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Comment by booklover on April 27, 2013 at 7:48pm

I love the Red Hatters Joan!  Thanks Megan, yeah, it is a tough situation.  I want to get out of it without hurt feelings.  This is my plan.  She knows I have awful gastro issues, and that I see a specialist.  Even last night with 2 beers I had to take a handful of Tums.  I'm just going to say I can't drink anymore, which isn't totally the truth, but I drink so little ever anyway.  She is a big drinker, and she likes going out for drinks.  Maybe if I just sit there with a Diet Coke, she won't think I'm so much fun.  If there's really nothing to talk about anymore, maybe she won't ask me to go out.  Her life is SO hectic, and mine is SO not, that she is always the one to plan the get-togethers.  Not very straight-forward of me, but a plan that might cause less hurt feelings.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 27, 2013 at 6:54pm
Remember, there are 7,113,105,376 human beings on the planet and some of them will bring you enlightenment, ideas, perspective, and a sense of being part of all that is.
Comment by Megan S. M. on April 27, 2013 at 6:43pm

It's hard to be tolerant of something like religion, at least for me, that causes so much harm.

But my family is super religious so I tolerate their not-so-subtle/friendly religious promotions and talk because I value that relationship enough. When everyone around is religious, tolerance seems to be the only way to not be ostracized.

Booklover, that is a tough situation :/

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 27, 2013 at 6:38pm

Have a red hatter day, Melinda, it is a state of mind. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 27, 2013 at 6:36pm

Melinda, you are so patient. Do you like being patient? If you like it, keep doing it; if you don't, then claim a Red Hatter Age; it is a state of mind.

Comment by Patricia on April 27, 2013 at 5:59pm

The older I got, the less tolerant I became, & I just can't deal with religions without gagging. Therefore, I keep distant for my own well-being.

Comment by booklover on April 27, 2013 at 5:22pm
You guys are right, but I have "broken-up" with so many friends in "real-life" over religion. She considers us to be good friends. I feel mean or something that I can't handle friendships with religious people anymore, my tolerance level has gone WAY down. I just wish some friends like that would quietly let the friendships go...
Comment by Patricia on April 27, 2013 at 1:53pm

I'd stop if it was no longer an enjoyable evening. I ''out-grew'' a lot of this type of thing years ago, & I just stopped it. You have to live with you, so why bring on headaches you don't need because some ''friend'' wants to preach? Plenty of other things are conversation topics, & religion doesn't have to be it. You're paid up, so you owe nothing financially or otherwise. Drop out, I say, & she can deal with it or not....tough beans!

Comment by Jim DePaulo on April 27, 2013 at 12:43pm

Booklover,

You don't like drinking, you are an Atheist and your "friend" seems to be not only pushy but boring.

She went on and on about this catholic thing her daughter is going to and how great it is because her daughter will be immersed in Catholicism"

It all appears that you are wasting 4 evenings of your life.  The beers wouldn't give me a headache but she sure would.

Comment by booklover on April 27, 2013 at 9:31am

Hi Everyone!  I need your opinions.  I went out with a friend for drinks and appetizers last night.  We do this maybe 4 times a year.  This time, I came home and realized I had had no fun.  I had 2 beers, and it gave me a headache.  We just talked about the same stuff that we always do.  She went on and on about this catholic thing her daughter is going to and how great it is because her daughter will be immersed in catholicism (sp?), Ugh.  Her whole life revolves around catholics, because her kids go to catholic schools, etc.  Then she said something about one of the kickers who came out as gay hoping to be drafted into the NFL and that she hopes he is.  So of course that was good, but I said in the bible jesus didn't say anything against homosexuality, and she said yes he did, he said one man and one woman.  I said I don't think the bible said jesus said that, she disagreed, so we dropped it.  She also said she likes Obamacare, but I get the feeling she feels like she's being a good xtian by being tolerant.  I don't know. Then I payed for everything because the last two times we went out, she's payed the majority, plus she drove.  So I came home with a headache, broke, and slightly pissed.  She's a nice lady, etc.  But I'm just over doing that.  I don't enjoy going out 'drinking' (I only have 2 ever), but I don't know how to get out of it.  She's never available any other time except on a weekend night.  Should I just keep doing this a few times a year, and avoid religious talk?  She started it! lol.  She knows I'm an Atheist.  I think she 'tolerates' it.  She is SO brainwashed.  What to do?  Sorry for the long post!

 

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