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Surreal, I haz it

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Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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Secular and Reclaimed Winter Holiday Songs

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner yesterday. 37 Replies

This is an appropriate day of the year for this subject...What are some of your favorite winter holiday songs?It would be especially good to share powerful new secular lyrics to tunes that have become associated with Christmas.…Continue

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Aljam

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Joan Denoo yesterday. 3 Replies

I'm not a news hound by any stretch, but I do like to stay informed about what's going on in the world. (I despise "local" news with all the reports of murders, robberies, fires, etc.)The national "evening" news shows really irritate me. I hate…Continue

Seth Andrews - The Copycats: How Christianity Steals The Best Ideas

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller on Friday. 5 Replies

Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

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Attacks in Canada Oct. 22nd/14

Started by Patricia. Last reply by The Flying Atheist on Thursday. 4 Replies

This was devastating for us........…Continue

Granddaughters

Started by Donald R Barbera. Last reply by Donald R Barbera Nov 15. 6 Replies

I've got three grandsons and I love them to death, but my youngest son and his wife had a baby girl in January and I haven't  right since. Granddaughter has me wrapped up like my grandsons never did. What is it about granddaughters? Her name is…Continue

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Comment by John Lynch on January 10, 2013 at 7:04am

Chris I to use exercise to help with depression. After some time my children and I are on good terms. I also do not think I was ever a good candidate for marriage. It would have been nice to have that knowledge before the act. Peace to all.

Comment by Plinius on January 10, 2013 at 5:06am

It's bad when things cannot be mended. I was the unwanted daughter of a sexist, hypocrit xtian, who ruined his wife & children's lives. You cannot reason with someone who thinks he's is always right, so I broke the contact and didn't go to his funeral.

Comment by Ian Mason on January 10, 2013 at 4:12am

Congratulations to the happily married. It's a real achievement.

As far as the drunk/bad-tempered/intoverted fathers go - that was me for far too many years. I haven't been able to regain my daughter's affection and probably never will. There was too much shit for too long. Have also recognised that marriage etc. is not the best thing for me. I'm too unstable and that only causes distress for both parties.

My addiction now is exercise. It burns off the excess cortisol (the "bad" stress hormone) and stabilises my moods to some extent. Chocolate is good too but I need to ration myself, otherwise I go wild.

Have a great day, all of you, wherever you are and whatever you're doing. Thanks for listening. Hugs from me.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 10, 2013 at 2:16am

Melinda, Congratulations on 25 years of marriage, 2 great kids and if I were closer I could bring you a bouquet of Witchhazel. It is in full bloom and the only thing in color just now. I love its fragrance. 

Comment by Lillie on January 9, 2013 at 8:48pm

Maybe the cannonball dive was some kind of yoga position.

Comment by booklover on January 9, 2013 at 7:22pm

I love the cannonball dive cat Steph! :)

Comment by Steph S. on January 9, 2013 at 5:13pm

Comment by Steph S. on January 9, 2013 at 5:12pm

I just read your story about your dad sk8eycat - thank you so much for sharing with us.

Cute doglol booklover - thank you for sharing your story with us.

Wow - so much to read today. I am getting caught up.

You aren't boring Melinda. You have a nice peaceful life. Sounds wonderful to me.

Sorry to hear about your drunk dad John. Appreciate your sharing.

Ashley thanks for sharing your story about your dad with us.

I don't drink alcohol myself.

Enjoying the conversation here.

Wonderful to see all the sharing.

Comment by booklover on January 9, 2013 at 4:40pm

Hi Ashley!  Glad you're joining in the conversation!  Actually I just found that dog pic on the internet, but I thought it was cute!  My dog is a Black Lab and she doesn't chase her tail.

I think my body-chemistry just isn't made for alcohol.  Not a bad thing! I spent my childhood trying to avoid my step-dad's temper, although he didn't drink, he just had a bad temper.  That's why when he and my Mom got divorced when I was 17, all I felt was relief.

I'm sorry about what you had to go through during your childhood.  I don't know of anyone having an idealistic childhood, but I sure as heck tried my best for my kids to have one.

Join in the conversation more often!~ Melinda

Comment by Ashley West on January 9, 2013 at 3:53pm

Hello, everyone. This is my first time commenting on here but once I saw this I just wanted to share something. My dad was an alcoholic before I was even born, and my childhood was spent trying to avoid his temper, or any other dangerous positions he decided to try and put me in. Thankfully my mom left him before he could do any serious damage to me. Like you, Melinda, I cannot tolerate alcohol very well myself these days. I don't know if its a physical reaction to the memory of my father or if I just really can't handle it but it always makes me sick. I know the feeling of growing up and starting to drink too just to try and cope with the other people around you that are doing it, but it just makes the situation worse. At least for me it does.

I am glad for those that have had the problem that have gotten themselves help. It's very hard to overcome, or so it seems with my family. 

By the way, Melinda, that is the cutest picture. My dog used to chase his tail all the time but I don't think he ever caught it. ;-)

 

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