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Secular and Reclaimed Winter Holiday Songs

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by sk8eycat on Wednesday. 41 Replies

This is an appropriate day of the year for this subject...What are some of your favorite winter holiday songs?It would be especially good to share powerful new secular lyrics to tunes that have become associated with Christmas.…Continue

Tags: singing, lyrics, reclaimed, reclaiming, HumanLight

Finding Your Roots

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Patricia on Wednesday. 4 Replies

I've been into genealogy for a long time. It's fun, especially with internet help, but increasingly frustrating. You see, I've hit "brick walls". And being a Smith doesn't make research any easier.Wouldn't you think I could find the death date and…Continue

Aljam

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Grinning Cat on Tuesday. 4 Replies

I'm not a news hound by any stretch, but I do like to stay informed about what's going on in the world. (I despise "local" news with all the reports of murders, robberies, fires, etc.)The national "evening" news shows really irritate me. I hate…Continue

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 22. 79 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

Seth Andrews - The Copycats: How Christianity Steals The Best Ideas

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 21. 5 Replies

Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

Tags: steal, borrow, copycat, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Attacks in Canada Oct. 22nd/14

Started by Patricia. Last reply by The Flying Atheist Nov 20. 4 Replies

This was devastating for us........…Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on July 31, 2014 at 1:59am

Mindy, I just read that your Molly died and I am so sorry that she had that terrible experience at the end. From your photos of her over the past months have shown a very much loved, well cared for, treasured part of the family. I am sorry for your loss. 

Comment by Plinius on July 31, 2014 at 12:39am

Thanks for your story, Brent! I'm glad you can share the burden with your sisters, but even so it's a hard job.

Comment by booklover on July 30, 2014 at 9:39pm
Thanks Brent. :)
And Wow! Cooking meth in her purse!!!!!!!! Bizarro!
Comment by Brent Feeney on July 30, 2014 at 8:54pm

Joan, I have a few stories from my brief Wally World experience I could share. Found out after I'd been hired at that particular Walmart that it had been evacuated about a year and a half before I hired on because someone was caught cooking meth in a soda bottle in her purse while she was in the store - a couple of weeks AFTER she had been arrested for the same thing at a gas station!

Comment by Brent Feeney on July 30, 2014 at 8:51pm

Thanks for the kind words everyone. It means a lot to me. I'm glad things worked out so I could get paid for doing this, even if it's part-time. Started out at $10.05/hr, with a raise coming in November, so it does help with the bills and puts a bit of money in my pocket to enjoy life.

I agree with the sentiments about your Molly, Mindy. I wish we were allowed to have that kind of choice on when we go if the time came too. I hope you're doing well too.

Comment by booklover on July 30, 2014 at 8:17pm
Ruth, Left Turn Only is a Facebook page, and that's how they had it on there. I don't know the author, but possibly it could be asked for on their page. Not sure.
Comment by booklover on July 30, 2014 at 5:31pm
The mobile vet just left. My Molly Mae is officially gone. It was so peaceful, and four of us were patting her, and talking sweetly to her as she went. I'm so glad she's not in pain anymore. I wish people could go like that at the end of their lives if they so choose.
Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on July 30, 2014 at 5:29pm

Thanks for the update, Brent. I'm glad you found at least a partial solution.

I hope your new pet at least partly helps with your grief, booklover and Randall.

Great LOL, booklover, and political quote too. Did you create that, or what? No author was credited.

Comment by booklover on July 30, 2014 at 3:43pm
Thank you Brent, Patricia, and Carl. Beautiful candle Patricia. :)
Brent, glad to hear things are going better for you, and you are making some money. I know a woman who gets paid for doing respite care for her son who lives with her. He is severely Autistic. Yes! You should post more often! Good to hear from you!
Comment by Joan Denoo on July 30, 2014 at 3:43pm

Brent Feeney, thank you for bringing us up to date your your situation and challenges you face. It is never easy for a son to take care of a mother. My son, Cary, took care of me the year I was in cancer treatment and he did a wonderful job. My other two children were relieved  because he did a fine job and was trustworthy. 

Sorry your Walmart experience turned out the way it did. Frankly, I am glad you are not working for them anymore ... I boycott them because of their labor policies. 

It seems 2013 was a big transition year for you with your father's passing and mother's stroke and then heart problems. Taking on the responsibility of caring for her is a big job. There are many strategies that can make it easier and I am glad you had some training.

I cared for my dad after he broke his hip and began to fail. He lived with me the last seven years of his life. A home nursing organization came in and gave me instructions as his needs changed, and I had help from visiting nurses for his baths.

That is a good idea to get financial help while caring for her. It just makes sense that public funds be used in such a way, so that you can receive assistance with expenses when you can't work and care for her.

I tried to work and care for dad, but gave that up after about a year. I was teaching classes at the time and he would call needing help, and his needs became more intense. At the end I was doing body lifts and he was too heavy for me. We both realized I could no longer do all the tasks and instead of going back into a nursing home, he chose to die. He was 86, he couldn't hear, his sight was failing, and nothing tasted good. He had no control over anything and was not a happy elder. He chose wisely. 

Your experiences will undoubtedly be different than mine, and we are here to listen when you need to vent, and perhaps we can offer some suggestions that will help. 

In the process, I hear your challenge and respect you for the efforts you make on your mother's behalf. Stay in touch. I look forward to walking this walk with you. 

 

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