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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Life offers many opportunities for health and flourishing

Started by Joan Denoo 11 hours ago. 0 Replies 0 Likes

Life offers many opportunities for health and flourishing and our bodies have all kinds of red flags it sends up to tell us something is wrong. Pay attention to those flags, they can save your health and your life. I talked to a lady yesterday who…Continue

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Oklahoma Tornado

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Steph S. 12 hours ago. 3 Replies 1 Like

An amazing photo of the tornado's power,Continue

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What are your Memorial Day plans?

Started by Steph S. 12 hours ago. 0 Replies 0 Likes

I just wanted to make a fun discussion and see what all of you are doing on Memorial Day.Anyone attending a parade?Anyone honoring vets?Here is an event in Austin that looks very interesting to me.Austin, TXClose Assault 1944 is living history and…Continue

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Comment by Patricia on February 7, 2013 at 4:21pm: Oh yeah, I got told by neighborhood kids I couldn't play in their groups if I ALWAYS had to have that little kid with me all the time......not their fault, good ol' mummy should have been good ol' mummy!

Comment by Patricia on February 7, 2013 at 3:53pm: Thank you guys for listening & the input....it helps plenty!!!

Sk8eycat, good ol' mummy lives in Lancaster so she's closer to you than us.....hahahaha!!!! Look oouuuttt she may try to convert ya......hahaha!!!!

Comment by Idaho Spud on February 7, 2013 at 3:52pm: Joan, I think I can partially understand where you and others are coming from. Even though I've had a relatively easy life, I still don't find humor in violence, or mistreating others.

Comment by Patricia on February 7, 2013 at 3:49pm: Emotional damage doesn't ''heal'' despite help over the years, so I try to keep it behind me & live for today. It just keeps refreshing itself every time something happens with mother of the year, or I see something. I was doing fine so really didn't need an apology now after all this time as nothing will change anything anyway. That's why I just thanked her for it & made no mention of forgiveness. I have plenty of anger which was been expressed several times years ago & it did nothing but make a mess of ME, so it had to stop. I no longer let it run my life. They got married June 7th 1946, I was born over-due January 29th 1947, so it's not hard to figure things were a mistake from day one. She was devout moron, & father of the year wasn't, so there ya go.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 7, 2013 at 3:11pm: So much "old" pain that does not erase easily in our adult years. I wonder if those wounds ever heal? Mine seem to hang on like an octopus. I can usually keep a damper on them until I see a cartoon involving violence and my inner rage explodes like Mt. St. Helens.

Comment by Lillie on February 7, 2013 at 2:35pm: The kitty with a view might also be saying, "Wonder if there is a fish out there."

Comment by sk8eycat on February 7, 2013 at 2:16pm: Patricia & Melinda, I haven't commented on your recent posts about your parents/grandparents because I'm so gob-smacked I don't know what to say. Even when my father was in the depths of alcoholism, and I had thoughts of either killing him or myself, neither parent treated me like an invisible servant/slave. I can't even imagine what you went through...what Patricia is still going through.

Maybe nasty parents were the reason whoever wrote Exodus inserted the demand that we "honor" our parents...because otherwise some of us would have good reason to abandon them the way they abandoned us. (Why are there no commandments about loving your children, and treating them like human beings instead of property? Or if you are incapable of loving children, DON'T EFFING HAVE ANY!!!)

One of the many reasons I knew I should not have children is/was that I've always been self-centered (maybe I have a touch of Asperger's like my sister), and when I understood about dad's drinking I was terrified of finding myself legally bound to another alcoholic the way mother was. So I didn't allow myself to love anyone...except my cats. And later, when I got into part-time pet-sitting, I loved a lot of dogs, too. BIG ones that I could get my arms around.

Anyroad, I'm getting ready to go spend next week with Debonair Duncan...doing laundry and trying to decide what to pack. Such fun. I'll be around till some time Monday, and then I'll be off the net for the rest of next week.

In the meantime, I'm still trying to wrap my mind around Patricia's mother's behavior...I've never met anyone like that. Quite.

(One of the girls I roomed with when I was on the road came from an upper-middle class Southern family, but her mother carried on as if they were one step from bankruptcy. So my roomie was told that if she wanted to take skating lessons and buy skates, she had to get a job. At age 10. The only people who would hire kids that young were small-time farmers...the ones "god" created, according to Paul Harvey...field labor....picking strawberries, and other close-to-the ground fruit & veg. She still grinds her teeth when she sees a strawberry, and we're both 73 now.)

Felaine [shaking her head in amazement]

Comment by Patricia on February 7, 2013 at 1:21pm: Thanks Ruth. I was her only kid & after 9 miscarriages following the successful pregnancy with me, you'd think she'd have spent more time making me her ''cherished daughter''. They adopted my brother when I was 8, & promptly saddled me with him for almost all waking days, except when I was in school. I also had to be the ''housewife'' with the usual housework, making supper, dishes, handwashing diapers etc. I was 8/9 & on!!!!! Other than that I was mostly ignored unless I did something ''wrong'', & I was usually too cowardly to do much of anything rebellious. Oh well........