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Comment by Tony Carroll on February 6, 2013 at 4:59am -
Wow! What a view!
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Comment by Ian Mason on February 6, 2013 at 3:17am -
Patricia, martyrdom is such a cruel, manipulative defence. Glad to hear that you're not buying it. Stick with the people who really care.
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Comment by Joan Denoo on February 6, 2013 at 3:06am -
VIDEO: Puppy tries to leap onto treadmill
http://www.london24.com/entertainment/around-the-web/video_puppy_tr...
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Comment by Joan Denoo on February 6, 2013 at 2:03am
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Patricia, you are a wiser woman than I and I appreciate your journey. thankfully, you had a good husband and in-laws, friends and neighbors. It appears you have your feelings and needs met now. Good for you!
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Comment by Patricia on February 6, 2013 at 2:00am -
Doesn't her moronism make her life awwwwllllll better????
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Comment by Patricia on February 6, 2013 at 1:51am
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Over the years, I did express my feelings to mother because I was never one to be secretive....but she never ''got'' it!!! She just pulled the ''where did I go wrong'' martyr crap. So the hurt is back there.....not so much now.
As for not calling during my cancer treatment, I didn't feel hurt, it just re-inforced that I wasn't important, & I had finally gotten used to that. Then again she's so negative, she would have had me up to my shoulders in my grave already....& I wanted no part of that bs. I had my husband, my terrific in-laws, neighbors, friends, & great medics. I did just fine, so why I suddenly have to be contacted now is not really that welcome.
She will be 85 in March so I guess her crappy behavior is catching up, but truth to tell, I don't care now.
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Comment by Joan Denoo on February 6, 2013 at 1:05am
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Chris, I agree with your assessment. Especially, "Take comfort in honest things and honest people."
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Comment by Chris Breman on February 6, 2013 at 12:57am
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You're right Patricia, not to start a fight again and not to force yourself into something you aren't. Some things just cannot be patched. Take comfort in honest things and honest people.
My father sent me an invitation a short time before he died, for a happy family-show, to cover up that he had broken the family. I threw it away.
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Comment by Joan Denoo on February 6, 2013 at 12:02am
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Patricia, Happy belated birthday greetings ... I just now am opening my mail.
Your wounds run so deeply, and have such a long history, I can understand being confused by your mother's card and request for forgiveness. That is a lot to ask for. She undoubtedly is feeling her mortality, and her neglect of you as a loving, caring mother. When you needed her love and support and not have it hurts. I wish you could tell her how you feel especially when you needed her during cancer recovery. That won't change anything, but at least you will have had the chance to say, honestly, what you needed and missed from her. She might not be able to hear your words or recognize your feelings, but to be able to speak your truth, not to hurt her, but to let her know your thoughts may be healing for both of you. That is a judgment call you can make and either way makes sense to me.
There is much care, compassion, and just plain loveliness here on this site; this is a good place to renew and refresh.
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Comment by Patricia on February 5, 2013 at 11:13pm
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I am grateful to have you guys to belly-ache to.
I don't know yet what I'm feeling, so don't know what feels ''right'' yet either.
I know a close relationship will never happen & I do know I don't want that anyway. It was never close when we did get along.
Whatever comes along cannot involve anything about the past as I can't keep opening old wounds so it will have to be the here & now with a distant cool surface thing.
Mother never called even once to see how I was during my cancer treatments, so it shows just how important I am to her.
They weren't mean to me as such, just mostly cold & indifferent.
I can't help but notice the apology came after ''dear ol' father'' died, & when that happened, I had to hear it from my daughter, as mother couldn't call herself. Certainly shed no tears over it.
I thanked her for the apology, but said NOTHING about ''forgiving''.....why should I let her think all is hunky dory?
Oh well time will tell I guess.
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