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Comment by sk8eycat on March 24, 2013 at 3:51am

TFA...that candle holder is WONderful!  I even showed th photo to my JWitless sisther, and she wanted to know who made it, and where she could get one. 

Witlesses HATE Halloween...they claim it's satanic, or something.  During Trick-or-Treat time in our neighborhood, my sister "has to" sit in the back yard, as far as she can get from the street, to keep the evil from touching her "soul."

None of them have ever been able to  explain to me what's evil about little kids dressed up as spacemen, fairy princesses, clowns, whatever.

(One of her friends refused to come in the house one day because I'd just printed a photo poster of several owls on a perch, and it was titled "Hogwarts Post Office," or something like that.)

But my sister loves that candle holder.  Go figure.  (I think she also regrets the fact that since our parents died, we don't "do" xmas in this house anymore, either.  The OT has an an injunction against bringing trees inside and decorating them.  Pagan, yanno.  They're effing weird.)

Some of my happiest memories are of the wild Halloween parties we put on when I was in HOI. 

The "nun" in the upper right is a guy I took skating lessons with when we were both in high school. We joined the show together, too. When I walked into the party room, he was sitting quietly on the sidelines, prim and proper.  I didn't recognize him at first; I just wondered, "What's a NUN doing here?" Then I saw the big belly (a pillow), and realized she/he was supposed to be pregnant, realized it was Tim, and laughed till my face hurt.

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I'm sitting on the floor, in a white blouse, pleated skirt, laughing.

Most of the boys came in drag, even the str8 ones.

 

Comment by Joan Denoo on March 24, 2013 at 3:00am

OK, does this pass the "Poo" test?

Comment by Plinius on March 24, 2013 at 1:49am

You're a wonderful aunt to Abby, Melinda! She'll have a bad life as long as she stays with her family, so she keeps comforting herself with unnecessary things. It's not easy to divorce yourself from your family, but it looks like the best option for her.

Comment by Ian Mason on March 24, 2013 at 12:44am

Melinda, if your friend suffers from bipolar disorder then Abby has, in some ways, grown up without a mother. If you can be the "sensible aunt" for her you will be doing her a service that could last a life-time.

Glad to know someone with such a kind heart.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on March 23, 2013 at 10:12pm

Melinda, if I may publicly state.........you are a real Gem.  Anyone who knows you is indeed very lucky.  You not only have a big, welcoming heart but you have obviously proven that you are an individual who can be relied upon in so many circumstances. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on March 23, 2013 at 5:13pm

A colleague once told me she had to divorce her family because they were toxic. She said she had to pay a price for getting out, and in the long run it was worth it. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on March 23, 2013 at 5:10pm
Sounds like all you can do, Melinda. It is really too bad. Life can be so incredibly fine and it is not hard to do. Love oneself, love one's work, love family and community, love being able to think and solve problems and participate in living with people you love and who love you.
Well, that is kind of a big order. And all it takes is thinking and acting wisely and paying attention when dreams and nightmares try to alert one to some unsolved problem or conflict, or sometime illness is a body trying to get in touch with oneself, or recurring problems that don't seem to get fixed. These and other things are our wonderful bodies and minds calling attention to something that needs attention.
Comment by booklover on March 23, 2013 at 4:55pm

Thanks Joan. :)  My friends daughter, the one I gave the ride to, has it really rough with her mom (who is my original friend) being bi-polar and not being able to even help herself, and her dad, who drinks and sells drugs.  I'll just say her name, Abby, is 19, and doing the best she can to keep her head above water.  She has lots of relatives on both sides, but none that can help her much.  No one has any money, and the religious ones are so judgemental.  She told me her mom (my friend) didn't even come out of the shower when she  went over there on her own birthday.  She yelled "I'm not home!"  Abby was really hurt. I tried giving her some advice about starting a savings account, no matter how small, and keep adding to it so she has SOMETHING for an emergency.  She is following in her moms footsteps and buying nonsense things (she keeps getting tattoos) instead of paying for important things first.  Their family has always lived from one crisis to the next.  Water getting shut off while buying a ton of Avon, etc.  I don't think I can even begin to undo the damage they have caused.  I'll just offer rides occasionally, a meal, and an ear.

Comment by Joan Denoo on March 23, 2013 at 3:32pm

Great find for you and Halloween TFA. That implies chocolate to me! Lots of it, every size, shape and texture. 

Ian, there is a Beckett directs Beckett - Endgame on the internet. I wonder if it is the same as what you saw? "the master is more a prisoner than the servant" sounds familiar. I'm  thinking about you; hope all goes well for your family and that you find strength and encouragement from each other. 

A lot of feelings expressed here today.

I do hope Lula is OK Melinda and recovers quickly. She is so pretty and must be good company. You have an incredibly sensitive ear and your friend certainly needs one now. Is she a good critical thinker? She may be putting others before her own health as many of us tend to do. Having alcohol and drugs in loved ones is a terrible burdon, especially for one so young. I hope she can find a way to get out. 

Steph, I like the style, swagger, haughtiness of James Bond Kittez. 

 

Comment by booklover on March 23, 2013 at 3:25pm
Cute Carl! Thanks Ian and Patricia. :)
 

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