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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Betty Explains Religious Freedom (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Randall Smith May 27. 9 Replies

Well, considering all the RFRA bills popping up all over the United States, plus all the fun and games ISIS is bringing to the good folks in Syria and Iraq, Betty Bowers, the epitome of well-dressed christianity, has decided to clarify the true…Continue

Tags: persecution, ISIS, Religious Freedom, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 6. 82 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Mar 29. 3 Replies

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 24. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

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Comment by Plinius on April 16, 2014 at 6:46am

Thanks for the video of the Dutch women, Carl, it's very nice!

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 15, 2014 at 11:47pm

Felaine, your English teach, Miss Esther Weinstock, was a treasure indeed. Some teachers just have a spark that brings young minds to life. You and I were blessed with having such teachers. 

I was hard on my students, whether the college classes, or the work I did in poverty projects. No one gains by not thinking and by accepting easy answers. Figuring out ways to get a lazy mind to do some work is a challenge, but the rewards great! 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 15, 2014 at 11:39pm

Carl, excellent question. It goes on the list.

"Is god doing a good job?" 

Googling this questions, this came up: 

Poll: 52 percent approve of God’s job performance

I would surely like to know who they polled? 

"God’s job performance has trouble measuring up to many Americans' expectations, according to a poll by Public Policy Polling, a Democratic firm based in North Carolina.

"Only 52 percent of Americans approve of God’s job performance, the survey found, though just 9 percent disapprove."

"'voters give God its best rating on creating the universe, 71-5,' the polling report said. 'They also approve of its handling of the animal kingdom 56-11, and even its handling of natural disasters 50-13.'"

I would guess a much higher number disapprove of god's performance, but then, what do I know about public trends? I am totally out of step with so many people on so many dimensions. 

I've been watching some debates, theists vs. atheists, and very few of the atheists cite biblical and historical events of murder, bashing babies heads against stone walls or stabbing them with a sword. I keep prompting the video to take on that tactic. The words are in the bible of god telling the Israelites how to murder, plunder and rape. 

I ran across these titles that gave me chills. How to defend one's religious faith; how one should think; cultural stories that shape lives: 

* Faith has its reasons: Integrative approaches to defending the christian faith, Kenneth Boa. 

*The christian mind: How should a christian think, Harry Blamires. 

*Hidden worldviews: Eight cultural stories that shape our lives, Steve Wilkens. 

Well, I think we have good reason to point out the reasons faith in delusions is unhealthy; that being told the shoulda-oughta-gotta thinking mentality is fascist; and we can develop a culture based on reason, cooperation, and non-exploitation of the Earth and it's resources. 

This is going to be fun! 

Comment by sk8eycat on April 15, 2014 at 11:35pm

The Science Fiction filksinging community makes up song parodies using almost anything.  Another is based on "that Old-Time religion"....

It was good enough for Dagon
That conservative old Pagan
Who sill votes for Ronald Reagan.
So it's good enough for me.

I was at a Worldcon in 1984 at the Anaheim Hilton (next to Disneyland), and some drunken surfers crashed a huge roomful of us who were singing that song at the time.  All they heard was the melody, and thought we were jeebus-freaks (they were having their own counter-convention at a hotel across the street from our hotel), and got really disruptive.  A bunch of guys dressed as Klingons booted them out.

I miss going to conventions, but can't afford hotel expenses anymore.  FFRF is having their fall convention in Los Angeles this year...Waaaahhhh!  I wanna GO!  But $170 a night is a bit much.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 15, 2014 at 11:06pm

Felaine, "My god's better 'cause she has eighteen tits" may be a reference to that wonderful myth of Artemis that goes back as far as the 8th century BCE. Her statue at Ephesus dates from the 1st century CE. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 15, 2014 at 11:03pm

Carl, a delightful film. they obviously enjoyed the adventure. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on April 15, 2014 at 10:52pm

Joan, I can't remember if I saw this recently on Atheist/Nexus or elsewhere, but someone posted a topic/blog with the question, "Is god doing a good job?"  I think that is an excellent question to ask the believer.  I'm sure that for every one, supposedly godly act they can think of that is good, we can respond with multiple examples of his uncaring incompetence.  At some point a rational person, even after honest worship and countless, heartfelt prayers, would have to concede that the bad and tragic events that god allows far outweigh the good.  This is the perfect opportunity to plant the seed that perhaps god is not there. 

Comment by sk8eycat on April 15, 2014 at 10:08pm

Joan, one of the favorite SF filksongs is "My God's Better than Your God," to the tune of the old Ken-L-Ration commercial, "My Dog's Better than Your dog." It has so many verses that it can be sung all night (the more bheers you've had, the more verses you can come up with.
Sample:
My god's better than your god,
My god's better than yours.
My god's better 'cause she has eighteen tits.
My god's better than yours.
and on and on.

Comment by sk8eycat on April 15, 2014 at 9:53pm

Joan, do you mean Miss Weinstock's love of Burns and shakespeare, or BHS's love of Miss Weinstock? 

She WAS a treasure; she made Shakespeare's characters come to life for us, taught us to write our own thoughts on myriad subjects, and she was tough.  She didn't baby us at all.

She graduate of Reed College in Portland, and started out in the 1920s as a gym teacher, but by the time I was in high school (Class of '57) she was THE senior English teacher, and everyone who was thinking about going to college wanted to be in her classes. 

The other Sr. English teacher had been a missionary in China before the revolution, and probably had a lot of interesting stories to tell, but she was also the adviser of the Campus Christians club, and even though I was still going to church at that time, I was beginning to have doubts, and didn't want to have anything to do with her or the club.

After a few months in Miss Weinstock's class, I had the feeling that she was not religious at all.  Comforting.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 15, 2014 at 9:52pm

Patricia, I realize you know where I live, and others in the string may not. It will be interesting to learn if others in the US can get the site. Thanks for the opportunity to try your link. 

One other thought about worship, I realize that worship means putting one's hands together, bowing one's head, and letting-go-letting-god. These all exist as devices to stop thinking, taking action, and making a difference. 

I once belonged to Fourth Presbyterian Church in Bethesda, MD. with Richard CHalverson, senior pastor, the chaplain of the United States Senate and leader in the International Prayer Breakfast Movement. A fellow member spent the two years I was there hearing her pray that her husband would find the lord's plan for his life and would bring a job for her out-of-work husband. She took great care in fulfilling her evangelical calling to bring sheep to the shepherd.  

That was one the situations that added to my doubts about god and religion having any answers at all in matters of problems and conflicts. I realize that religion and god exist as a delusion that stops thinking and acting. 

The great thing about atheism is I see no evidence that god intervenes in lives confronted with serious problems and conflicts. Just look at the many problems going on around the world that involve arguments of over whose god is the real, true god, how one is to act in order to meet moral codes set by dogma, and how religion is used to make claims that have no relevance to today's world, i.e. Israel and Palestine. One had better start thinking, exploring, experimenting, doubting and questioning if he or she does not want to be and remain a victim.

Think > Identify a preferred goal > Explore options > Take action > Evaluate outcomes > Repeat until the goal is reached or changed.

 

 

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