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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

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The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud 15 hours ago. 3 Replies

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo on Tuesday. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

Richard Dawkins, Growing Up in the Universe

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 14. 2 Replies

Here is an oldie, the young Richard Dawkins teaching kids about the universe. I especially like the one demonstrating how the eye evolved. This should answer those who believe it was impossible to evolve an eye. Continue

Tags: universe, teaching, Dawkins, Richard

Seeing Things (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 25. 2 Replies

TheraminTrees doesn't release videos very often these days,  but when he does, they are positive GEMS.  Most recent of his works is the following, wherein he dismantles some of the common rebuttals atheist get from believers when we assert our…Continue

Tags: seeing things, YouTube, TheraminTrees

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 15. 4 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on January 31, 2014 at 4:22pm

sk8eycat, how horrible! It is being out of control that is so distressing to me! I want my life neat and tidy, with all the bells and whistles of the good life. Getting used to the new normal challenges us to use all our resources to rise above the messes our bodies create and get on with pure, unadulterated joy of living. 

I am sorry to learn of your morning episode and hope you feel healthy now. Nothing like doing a major clean up to get one's mind off the trials and tribulations of the world. 

Your are a super survivor turned thriver, sk8eycat. You turn life into laughter.

I would hate to be a pharmacist in this age, or a doctor, for that matter. It seems all the bright men went into finance and made fortunes - some lost them faster than they made them. The women go into medicine at a time of insurance turmoil; they not only have to fight health issues, they have to fight insurance companies as well.   

One has to be a Pollyanna to find the silver lining in the cloud out of all the turmoil, but it is worth the effort. Well, for me it is discovering my three children have their feet firmly planted on the ground and their heads are working as a wise adult would. My grandchildren seem to  be developing a strong sense of independence and a few are at the phase of knowing more about life than their parents or I do. They'll get over it. Life has a way of knocking cocky self-assurance into productive interdependence.  My great-grandchildren are at that full-of-wonder stage of discovering everything. 

So, all in all, life is worth hanging around and participating in. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 31, 2014 at 3:56pm

Patricia, our friends here at A/N have learned so much from you. Reading your experiences helps me to face the reality of being overwhelmed by a dreadful event and not being alone. Those who do not suffer the health issues offer most empathic support and willingly tolerate our tales of wo. They give comfort to those impacted, and gain insight into what helps and what doesn't. Don't pray for me is a biggie. 

I am sorry to know you have so many health problems and just hope better days lie ahead for you. In the meantime, your humor keeps it all in perspective. These health problems are real, deluding ourselves or denying the facts has no useful ends. We might as well face what is and get on with living a rich, fulfilling life in the ways each one finds to do that. 

Comment by Idaho Spud on January 31, 2014 at 2:55pm

Wow!  So many of you peeps have major health issues that I don't think I could put-up with, that I'm often embarrassed to mention my relatively minor ones.

Comment by Idaho Spud on January 31, 2014 at 2:26pm

Thanks Joan.  I do have a native talent or two, but I've not put them to use near as much as I would have liked to.  I never considered that communication was one of them, so I suspect you're being a little too kind. :)

Comment by sk8eycat on January 31, 2014 at 2:23pm

OMG, Joan!  I exploded this morning, but I have sort of been expecting it, and dreading it...so I was in my bedroom, which is closest to the bathroom door, and I made it all the way inside and almost sat down....  cleaning clothes and floor for the rest of the morning. 

My Doctor wants me off the Tylenol & Codeine #4 that I've been taking for the past year or two.  So I have been cutting back slowly for the past 2 weeks, and hit zero yesterday.  I know what coming off codeine can do because there have been similar events before when I've stopped taking it, but never this violent. 

OR.... You didn't send it down south with the little rainstorm we had last night, did you?  (First rain in 2 MONTHS!  Thank Whatever!)

I don't think weather systems travel that quickly, do they?

The other good news this week was that the pharmacy that I have dealt with for decades closed Monday because the pharmacist and 2 assistants had their licenses revoked...maybe forever...by the State Board.  This is guilt by contamination, IMO.  They filled a prescription for a 20-something patient who OD'd on whatever it was, and died.  I don't know if it was a deliberate or accidental OD, and I don't care.  Is a pharmacist supposed to be able to forecast the future?

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 31, 2014 at 2:05pm

Spud, how often do we hear, "You can't make a living doing THAT!" Whatever "that" is. Joseph Campbell put a lie to that statement. he said, "Follow your bliss!" People who are clever, creative, imaginative, visionary, can dream up the most creative ways to put their native skills to work. 

I hope you discovered your native talent and have been able to make it work for you. You have great insights and communicate them beautifully to us. Your talents exist and have value to a larger community. 

Your enthusiasm for gardening excites others! Does the time just fly by when you are tending to one task or another? 

A friend of mine in Colorado loves gardening so she went to the school and suggested making a garden with the children. The administrators took to the idea and helped her find financial support for the equipment. She had fun, so did the kids, and they had a harvest feast inviting family and friends to participate and celebrate.

Garden of eatin'

 

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 31, 2014 at 1:50pm

Spud, thank you for empathizing with me and sharing your story. Being a shy person didn't help you feel any better; I hope you can laugh now about your episode. 

This explosive experience is not unusual. During chemo I had them all the time. So, I stayed home and in fact, slep through most of it. I often had to get out of bed, clean myself up, wash the linens, floor and bathroom. It was just part of the protocol.

Yesterdays came totally out of the blue. I had no warning, no rumbles in my tummy or anything. Just  

No pain, no discomfort, no warning. Just BOOM!

Just part of the protocol of cancer treatment. It all goes into my memory file and one day I will laugh without turning red. I was able to laugh yesterday but felt so horribly out of control. 

Comment by Idaho Spud on January 31, 2014 at 12:23pm

Mindy, I don't care much for art, and have always thought it would be difficult to make a living wage unless one was extremely talented.  

However, I too think a person should be allowed to do what they enjoy.

Comment by Idaho Spud on January 31, 2014 at 12:21pm

Joan, I've not before heard that some either, but I like it.  I watched a few more videos with the song in them.  Looks like it's called the cup song or "when I'm gone".

Comment by Idaho Spud on January 31, 2014 at 12:14pm

Wow Joan.  Extreme embarrassment!  I imagine it was also frightening.  Did you ask your doctor about it?

I don't think I've ever told anyone about my most embarrassing happening, except maybe some of my family.  After your admission, I just may reveal what happened to me when I was about 11 years old.

I was an extremely shy introvert when young.  That's what caused the happening.  I was in school and had to go #2, but was too shy to ask the teacher if I could go to the rest room.  

When it got so urgent that I knew it would come out soon, I finally got the courage to ask, but it was too late.  As I stood up to go, out of my pants rolled this ball of fecal matter onto the floor.  I turned beet-red and hurried to the rest room.  

When I came back, it was cleaned-up.  I can't remember how embarrassed I felt at the time, and how much I avoided eye contact with the other students, but I'm sure I was greatly embarrassed for a long time.  

I still think of that once in a while and groan in embarrassment, even though I've not seen any of my classmates in 55 years.

 

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