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Seth Andrews - The Copycats: How Christianity Steals The Best Ideas

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Soren Sagan on Wednesday. 9 Replies

Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

Tags: steal, borrow, copycat, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Finding Your Roots

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Chris G on Tuesday. 9 Replies

I've been into genealogy for a long time. It's fun, especially with internet help, but increasingly frustrating. You see, I've hit "brick walls". And being a Smith doesn't make research any easier.Wouldn't you think I could find the death date and…Continue

Christmas: Behind the Curtain (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by sk8eycat Dec 12. 11 Replies

Well, it's that time of year again.  Time to gird our loins, put on our battle armor and join the (dah-dah DAAAAAH!) WAR AGAINST CHRISTMAS!!! [groan!] Yeah, most of us have heard that crap before, probably too many times, in fact, how atheists are…Continue

Tags: Christmas, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Secular and Reclaimed Winter Holiday Songs

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by sk8eycat Nov 26. 41 Replies

This is an appropriate day of the year for this subject...What are some of your favorite winter holiday songs?It would be especially good to share powerful new secular lyrics to tunes that have become associated with Christmas.…Continue

Tags: singing, lyrics, reclaimed, reclaiming, HumanLight

Aljam

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Grinning Cat Nov 24. 4 Replies

I'm not a news hound by any stretch, but I do like to stay informed about what's going on in the world. (I despise "local" news with all the reports of murders, robberies, fires, etc.)The national "evening" news shows really irritate me. I hate…Continue

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 22. 79 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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Comment by Lillie on January 9, 2013 at 8:48pm

Maybe the cannonball dive was some kind of yoga position.

Comment by booklover on January 9, 2013 at 7:22pm

I love the cannonball dive cat Steph! :)

Comment by Steph S. on January 9, 2013 at 5:13pm

Comment by Steph S. on January 9, 2013 at 5:12pm

I just read your story about your dad sk8eycat - thank you so much for sharing with us.

Cute doglol booklover - thank you for sharing your story with us.

Wow - so much to read today. I am getting caught up.

You aren't boring Melinda. You have a nice peaceful life. Sounds wonderful to me.

Sorry to hear about your drunk dad John. Appreciate your sharing.

Ashley thanks for sharing your story about your dad with us.

I don't drink alcohol myself.

Enjoying the conversation here.

Wonderful to see all the sharing.

Comment by booklover on January 9, 2013 at 4:40pm

Hi Ashley!  Glad you're joining in the conversation!  Actually I just found that dog pic on the internet, but I thought it was cute!  My dog is a Black Lab and she doesn't chase her tail.

I think my body-chemistry just isn't made for alcohol.  Not a bad thing! I spent my childhood trying to avoid my step-dad's temper, although he didn't drink, he just had a bad temper.  That's why when he and my Mom got divorced when I was 17, all I felt was relief.

I'm sorry about what you had to go through during your childhood.  I don't know of anyone having an idealistic childhood, but I sure as heck tried my best for my kids to have one.

Join in the conversation more often!~ Melinda

Comment by Ashley West on January 9, 2013 at 3:53pm

Hello, everyone. This is my first time commenting on here but once I saw this I just wanted to share something. My dad was an alcoholic before I was even born, and my childhood was spent trying to avoid his temper, or any other dangerous positions he decided to try and put me in. Thankfully my mom left him before he could do any serious damage to me. Like you, Melinda, I cannot tolerate alcohol very well myself these days. I don't know if its a physical reaction to the memory of my father or if I just really can't handle it but it always makes me sick. I know the feeling of growing up and starting to drink too just to try and cope with the other people around you that are doing it, but it just makes the situation worse. At least for me it does.

I am glad for those that have had the problem that have gotten themselves help. It's very hard to overcome, or so it seems with my family. 

By the way, Melinda, that is the cutest picture. My dog used to chase his tail all the time but I don't think he ever caught it. ;-)

Comment by John Lynch on January 9, 2013 at 11:13am

I know my children like me sober over being drunk. My wife put up with me for eleven years before he had enough. I am thankful she did or who knows what that would have led. My ex and I were getting along fairly well until she found out I was an atheist. She began sending me emails with religious messages. I sent her some information on the bible and it seems she did not care for facts. I have not heard from her in some time. I am quite sure my daughter is an atheist and my son is more an agnostic. I do not tell them what to believe or not to believe. 

Comment by booklover on January 9, 2013 at 10:58am

Sorry to hear that John.  I don't even tolerate alcohol very well.  At the most I can have 3 beers, and that will usually give me a big 'buzz', but sometimes it doesn't at all.  I have a bad stomach and can't drink hard-liquor, but when I did I could never have more than a couple.  I could never keep drinking either.  A few beers, then the feeling goes away and I can't drink another drop.  Weird.  A lot of drugs don't have any effect on me either.  I've been given lots of morphine after 2 different surgeries, and it did absolutely nothing.  The nurse said I should have been passed-out!  Oh well!  My Mom is not a good drinker.  I don't like to be around her when she drinks, which is not often, but after a couple she is 'sloppy.'  My husband could have 2 drinks or 5 but you can never tell he's had a drop.  He usually has a beer or 2 after work, or one mixed-drink and that's it.

I think my father had a drug-problem too.  My Mom isn't sure, but she thinks he was in jail for a while when we were kids, and that his parents hid it from her.  She just kind of heard things from other relatives and friends that made her suspect it.

His second wife had 2 kids, and they used to have to step over all the passed-out drunk people on the floor on their way to school because my father and their mother would have parties.  They quit speaking to him when she died from alcoholism.

I know it's a disease, and I think it's wonderful when people can help themselves.  I don't think my father wanted help.  He just wanted my grandparents to keep supporting him their whole lives.  I had a friend (she broke-up with me over my posting Atheist things on Facebook, lol) who once told me to never tell her husband that she felt she had a drinking problem, because he would say they should quit drinking and she didn't ever want to quit.  They are both alcoholics.  Her father died from alcohol too, so you'd think she'd want to try, but no.  Her son (my son's age~18) told my son MANY times over the years how much he resents his parents drinking.

Comment by John Lynch on January 9, 2013 at 9:59am

I see that some of us has a common link to drunk fathers. My problem is mine never left. Many times I wished he would never come back when he left fr work. I guess the bigger problem was three of his sons, me included, turned to alcohol. I finally sobered up in AA when I was still a believer. I cannot deny it gave me a place to go. I still go to a few meetings but have trouble listening when god speak is in abundance. Some of them you can get through without to much god. Of course I do not join in the prayer after the meeting. I stand aside or just leave.I am not sure I have grown up myself but I am responsible in everyday living. I have a tough time in social gatherings. I never had the problem when drinking. I at least thought I was the life of the party until the next day. 

Comment by booklover on January 9, 2013 at 7:19am

Thanks Chris! :)

 

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