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Seeing Things (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on Thursday. 2 Replies

TheraminTrees doesn't release videos very often these days,  but when he does, they are positive GEMS.  Most recent of his works is the following, wherein he dismantles some of the common rebuttals atheist get from believers when we assert our…Continue

Tags: seeing things, YouTube, TheraminTrees

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 15. 4 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

You'll NEVER Guess Who Just Showed Up on Mr. Deity!!!

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Feb 14. 11 Replies

I don't believe this one either, but ... well, here it is: And would you believe - Mr. D made me laugh!  RD, that is!Continue

Tags: Richard Dawkins, Mr. Deity

Seth Andrews' Rebuttal to "10 Women Christian Men Shouldn't Marry" (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Feb 6. 20 Replies

It seems as though some numb-nuts New York pastor by the name of Stephen Kim has written two marriage advice pieces for christian men and women.  Not surprisingly, his suggestions come straight out of his never-fail magic book.  Seth Andrews of The…Continue

Tags: advice, marriage, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, Stephen Kim

Seth Andrews' New Book, "Sacred Cows" (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Patricia Feb 6. 7 Replies

For the last few podcasts, Seth Andrews has been alluding to a new literary effort he's been working on.  Well, the cat is out of the bag ... or perhaps I should say, the cow is out of the barn!  Seth's new opus is entitled: Sacred Cows: a…Continue

Tags: book, Sacred Cows, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Living in the Answers

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Patricia Jan 18. 13 Replies

I am weary of those who declare they understand all the answers to the creation of the universe and Earth. They claim they know the answers to the questions of life, meaning, death, and the afterlife. Those with all the answer speak with confidence,…Continue

Tags: confidence, education, government, family, afterlife

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Comment by Idaho Spud on February 23, 2014 at 11:17am

Realistically, I would like the ability to turn-off pain signals and have them come back automatically after a certain amount of time, or if they increased in intensity.

I think scientists will find a way to let us do that in the not too distant future.

Comment by Idaho Spud on February 23, 2014 at 11:14am

Joan, I sometime wish I had no pain signals, but I can see where it can cause the loss of limbs and even be life threatening.

I thought it was interesting when I learned years ago that part of the reason people with Leprosy loose limbs is because they can become too damaged before the person realizes it.

Sounds like it's time for me to get some seeds for gardening.

Comment by Ian Mason on February 23, 2014 at 11:01am

Thanks for your support. I'm glad to have you as friends.

Glad to hear that your nerves are coming back online, Joan and that the pain in your fingers has gone. Hope the feet wake up soon. Happy sowing and planting :-)

Comment by sk8eycat on February 23, 2014 at 10:57am

Ummmm....please remember that some unions don't do Jack Schidt except collect dues from the members.  When I was in Holiiday, our union was in cahoots with the brass, and we got NO help.  It would have been a joke except that our dues were taken out of our paychecks without our permission, and the contracts we signed were NOT with Holiday, but with AGVA...giving us their permission to skate with HOI for peanuts and occasional cheese sandwiches on Saturdays.

After I left Holiday, Bobby Kennedy (then JFK's Atty. General) investigated AGVA because their membership also included strippers and "B-Girls."  (American Guild of Variety Artists) 

Someone tried to start a union for skaters only, but it didn't work until competitive "amateur" skaters started winning money and huge endorsements in addition to those tacky gold-plated medals.  By then all the big professional shows were dead.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 23, 2014 at 12:01am

Ian, your working conditions sound very unfavorable. I can see why you would want to find a new position. If there were good management, so much would be better. I wish you could get the position, if that is what you want.

My neuropathy is from diabetes, exacerbated by cancer treatment. My chemo doctor has been keeping track of its development as it slowly moves up my legs and fingers.

There is no pain in my feet. That is the problem, it affects the nerve endings and the brain doesn't get a sensation transmission. There is no feeling. I could step on a nail and not feel it. Or put my hands or feet in boiling water and have no pain sensation.

