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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Betty Explains Religious Freedom (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Randall Smith May 27. 9 Replies

Well, considering all the RFRA bills popping up all over the United States, plus all the fun and games ISIS is bringing to the good folks in Syria and Iraq, Betty Bowers, the epitome of well-dressed christianity, has decided to clarify the true…Continue

Tags: persecution, ISIS, Religious Freedom, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 6. 82 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Mar 29. 3 Replies

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 24. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

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Comment by Grinning Cat on August 7, 2013 at 2:01am

Catching up here...

Felaine, I'm sorry to hear about Hairy Jerry's passing! As others have said, he clearly had a wonderful human who helped him keep going as long as he had some sort of quality of life.

Your memories of him will always be precious.

[Photo by Barbara / blmiers2 at flickr]

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 6, 2013 at 9:28pm

I have a lot of volunteer milkweed, Asclepius and Asclepias, in my garden and haven't seen any Monarchs. Lots of others. Maybe they will return; I surely hope so. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on August 6, 2013 at 7:50pm

After my doctor appointment I was running some errands and saw two butterflies today, which is why I was prompted to post a picture.  When I was a kid I remember butterflies everywhere during the summer.  Our back yard always had a vast array of different types.  I remember distinctly because I would catch them and study them and look them up in my butterfly guide book.  Then, for some reason, they seemed to completely disappear during the 1990's.  Only in the past five or so years have they started to reappear, but their numbers aren't as plentiful.  

I do know that the population of Monarch butterflies has sharply declined because of a lack of milkweed due to urban sprawl and certain farming pesticides. 

They're such beautiful creatures. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 6, 2013 at 7:19pm

booklover, I can identify with what you mean about changing from a "ditz" to a real person in your own right. My former husband used to come to visit every couple of years and stayed in my home. One time he asked me "what happened to that sweet young person I married?" I told him I grew up. And if felt so good. 

Ruth, it was in my master's degree program at Whitworth where I learned these communication skills. My three kids were in high school at the time, and they would attend some of our seminars and learned right along with me. Even though they were so young, a lot of the skills became incorporated into their life styles. They were all relatively young and weren't able to put those skills into good practice for a couple more years, but the seeds were planted in them and they evolved into skilled communicators. When Laura took the first courses about five years ago, I read some of her reference books and discovered the same authors as I had read. So, she not only has more training than I, now, and her whole family has since taken several courses, they value critical thinking, self-awareness, learn to like themselves and they added more tools to move on. Laura and Larry each have their own businesses, are entrepreneurial, and don't blame others for their successes and failures. I am so very proud of what they have done.

The Flying Atheist, glad your exam was routine. Love your photo of butterfly and flower. Pretty colors and textures, and natural. Perfect food for feelings. 

Patricia, lovely fantasy world. 

  

Comment by The Flying Atheist on August 6, 2013 at 5:19pm

Joan, thanks for your kind words.  My medical appointment was a routine checkup.  

The sky quickly cleared up this morning and today has turned out to be a nice, sunny day.  

  

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on August 6, 2013 at 1:38pm

What an amazing story of personal transformation through learning communication skills, Joan. It hardly sounds possible. I too am a big fan of communications skills, but took the route of graduate school courses. Your approach sure sounds like it works too.

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 6, 2013 at 11:52am

Chris Breman, I am so sorry t learn of your continuing hot weather. I would love to share our lovely cool breezes with you, especially at night. What do you do to find some relief? 

The Flying Atheist, hope your medical check up turns out well! Take really good care of yourself, you are too precious to waste. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 6, 2013 at 11:42am

Just a bit of information, my daughter married a man I couldn't stand. He was opinionated, know it all, arrogant, crude, rude, judgmental, and his behavior was simply outrageous. Laura put up with it a few years, getting more and more frustrated as she grew older. Then, one day, she laid it on the line, get some relationship and communication skill training or he was out of there. He did, and he evolved into the nicest, most compassionate, sweet heart I could want for a son-in-law. I adore him and so does Laura. Their two daughters think the world of him and give sincere praise for the changes he made in his life and in theirs. He chose the same kind of training I received at Whitworth under the presidency of Ed Lindaman, only his training was through Landmark. I took some of those courses and they are essentially the same as Lindaman's philosophy. My daughter was the first to take the courses, and that gave her the confidence to identify what she wanted in life and to know that she was not getting it. Then Larry took them, the two daughters, then one son-in-law, then the two oldest grandkids took the pre-teen and teenage courses. Laura's father was going to take it but died before he could. My son, Craig, and his wife have taken the courses and so have their two boys. When we all got together for five days this summer, it was amazing to watch the two families blend together, using problem solving, conflict resolution, and communication skills. 

The Landmark Forum

Some people call it a cult. Nonsense! it is a relationship, communication training course. It requires one to examine old attitudes, beliefs, customs, traditions and values and make a decision if these continue to hold true. It is an experiential kind of training, with exercises to learn at the cellular level. Recently, Larry returned from an advanced communication course and he paid attention to what each of us was saying. It felt so good, so nice, so affirming. We had honest conversations, didn't have to defend ourselves because of his arrogant self-righteousness, and we all benefited. 

I know of no other program that makes fundamental positive changes in an individual, a family, a business, an organization, as Landmark.

 

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 6, 2013 at 11:38am

Good morning everyone. A beautiful partly cloudy day, 67 degrees F at 8:48 AM. We had two days of very heavy rain that knocked down all the Monarda. The hummingbirds keep coming, even feeding almost next to the ground. Thankfully Siamese Cat hasn't been around to nibble on them. Goldfinches are back today and seems to like the feeders. One, a brilliant yellow, the other muted yellow. Male and female I suppose. No Tail Squirrel has reappeared, as well as Fat Tail, Skinny Tail and Notched Tail. I haven't seen Chickadees. Guess I will have to make a Chickadee Song playlist. Hummingbirds just started their daily dive bombing my head ... they never touch me, but come within a foot of my ears. Sound like dive bombers. 
Confession time, I picked the ugliest photos I could find. Not a very nice thing to do; I try my best to justify my looks at 77 y.o. 

sk8eycat, About the closest I come to such adventure stories is Kon Tiki. I enjoyed that half a century ago or more. 

booklover, I went snorkeling in the Carribean and loved it. It was the most sensual experience possible. Saw beautiful fish, turtles and other lovely things ... like coral.  OH! I remember those days of late  teens and early 20s. They brought home some real loosers and I discovered if I said anything negative, they became defensive. I had to learn to keep my mouth shut! DAMN I hate doing that! Long story short, they chose fine, beautiful, handsome, intelligent, fun and funny mates. I adore them all. And their kids are just tremendous! It turns out my three kids make good sense, even after all the dumb things they did growing up.  I was scared to death that they wouldn't turn out to be wise and compassionate. Everything that scared me turned out to be phantom fears. 

Comment by Plinius on August 6, 2013 at 8:52am

Good afternoon and take care FA! More pomegranate, less coffee!

It's a bit cooler here, wonderful!  Even the PC behaves itself, so I can get a lot of work done.

What a horrible date did your son pick, Melinda, just the type you never need.

And I've been old for some three decennia - my cats say so and they should know.

 

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