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Comment by Joan Denoo on May 25, 2013 at 12:06am

Grace Lee Boggs. This is a woman for our time. She has a message that must be echoed down the streets and highways of our nation. 

Grace Lee Boggs in Los Angeles

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on May 24, 2013 at 11:55pm

Joan, that graph's a stunning display of how corporations have evaded responsibility in the US. And every Republican bill that pretends to lower taxes is another way to limit their contribution even further. As the article says

"Another thing we can get mad about is how the "corporate tax reform" that Cook and other corporate leaders are always banging on about will actually serve to make it so companies pay even less in taxes than they do now."

What? There's no quote button in comments now? *ack*

I loved the ducks learning to love water video. Thanks!

Take good care of yourself. *HUG*

Comment by Joan Denoo on May 24, 2013 at 10:42pm

If you don't know how to read a chart, find someone to teach you. If you don't have time, make time. 

If you have more important things to do, you are a fool. 

The 1 Chart That Reveals Just How Grossly Unfair The U.S. Tax Syste...

Comment by Joan Denoo on May 24, 2013 at 10:13pm

Former Whitworth college president, Edward Lindaman,  formerly director of programming for the Apollo space project, helped me organize "Toward a theory of family violence: its antecedents, treatment and prevention". He taught that when confronted with a problem for which old thinking and procedures fail to accomplish tasks, start thinking in the future tense.  He used an example of building a system that would get a man on the moon and return him safely to earth. They did not have the fuels, plastics, metals, navigation equipment or even the nuts and bolts and a lot of other things needed to accomplish their mission. They started with what they had, imagined and created what they needed for the future and then built the rockets and manned space capsules. They thought in the future tense.  

Gathering information for my masters' degree, I was totally overwhelmed by the amount of data I collected in support of my theses, in spite of the fact there were no books on the subject in city or county libraries or in any of the local colleges and universities. I did find journal articles buried in the stacks of Psych and Soc abstracts.  My interviews with physicians, psychiatrists, ministers, counselors, therapists, teachers, emergency room doctors and nurses and personnel, and police resulted in 18,000 3x5 cards of date.   

Overwhelmed by the amount of information gathered from primary sources and literature reviews, I asked Ed Lindaman for help and in 90 minutes we developed a framework, an outline, a non-biased way to present findings so that I could be free of the accusation of bias. My thesis completed and put into the college thesis library system, I received both praise and condemnation. 

Working on my doctoral dissertation at a Roman Catholic University, I wrote "A Splendid Heresy", about abuse, faith,  prayer, marriage and divorce, child rearing, contraception, abortion. With each written topic I received valuable and appreciated criticisms from priests and professors because they forced me to dig deeper and wider into my thinking of such things as family, religion, cultural norms, power/powerlessness, agency/helplessness, independent/dependent behaviors, consequences of attitudes, beliefs, customs, traditions, and values.

In the end I failed to earn a Ph.D. because I was "biased." 

Think carefully about the role of education: is it to indoctrinate or explore?

 

Guide to the Edward B. Lindaman Papers 
1965-1982

http://nwda-db.wsulibs.wsu.edu/ark:/80444/xv40359

 

Thinking in the Future Tense, Edward B. Lindaman.

http://www.amazon.com/Thinking-Future-Tense-Edward-Lindaman/dp/0805...

 

Comment by Joan Denoo on May 24, 2013 at 10:05pm

Tom, you are a delight!  For years I have been making noises trying to get people to hear what legions of people have been trying to say and for whatever reason, are not heard, or do not speak clearly enough, or speak to deaf ears. Just think of the tears and suffering of African black slaves who were not heard, even though they gave voice to their sorrow. 
It is well past time for people to stand together, speak up in a single voice and make claims to rights of humanity and access to justice. We have to have the courage, wisdom, and insight, and if we stand up, speak out, refuse to submit, our whole world will be better off. 

