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Comment by Steph S. on March 23, 2013 at 9:37am

Comment by Steph S. on March 23, 2013 at 9:34am

Nice to have you back here Ian. I give to many animal causes Patricia. I enjoy helping animals.

Booklover I hope your cat Lula is Ok. Maybe she is under the weather and just needs a checkup at the vet. MAybe the vet can give her something and get her going. I am thinking about you and I hope everything goes OK.

That is so nice of you to help out that friend of yours. It is so nice to have a friend there when you need one.

Comment by Idaho Spud on March 23, 2013 at 9:20am

Ruth, does part of the Memetic Evolution set that is outside of US mean that other animals have memes also?

Comment by booklover on March 23, 2013 at 7:53am

Hi Ian!  I agree with Chris.  No fun dealing with institutions and social workers.  I can only imagine how frustrating.  I'm happy for you that you get to take your daughter with you when you return!  And nice that you got to spend time with your brother and his family.:)

My cat Lula has been on the couch now for 2 days and won't leave it.  I don't even know if she's drinking or going to the litterbox.  When we pet her she doesn't purr, but she's alert and looks at us and sniffs our hands.  I am going to call the vet this a.m..  That is just so out of character for her. :(

I have a friend who is bi-polar and she is not doing well at all.  Her ex has a drinking problem, and she suspects he sells drugs.  Neither have jobs.  Their 19-year old daughter texted me and asked for a ride home from work last night to her dad's, where she doesn't want to be but has no choice right now.  I've known her since she was about 4.  We have been talking on Facebook.  I picked her up, bought her dinner, and took her home.  Since her dad wasn't home she wanted me to come in and meet her cat Greta.  She was adorable!  I feel so bad for this girl, but there isn't much more that I can do except offer rides and listen to her.  She had had to walk home in the dark 7 miles the night before because her dad was irresponsible.  I know it's not my problem, but I wish I could think of some way to help her.  I just gave her motherly advice and told her to call me any time.

Comment by Plinius on March 23, 2013 at 3:01am

Nice that you're back, Ian! It's hard work, taking care of your elder family and making the care-homes and other instititions do what they should do.  

Comment by Ian Mason on March 23, 2013 at 12:02am

Got back from England late last night  and trying to catch up.

Good luck with Jerry, Sk8eycat.

Joan; one of the best books on memes is "The Meme Machine" by Susan Blackmore but that's also an academic tome.

Language: euphamisms must be one of America's largest exports. Shakespeare could do great, new things with English but most advertising copywrighters aren't him.

Situation in England: Stepmum now out of intensive care but still very ill. The diagnosis is COPD, a combination of chronic bronchitis and emphysemia. If/when she pulls through, the future will be care home and oxygen bottle and the possibilty that the next cold or flu will kill her.

Mum. Had a meeting with her, social worker and one of the care-home staff. Most of the talk seemed to be at cross purposes. The social worker clearly wanted Mum where ever the cost was lowest, the care-home worker seemed determined to play down any problem and we seemed condemned to the role of ungrateful children. We were aware that it was one of Mum's "good" days, where she could put up a good front. Her stay at the home was extended until December, however but the clinical assesment won't start for at least 2-3 months. Very frustrating.

It was nice, though, to have a couple of days with my brother and his family, arthritic dog and haughty cat. Will be going back again in 12 days time and taking my daughter with me. If there's no medical crisis we'll be going to the theatre to see Rowan Atkinson in a comedy.

It's nice to be back among you.

Comment by sk8eycat on March 22, 2013 at 10:02pm

Patricia, There are a couple of local organizations that give limited grants for veterinary bills (usually for surgery) to qualified low-income people; I'm taking my 2012 Social Security 1099 form with me when I do take Jerry in. The vet has to apply for the grant, not the pet owner. 

One was started by a vet that I took my cats (and one big dog who was a pet-sitting client) to...I don't know if he's still involved with the day-to-day business of the org (he had to retire from DVM work when he ruined his shoulder lifting a dog onto the exam table), but he is/was one of the sweetest, funniest men I've ever met anywhere, anytime.

Comment by Joan Denoo on March 22, 2013 at 8:37pm

sk8eycat, you send very good news! Thankfully, fear of a cat fight unsettled him, and would unsettle me to. Yes, we lose country space to urban and suburban development. It grew so fast; where orchards and strawberry patches and little farms existed have become homes and pavement. It surely has to stop at some point. We built on all the excellent farmland and the remaining land is either rocky mountains or desertified land. 

I like your suggestion, Patricia, about SPCA. 

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on March 22, 2013 at 8:34pm

Joan, getting a feel for memetics has a lot to do with giving up the idea we're in complete control. We tend to think we create words, poems, ideas, songs, and inventions. While that's true in on sense, there's another sense in which words, poems, ideas, songs and inventions that we've learned from one another also created us - in evolutionary terms.

Comment by sk8eycat on March 22, 2013 at 3:25pm

Joan, Jerry is behaving normally today...woke me up, demanded to be fed, and then took an extended nap in a patch of sunshine (which has moved on, but he's still asleep in the same spot).  I guess all the crouching, and sticking closer than usual to me last night was due to a loud and long cat fight outside.  Both cats were acting spooky long after the outdoor toms took their disagreement elsewhere.

S'peculiar, we haven't been bothered by outdoor cats in years...due to the influx of coyotes, I'm afraid.  We're about a mile from where the real hills begin, but developers keep building higher and higher up there, and totally destroying not only coyote habitat, but that of their normal prey. 

THEN the idiots who buy those tacky McMansions in the hills complain when their pets are killed by predators.  (There are pumas and bobcats up there, too.)

This used to be a nice little town...

 

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