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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

This group is not intended to compete with other groups on topics they cover but to "fill in the cracks." Whenever a discussion dwells at length on a topic for which there's an existing group, we urge you to provide members a link to that group to continue along their tangent.

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Discussion Forum

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud on Sunday. 3 Replies

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 24. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

Richard Dawkins, Growing Up in the Universe

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 14. 2 Replies

Here is an oldie, the young Richard Dawkins teaching kids about the universe. I especially like the one demonstrating how the eye evolved. This should answer those who believe it was impossible to evolve an eye. Continue

Tags: universe, teaching, Dawkins, Richard

Seeing Things (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 25. 2 Replies

TheraminTrees doesn't release videos very often these days,  but when he does, they are positive GEMS.  Most recent of his works is the following, wherein he dismantles some of the common rebuttals atheist get from believers when we assert our…Continue

Tags: seeing things, YouTube, TheraminTrees

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 15. 4 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

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Comment by Joan Denoo on November 18, 2013 at 9:42pm

Steph, that cat hair would make a wonderful hat for someone going bald from chemo! If they were not allergic, that is.

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 18, 2013 at 9:41pm

Mindy, that is a bummer! Well, if that is your reality, let's look at some options.
Go to a xmas party, which you don't agree with in the first place, and say nothing.

Go to the party, carry on your normal conversation while avoiding any toxic topic. If someone begins a conversation you don't want to discuss with them, tell them you don't want to discuss that topic with them.

Go to the party, get smashed, and tell them all to fuck off. Deal with your husband when you get home, if you ever get home.

Discuss the dilemma with your husband and daughter and negotiate a solution with which you can all agree.

Go to the party, listen to all the banter, come home and get on line with AN and let it all out!

Oh Jeez, I've run out of options.

Let's go at it another way.
When you return home from the party, what do you want to leave behind, in yourself? How do you want to feel the next day?
Or, what do you want your daughter to learn from this experience, something that would make you feel good about yourself?

Comment by Steph S. on November 18, 2013 at 6:34pm

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 18, 2013 at 3:07pm

Mindy If you go to the Xmas party and run into your in-law that causes you so much grief, just look at her and see this face. Give a big smile, a hearty chuckle, turn on your heel and find someone who you do like and have a circus-good time. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 18, 2013 at 2:53pm

Carl! That carrot lov'n video tops them all. Yup! gardening has its funny moments. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 18, 2013 at 2:47pm

Mindy, what are your options?

Go to the party and speak your mind, even if it costs you your reputation of being a freethinker. (Hooray, you say it girl!) 

Go to the party and remain silent, even if it costs you having to wire your mouth shut with barbed wire. 

Do not go to the party, feel alone, lonely, miserable and hate your husband for having a good time without you, even if it costs you hurt feelings and you feel miserable. 

Do not go to the party, pick out something you very much want to do, even if it costs you from having a good time with those whom you can communicate.  Then go visit your favorite in-laws with your husband and have a jolly good time. 

Just a thought, there are now 7,125,158,800+ human beings on this planet and you have the right/responsibility to choose with whom you spend your time. Remember you only have ... maybe 100 years to live and then you become atoms. How do you want to spend your time? Then do it. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 18, 2013 at 2:30pm

I do understand why anyone leaves Facebook. My regret is that all of your fine writings do not get to an audience that hears what you all have to say. Yes, I get hate mail and sometimes phone calls. I get cold shoulders from family, neighbors and friends, and they are not going to read why and who are atheists and what they have to say.

They subscribe to religious stuff and send gobs of religious sob stories that makes one crumble into tears. The sob stories are chain letters and I very highly doubt that 99% are true. If they can believe made up stories from the Bronze Age, they surely will not care if modern fabrications get sent on their huge networks.

Anyway, I just block them, I tell them I am blocking and why, and then don't read any of their propaganda that does get through. Larry fixed it so that my blocked mail gets sent back to the sender. 

The really odd thing is when someone has a thorny problem, or troubled relationship, they seek out my thoughts. The neighbors who shun me all year come to my neighborhood parties and seem to have a good time. Their kids spend a huge bit of time in my garden with me, and the parents don't seem to object.  

Comment by The Flying Atheist on November 18, 2013 at 1:56pm

I stumbled across this video and just had to share it with all of you.  It's very cute!!

Carrot Hugs

Comment by The Flying Atheist on November 18, 2013 at 1:48pm

Good for you, Mindy.  I've never had a Facebook page so I don't know first hand what I've been missing, but from what I surmise, it seems like it's more trouble than it's worth.  Hearing stories throughout the years about cyber-bullying, privacy problems and the contemptuous environment has kept me away,  

Comment by The Flying Atheist on November 18, 2013 at 12:32pm

It was a rough ride for the first 20 minutes or so leaving Chicago but then it smoothed out with occasional bumps along the way.  Because the storms had moved east in the direction of our flight path, the captain had us remain seated the whole flight.  We weren't able to get up and do a service and I wasn't able to serve dinner to my first class passengers.  But they were happy just to get to their destination.  I've been in worse turbulence.  It doesn't frighten me, as long as I'm seated and buckled in.    

 

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