Hunger, disease, ignorance, poverty, powerlessness are crimes against humanity, and we must hold humanity responsible. Our nation is so far off track, even our bridges fall down into rivers as we bomb and blast people too poor to crawl out of caves to protect themselves. Where are our priorities. We should be working to make all people thrive. The people from Afghanistan, Pakistan, Indian, China, USA, Mexico ... everyone one has the right to thrive and become fully functional to their capacities. Just think, if the working people of all those countries could afford to buy goods and services and uplift their nations, how much better Earth will be. 

Comment by Tom Sarbeck on May 24, 2013 at 6:48pm

Joan, if in your sentence

"I most humbly disagree with those who say my kind of thinking puts us at “us vs. them” mentality,...."

you will replace "most humbly" with "most strongly",

you will make my day, week, month, year, and maybe decade.

I might even relocate briefly to Washington so I can vote for you for governor.

Comment by Joan Denoo on May 24, 2013 at 3:16pm

Ed just sent me this video of a group of ducks who had been penned up their whole lives. A rescue group brought them to a safe haven, made sure they were healthy, and then turned them out to the field and stream. The poor ducks looked afraid of water, and it took great patience to introduce them to their natural environment. My heart just sings. Ducks are made ducks to do duck things. Humans are humans made to do human things. The natural laws of healthy community provide the nourishment, compassion and love they need. Guilt, shame, fear, unfounded hope are no remedies. 

Hoarded Ducks See Water For The First Time.

Comment by Joan Denoo on May 24, 2013 at 3:11pm

Lillie, I know what you mean. We are created as participants in nature and nature has a way of teaching us how to be in community. When a bunch of nonsense rules interfere with nature, all kinds of abominations happen, i.e. priests and little boys, parents who allow their children to die untreated when simple remedies exist.  

Comment by Lillie on May 24, 2013 at 2:52pm

Thanks for these words of wisdom, Joan.  I like your angst word because that is exactly what I felt during any religious service I was ever in.

Comment by Joan Denoo on May 24, 2013 at 2:34pm

People who demand, teach, and preach dysfunctional attitudes, beliefs, customs, tractions and values are:


Hitler, Nazism, 

 

Pol Pot ,Communist peasant farming, Cambodian genocide 

 

King Leopold II of Belgium, founder and sole owner of  Congo Free State

 

Rev. Richard C. Halverson, Presbyterian Minister

Taught me the Passive Gospel, yield, pray, obey, submit, sacrifice myself, being a battered wife was living my life in imitation of the crucified Christ and of all women I was most blessed; Rejoice in my crucifixion

.

Rev. Richar Leon, Presbyterian Minister

in his final sermon, Leon told his flock that “Peter laid out three conversions necessary for a godly life: a conversion to Jesus Christ to save one from sin; to Christ's church to save one from the "tyranny of the self"; and to Christ's mission, to carry his message to the world.”

 

All these admonitions neglect the basic needs of human thriving. There is no sin from which to be saved, there is dysfunction and much of it is caused by the foolish teaching of religions. There is no tyranny of the self, there is the mind, body, and emotion of an individual that needs nourishment and it cannot happen if you think your body is your tyrant. It is your teacher. There is no message to carry to the world. The reality is love of self, self-respect through effort, living respectfully in community, and using your mind, body, and emotions to guide you to flourish and thrive.  You are your best teacher.

When it comes to quantum physics or mathematics or history or social studies or music or art, and etc, you may need a teacher to guide you.

 

Battering spouses and parents

They tell common stories and all based on dysfunctional behaviors. Learn to function in healthy community and you will flourish. Sometimes we have to divorce our families in order to get healthy, but the price is small compared to the benefit. Another issue that often happens, if an individual from a dysfunctional family learns how to live fully mentally and physically healthy, as a mature adult, family members sometimes come to learn life skills.

 

Joan M. Denoo, 2013-05-24

 

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