 Replies

I took a brief hiatus from here, and decided to come back. I've missed you guys, and hope you are all doing well. Hard to believe that fall is around the cornerThere's not much of a fall where I live. Having said that, I love Halloween. I don't…Continue

Local Color in the Neighborhood

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on Thursday. 27 Replies

It's getting on toward peak color season here on the North Coast.  I'm lucky enough to have some truly beautiful examples of it literally right outside my door and a short walk around.  So I thought I'd break out the Olympus and record some…Continue

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I put my trust in my cancer fighting teams

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Oct 6. 16 Replies

So, something made you ill,then God waited until many people petitioned him,then made you well again.Something makes people around the world illthen no amount of people petitioning Godmakes them well again.Cancer made me ill,I want no one to…Continue

blu (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Oct 3. 10 Replies

After what has seemed like a very long hiatus, TheraminTrees is BACK.  No great surprise, not only hasn't he lost a step, he may actually have gained a few!  That said, may I present:bluContinue

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Don't leave your keys on your desk: company copies keys from photos for $6

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Optical Illusions

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by sk8eycat Sep 22. 64 Replies

This one seems a bit creepy, like the middle one shouldn't be able to change rotation like that. from Cheezburger.comContinue

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Comment by Chris Dodds on January 7, 2013 at 10:23am

Can anyone help me?  I'm trying to make a Youtube series focusing on the Christ Myth Theory and I was wondering what the name of a certain type of angel is.  The angel I'm talking about is supposed to appear in the end times, it's supposed to have four wings and four heads; thse of a man, an ox, a lion, and an eagle.

Comment by John Lynch on January 7, 2013 at 9:36am

Hate seems to indicate hurting someone. I think that is the end result when you hate. Love can hurt if you are rejected by the people you love. I think it is easier to get over rejection that a continued hate of people. I resent some people for sure but I can avoid them rather than hating. On the other hand I would have a hard time not hating someone who hurt my children. Maybe there is a balance of some kind to keep us sane. Interesting topic.

Comment by Idaho Spud on January 7, 2013 at 8:13am

I can relate to the pudgy pooch who's walk is over.

Comment by Idaho Spud on January 7, 2013 at 8:06am

Chris, I very much like what you say about helping older people study without pain.  My mother suffered at the hands of a teacher that caused her a great deal of pain, and made her hate school.

I also very much like what you say about training to make people into docile slaves.  I've seen that in the company I worked for, In the church I was raised in, in government "leaders", but didn't notice it in education.  Now that you mention it, I think you're right.

Comment by booklover on January 7, 2013 at 7:44am

Comment by booklover on January 7, 2013 at 7:43am

Carl, I find different kinds of love take no time at all and are permanent and easy.  That is the unconditional love I had and will always have, from the moment they were born.  I also love animals (a different love from my children, but an unconditional love all the same) because they have no agenda and don't hurt on-purpose.  The love I have for my husband is conditional because there are things he could do that would make me stop loving him, although I don't believe he ever would.  I also deeply love my Mother, Sister, Niece, and Nephew.  Still in a different way from my children.  I loved 3 out of 4 (one was awful) of my now-deceased Grandparents that way.

As to hate, if someone hurts my child, I hate them.  I can't help it.  Even if it doesn't bother my child.  I find hate fades as I get older, like Chris talked about, but not hate for someone who did something to my kids.  I can't even help it, it's just ingrained in me or something.

Love and Hate are complicated sometimes, and sometimes they are both very easy to do!

On to lighter subjects, cute LOL Cat Steph!  I hope everyone has a good week!  I am a little sad, as this is my daughter's last week @ home before she goes back to her University for the Spring Semester!~ Melinda  (p.s. I love all my friends here! lol :)

Comment by Steph S. on January 7, 2013 at 6:45am

Good Morning

Comment by Plinius on January 7, 2013 at 4:12am

What is "normal" is really, in fact, sick.

I'm in a discussion here about education, and one of the conclusions is that education is seldom meant to develop children into healthy, happy people who can cope with whatever they meet. More often it's a training to make them into docile, hardworking subjects who won't criticize or think - churches and other authoritarian institutes always want slaves.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 7, 2013 at 2:49am

sk8eycat, I don't read anything wrong with you; I read a funny lady who has had some hard knocks in life and who refuses to give up. You have every right to  "takes a great deal of effort on my part to either love OR hate". That is a perfectly healthy coping strategy for dealing with life's wounds. 

You clearly make positive impressions on people, as demonstrated by your unseen friend who helped you through a hard place. 

I like your "better dead" strategy and it sounds like it works for you! Good for you. You have intelligence and guts. 

As for teachers who cripple or put mind-binders on their students, they should be ferreted out and taken out of the classroom. The job of a teacher is to facilitate a student's flourishing; find their strength and build on that. What is "normal" is really, in fact, sick. So we have to figure out what healthy is and inspire students to reach for their healthy. 

If conflict is hard for you, trust yourself by being who you are. You are a loner for a reason, as long as you know you are not alone. You have experiences that made you who you are, and you can mine the deep down parts of yourself and allow them to blossom, in whatever way you are to blossom. 

You are a very special lady to me and I thoroughly enjoy your comments.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 7, 2013 at 2:29am

Chris Breman, I very much agree with and like what you stated about working with the elderly and helping them to overcome imposed limitations. It is so much fun to watch people blossom to full bloom at any age. 

As to the forgiveness matter, I am glad you find a way that works for you and that you find comfort. Loving is so much fun that it really sparks oxytocin in my bloodstream and I find it very easy to bond with people with a gentle character.  

Oxytocin is a brain peptide known to promote positive interpersonal  relations. It makes people like one another. New mothers are awash in oxytocin (which is involved in the labor process), and it is believed that the hormone promotes bonding between mother and infant.

New studies focus on a provocative and growing body of new science examining the role of oxytocin in competitive sports.

So, there is hope for all of us, even those of us who choose not to forgive. 

 

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