When the dr. started me on this new medication she told me there would be a strange feeling that she couldn't describe. The pharmacist said the same thing. I took the first pill and could describe the feeling exactly: it was like every synaptic connection shot off sparks all over my body. They were not painful at all, but I sure didn't get any sleep the first night.

I started out by taking on pill a day for three days, then two for three days and then three for the rest of the Rx. After that, the dr. re-evaluated me and started me on upping the dosage by one a day for three day, two a day for three days and three a day for the rest of that Rx. We keep doing that until we can get feeling back into my feet.

My finger tips were hurting when I typed before I started the Rx, and that pain is completely gone.  

All the Rx's continue to keep me in a fatigue state but with spring coming on, I feel excited about doing something productive. I now have all my seed starting supplies, including seeds, ready to plant inside. I am ready!

Comment by Ian Mason on February 22, 2014 at 10:20pm

Not my photo, Felaine. It's something a niece posted on FB.

Joan, it's not unusual in elderly care for the worker to get the kicks. The people who have been complaining about me are the family of that particular resident and the boss won't/can't say that "the problem with your husband/father is that he's a huge pain in the arse". It's so much easier to drop the shit further down the hierarchy onto those at the bottom. I think the family might have problems themselves, perhaps guilt about having him put in a care unit and/or some anger that his illness has plagued their lives for 40 years so they also want a scapegoat.

To be honest, I'm tired of this line of work. I was over 13 years at one very good place but when that closed I was moved around and around until I ended where I am now, a place with a bad reputation,well justified as it turned out, even though the present boss is the 4th in the 2 years I've been there. In a way I was hoping that I would get the same offer as the last person to get sacked: leave now without speaking to colleagues and get paid for the next 5 months. I'm looking for other jobs but they're not out there. Ah well, something will turn up. Or not. It won't stop me from enjoying the greater part of my life.

Joan, is it "post-theraputic neuralgia" you're suffering from? It sounds really unpleasant. I hope the pain-management works.

Comment by sk8eycat on February 22, 2014 at 7:02pm

Speaking of Bunnies...Bunny Luv is having a CUPCAKE PARTY fundraiser next month...the ads are making me drool.

March 15th, Van Nuys, CA

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 22, 2014 at 6:52pm

When I was in Hyde Park in London I saw people painting for public sale, others stood on boxes and lectured the crowd on one subject or another, there were very many groups of Arab men dressed in white dresses that went to the ground and following them in compact order were Arab women in burquas and small children. I did not see one Arab man with one or more child.

In contrast there were many men and women walking together with their children. I talked to several of them, curious about who were the family gatherings. Many of them were Scandinavians.

In Oslo, Norway I visited Vigelandsparken in Frogner Park, with many sculptures by Gustav Vigeland. Many of his pieces were of men and boys. 

The attitude Scandinavian men hold toward women and children is very different than the Arab countries. 

Vigelandsparken in Frogner Park

Men as fathers, fathering, and fatherhood across and within culture...

Comment by sk8eycat on February 22, 2014 at 6:50pm

Typos, typos, typos!  Drat!

Comment by sk8eycat on February 22, 2014 at 6:49pm

Joan, I've been taking Neeurontin/gabapentin for about 13 years for diabetic neuropathy in my hands and feet...it works, and the only side affects I've had when I run out before my next FREE shipment reaches my doctor's office is electric schock-type pains in my feet and legs.  And numbness (more than usual) in my fingertips.

However, as of Feb 1st, Pfizer is no longer issuing Neurontin as part of their Connection to Care program, and I may have to switch to Lyrica; they are still issuing that one to low income patients.  Have to investigate it.

As I understand it, Neurontin was developed for nerve pain...particularly shingles (been there in the 1960s before there was any treatment...done that.  It's awful!  And I had a fairly mild case.) A friend who has Crohn's AND fibromyalgia was on Lyrica for several years; I need to get in touch with her, and ask questions.  I wish I could call her, but she is SO ill that I never know when is a "good" time.

E-kail, e-mail, e-mail....

 

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