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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Seth Andrews - The Copycats: How Christianity Steals The Best Ideas

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Soren Sagan yesterday. 9 Replies

Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

Tags: steal, borrow, copycat, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Finding Your Roots

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Chris G on Tuesday. 9 Replies

I've been into genealogy for a long time. It's fun, especially with internet help, but increasingly frustrating. You see, I've hit "brick walls". And being a Smith doesn't make research any easier.Wouldn't you think I could find the death date and…Continue

Christmas: Behind the Curtain (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by sk8eycat Dec 12. 11 Replies

Well, it's that time of year again.  Time to gird our loins, put on our battle armor and join the (dah-dah DAAAAAH!) WAR AGAINST CHRISTMAS!!! [groan!] Yeah, most of us have heard that crap before, probably too many times, in fact, how atheists are…Continue

Tags: Christmas, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Secular and Reclaimed Winter Holiday Songs

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by sk8eycat Nov 26. 41 Replies

This is an appropriate day of the year for this subject...What are some of your favorite winter holiday songs?It would be especially good to share powerful new secular lyrics to tunes that have become associated with Christmas.…Continue

Tags: singing, lyrics, reclaimed, reclaiming, HumanLight

Aljam

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Grinning Cat Nov 24. 4 Replies

I'm not a news hound by any stretch, but I do like to stay informed about what's going on in the world. (I despise "local" news with all the reports of murders, robberies, fires, etc.)The national "evening" news shows really irritate me. I hate…Continue

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 22. 79 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

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Comment by Steph S. on November 22, 2013 at 4:58pm

How wonderful to hear about your son Mindy. Congrats. He is really going places. Always here for you whenever you'd like to share.

Comment by booklover on November 22, 2013 at 4:50pm
I truly appreciate all of your responses and replies! Thanks everyone! Felaine, I'm sorry you have to know about it first- hand! I wish I could give you a real hug as well! Thank you for sharing your story with me. Grinning Cat, Steph, Joan, Chris, you guys are great!
Well my son just walked in with great news for himself! He was hired a few months ago to work full -time at a business doing shipping and receiving. Great family-owned business, full-benefits. Anyway, he set- up something for his boss on the computer, then the engineering guys had him do some things with them. So tonight he got called in to his bosses office, and asked if he'd like to move into that department instead, and they'd pay for his computer classes at college at night! His 90- day " trial" isn't even up, and he's promoted into something that can be a career instead of just a job! He is SO excited! I am so happy for him!!!!! My daughter called and said she got to her friends okay, and she is very happy for her brother! Thanks for listening to more of my family- stories my friends! xoxo Mindy
Comment by sk8eycat on November 22, 2013 at 12:39pm

Many good quotes here: http://modernatheist.org/humanities/quotes/

Click on one, and you'll get the slide show.

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Mindy, I have tried to deal with clinical depression for more years than I can count...that's one of the reasons I sometimes  "disappear" from this group for days or weeks at a time. It comes and goes: some meds have worked for me, and some don't. I don't like to talk about it because of the reactions I've gotten from people I thought were my friends in the past..."you're too self-centered" is one of the mildest.

I have lost jobs because of it...I would reach a point where deciding to get out of bed in the morning was too difficult a decision to make. Paxil helped about 20+ years ago when I was obsessing about walking in front of a train (I stopped myself by remembering the trauma such an action causes train crews and EMTs...some of my uncles and cousins worked for the railroads, and I have a great affection for anyone who works the trains today.).

So.... I've been going through a lot of mental/emotional/physical pain for the last couple of months, and I empathize with you and your daughter completely.  I wish I could say something more helpful...I'm not on any meds now...haven't been for years...so my "brayne" is stuck.  But I just wanted you to know that I''ve "been there, done that," and I know what It feels like.

I really wish there was some way to send physical hugs over the net...research has proved that hugs do release beta endorphins into the brain, and provide some relief...temporarily.  Here's one for you:

*&gt;:D< big hug

Hugging a kitty helps, too. Srsly. Pumpkin spent last night purring on my shoulder; didn't help me get to sleep, but I felt comforted. I think they may be telepathic...or empathic.

Comment by Plinius on November 22, 2013 at 12:33pm

Try not to worry too much, Mindy, just be your usual loving patient self, that is all you can do. She'll find her strength. Hugs to you!

Comment by Steph S. on November 22, 2013 at 11:20am

Mindy sorry to hear about your daughter and her depression.

I hope she gets better,

HUGS to you and your family

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 22, 2013 at 11:00am

Mindy, I am really sorry about your daughter's depression. You do all the right things, and it just beyond your control. The only thing I can think of is to do as you have been, encouraging her, giving her emotional support as well as physical support. 
So, the next thing is for you and your husband to take really good care of yourselves so that you can be a strong rock upon which she can come for safety, security and stability. 

If you feel fear, insecure, unstable, she will sense it and not have the S3 she needs. 

I don't have chronic depression, however several of my friends do, and they sleep a lot. They take Rx that help greatly but not completely. Roxanne often seeks out a shoulder to lean on and it seems to help; not an easy condition to be helpful. 

Do you have relaxation and meditation tapes? They can help you stay calm and refreshed. Some teachings of Buddhism helps. Not so much for your daughter, but for you to stay serene. 

Comment by Grinning Cat on November 22, 2013 at 10:54am

Mindy, hugs to you and your daughter! I hope the weekend visit does her good!

Comment by booklover on November 22, 2013 at 9:18am

Hi Everyone.  My daughter is having a very hard time with depression.  I feel helpless.  I want to fix it for her, and I can't.  She's on her meds and sees her therapist Monday.  She never cries, and she was crying on my bed last night.  I just felt sick.  She is going to go and visit her best friend at her friends school today, and stay until Sunday.  I'm giving her my car to use (hers is too old), filled with gas, groceries for them, and my Mom told me to give her spending money from her.  Mental things are many times worse than medical ones, I'm sure you all know.  My son just goes about his business with his type 1 diabetes, and gets along fine.  My daughter is fine physically, but depression can be debilitating.  Don't mean to be a bummer!  I hope everyone has a good weekend, and I hope my daughter does too! <3 ~ Mindy

Comment by Steph S. on November 21, 2013 at 6:56pm

Good picture Patricia - going to save that.

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 21, 2013 at 5:39pm

I thought I had solved the problem of photos and pictures not coming through to my Comment Wall, but some of them I am able to retrieve by going back to my inbox and retrieving it. One example is 

(http://24.media.tumblr.com/bbb3f1c322257e5e25f23a74e9672196/tumblr_mq05frWEcy1sugd3io1_500.gif)

that Ruth sent. I am so glad I was able to retrieve it. 

 

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