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Christmas: Behind the Curtain (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by booklover 5 hours ago. 21 Replies

Well, it's that time of year again.  Time to gird our loins, put on our battle armor and join the (dah-dah DAAAAAH!) WAR AGAINST CHRISTMAS!!! [groan!] Yeah, most of us have heard that crap before, probably too many times, in fact, how atheists are…Continue

Tags: Christmas, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Seth Andrews - The Copycats: How Christianity Steals The Best Ideas

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller on Wednesday. 11 Replies

Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

Tags: steal, borrow, copycat, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Finding Your Roots

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Chris G Dec 15. 9 Replies

I've been into genealogy for a long time. It's fun, especially with internet help, but increasingly frustrating. You see, I've hit "brick walls". And being a Smith doesn't make research any easier.Wouldn't you think I could find the death date and…Continue

Secular and Reclaimed Winter Holiday Songs

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by sk8eycat Nov 26. 41 Replies

This is an appropriate day of the year for this subject...What are some of your favorite winter holiday songs?It would be especially good to share powerful new secular lyrics to tunes that have become associated with Christmas.…Continue

Tags: singing, lyrics, reclaimed, reclaiming, HumanLight

Aljam

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Grinning Cat Nov 24. 4 Replies

I'm not a news hound by any stretch, but I do like to stay informed about what's going on in the world. (I despise "local" news with all the reports of murders, robberies, fires, etc.)The national "evening" news shows really irritate me. I hate…Continue

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 22. 79 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

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Comment by sk8eycat on January 15, 2013 at 1:29am

Joan, I have believed for decades that a) girls should have free access to contraceptives (perferably the subcutaneous type) as soon as they reach menarche, AND b) both prospective parents should be given rigorous psychological/psychiatiric tests, and tests on general knowledge before the contraceptives are removed.  We need to know something about how to drive a car before being issued a drivers license...so....?  (Same thing goes for gun ownership.)

I used to enjoy playing with my friends' kids when they were infants, but as soon as they started walking and talking, I was outta there.  I felt awkward with them.

I don't know why I'm like this; my parents treated me with the respect (and love) due an adult from the earliest time I can remeber. There was a time they took me out to dinner with them...I think I was almost 4...and the waitress talked to me the way the cheezburger cats "talk;" "Duzz oo know what oo wants to eet?" I turned to mother and said in a shocked manner (and a rather loud voice), "She talks BABY talk!"  I remember that very clearly....

Dad was choking on his martini, trying not to LOL.

Life was good till Dad's drinking got out of control.

Steph, I love Super Lazy...not only is she/he adorable, she/he is ME. I'm still catching up on the sleep I missed last week.  Ditto for all the chores I let slide when I went into the Insomniac Crazies. Had some interesting migraine light shows, too.  I'm just glad it's over.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 15, 2013 at 12:19am

Steph, I think laughter, good, solid, honest laughter from pure joy is the best thing, at least for me. Learning how to laugh at a carton of broken eggs, or bunch of kids tracking in snow can be very funny. Now, tracking in mud is an entirely different story; the wrath of the Wicked Witch of the North prevents that from happening too many times. Life is too short to let some things upset us, and some good honest training of adults and children on responsible behavior makes life better for everyone. As the old saying goes, "Mom ain't happy, ain't nobody happy. That saves a lot of misery all around. 

If I didn't enjoy children, I would not have had them. Not everyone is healthy with all that chaos. It is far better that individuals decide for themselves whether to become a parent or not. Working at the boys' ranch, I saw far too many parents who hated their responsibilities and the kids failed to thrive. Perhaps there should not be a marriage license but a licence to have kids. 

Comment by Steph S. on January 14, 2013 at 10:12pm

Comment by Ian Mason on January 14, 2013 at 10:10pm

Felaine, you did what was right for you. There have been many who haven't because of social pressure and who have had unhappy lives because of it.

I've known depression and anxiety all my life. Treated them with alcohol, alcohol and meds and now the best combination, exercise and meds. It would be nice to be more social and have some friends though.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on January 14, 2013 at 6:54pm

Joan, I got page not found for that video when I tried to play it.

Comment by Napoleon Bonaparte on January 14, 2013 at 6:27pm
Comment by Joan Denoo on January 14, 2013 at 5:47pm
sk8eycat, you have no reason to be ashamed, you did what was best for you, and probably those pregnancies. There is nothing sacred about having a baby. I tried for seven years and couldn't carry a baby to term, even though I had five pregnancies in that time. Through a physician friend we found a young girl who was about three months pregnant and wanted to give her baby up for adoption. So we waited for her to deliver in September, 1963. However, in July of 1963 I discovered I was pregnant with twins. I asked my doctor if there were any medical contraindications to go ahead with the adoption and he said, "No Medical reason!" So, we brought him home when he was five days old and when he was five months and 13-days old our twins were born. I love parenting; I made some terrible mistakes, but I am so proud of all three and what they have made of their lives.
Comment by booklover on January 14, 2013 at 5:01pm

Comment by booklover on January 14, 2013 at 5:00pm

Joan, your Voice Of Reason video was just beautiful!  I wish I could have everyone I know watch it.

Napoleon, Don't I know it!  I am on meds for anxiety and panic attacks. I have been for 20 years, and I should have been even before that. Fortunately we've come a long way with acceptance of these things!

Felaine, you did what was best for you, and you knew what you could handle and what you could not.  That makes you very self-aware and smart!  I wanted kids, had 2 miscarriages before 6 weeks, and gave birth to 2 full-term.  When people said they were sorry I lost my 'baby', I thought, "what?".  It wasn't a baby yet.  I was only a couple of weeks.  I never for a minute mourned losing a 'baby.'  It was probably not even an embryo yet.  And the 2 I did have, and still have, I can't even begin to say how overwhelming it is to be a parent.  They are the best things that ever happened to me, but I will NEVER know a true moments peace for the rest of my life.  I love them so overwhelmingly I will worry until my last breath.  It is NOT for everyone.  You should never feel ashamed.

Comment by Napoleon Bonaparte on January 14, 2013 at 4:51pm

 

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