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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on February 13, 2014 at 7:18pm

Stranger in a Strange Land was transformative for me, when I read it in high school. The world has changed a lot since then, so it's no likely as big a deal now.

Comment by Loren Miller on February 13, 2014 at 6:56am

Come on, Joan!  You ain't started it YET?  Here, lemme prime the pump just a bit:

Once upon a time there was a Martian named Valentine Michael Smith.

That's the first dozen words, and indeed, the first paragraph.  Where it goes from there ... well, trust me, you won't believe it until you read it.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 13, 2014 at 1:52am

Thank you Felaine, for your very kind words and your quote:

"Some of the best things in history have been accomplished by people who got 'tired of being pushed around.' "  by Robert A. Heinlein - in several different books.

You and Loren Miller like Robert A. Heinlein and I bought his "Stranger in a strange land" on Loren's recommendation and haven't read it yet. I must clear some time and read it. 

I am feeling overwhelmed with gratitude at this time. So lucky to have made it and now past the terrible part of cancer. Life is profoundly good to me. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 13, 2014 at 1:44am

That is the important thing, Chris, to be with and live with people who are partners on a team. No domination or submission, no violence and no aggression. Being happy with someone you respect is a wonderful thing. I look back on those early years of my life and of my children and I just shudder. Never, in my wildest dreams did I ever think I would be part of such a civilized family. The lesson is clear, don't put up with unacceptable behaviors. 

The odd part of this, my ten year old daughter put her hands on her hips, said to her dad, "You don't have a right to treat me this way!" She was the one that awakened me to the insanity of our lives. That very month we loaded the car and headed north from Texas to Washington state. Life has been better and healthier from that day forward. No money, our only food was from our garden, no job, no job skills, and we made it. I am, of all women, most grateful that we pulled it off. 

Comment by Plinius on February 13, 2014 at 12:48am

I love a family like yours, Joan! Teamspirit, love and cooperation are such wonderful things in a group! I've always been sorry that we never managed to enlarge our team, but the two of us make a very good team.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 12, 2014 at 11:46pm

Thank you for your all your kind words. I just feel so overwhelmed about how my family turned out when it was absolutely a fractured, suffering, unhappy, afraid, angry one only 39 years ago. We have built a real team and the granddaughters seem to be following the trends we put in place. 

Born into a violent family, married a violent man, and all that is gone now. Never to return. Seeing the younger generations all using good communication skills, problem solving and conflict resolution, with lots of debate, discussions, differences of opinions and they continue to use those wonderful tools. My heart is just about bursting with joy, and pride, and great hope that others can learn and develop such environments. 

They all have a gentle hand with the dogs, cats, horses, and wildlife. 

Peace! 

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 12, 2014 at 11:20pm

Chris, great photo. Just what makes the best sense. 

Comment by sk8eycat on February 12, 2014 at 9:54pm

Joan, I read this a couple of weeks ago and thought of you...but then you weren't around, at least not in this group, for a while so I didn't post it.  I need to get it off my saggy chest before I forget it, so here goes!

"Some of the best things in history  have been accomplished by people who got 'tired of being pushed around.' "  by Robert A. Heinlein - in several different books.

It may be your own personal history that you changed, but I have the feeling that you have helped many other people improve their lives, so here's to you! [Lifts teacup in salute, along with the biggest smile in my repertoire...(I used to know how to go out on the ice and really "sell it."  I can still do that!) ]

Love,

Elaine aka Felaine  

(The "F" is legit; my first name is Frances, but that was Mother's name, too, so I have been called "Elaine" since the day I was born.  Causes all kinds of fun when I have to show my Medicare card...  And now you all know my big "secret."  Tee-hee!)

Comment by booklover on February 12, 2014 at 7:56pm

Thanks Spud! :)

Comment by Idaho Spud on February 12, 2014 at 7:50pm

Glad you had a nice day Mindy.

I agree that Joan has made a wonderful family.

 

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