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Seth Andrews - The Copycats: How Christianity Steals The Best Ideas

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Soren Sagan on Wednesday. 9 Replies

Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

Tags: steal, borrow, copycat, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Finding Your Roots

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Chris G on Tuesday. 9 Replies

I've been into genealogy for a long time. It's fun, especially with internet help, but increasingly frustrating. You see, I've hit "brick walls". And being a Smith doesn't make research any easier.Wouldn't you think I could find the death date and…Continue

Christmas: Behind the Curtain (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by sk8eycat Dec 12. 11 Replies

Well, it's that time of year again.  Time to gird our loins, put on our battle armor and join the (dah-dah DAAAAAH!) WAR AGAINST CHRISTMAS!!! [groan!] Yeah, most of us have heard that crap before, probably too many times, in fact, how atheists are…Continue

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Secular and Reclaimed Winter Holiday Songs

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by sk8eycat Nov 26. 41 Replies

This is an appropriate day of the year for this subject...What are some of your favorite winter holiday songs?It would be especially good to share powerful new secular lyrics to tunes that have become associated with Christmas.…Continue

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Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Grinning Cat Nov 24. 4 Replies

I'm not a news hound by any stretch, but I do like to stay informed about what's going on in the world. (I despise "local" news with all the reports of murders, robberies, fires, etc.)The national "evening" news shows really irritate me. I hate…Continue

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 22. 79 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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Comment by sk8eycat on January 9, 2013 at 12:16am

Well, I've been awake for 36+ hours now, and still don't feel sleepy...but I'm tired!  And not making much sense.  Just thought I'd check in and let y'all know I'm reading your posts, laughing at (and printing) all the silly animal pics, and I really do appreciate all your "welcome back" notes and stuff.

To Melinda...my biggest problem with my dad's drinking was that for the first 10 years of my life, he was my hero.  He was a very intelligent man, and he was interested in a lot of different things....boating, astronomy, parrots, cats, books.  On my 6th birthday he took me to the library, showed the clerk my birth certificate, and voila...I had my very own library card! 

I didn't notice that his drinking was out of control till I was 12 or 13, but mother said it started when I was in 5th grade.  Anyway, he just gradually became a stupid stumblebum...mostly only at home. I was ashamed to have my friends come to our house (so we gathered at their homes), and when I started dating in high school I NEVER ONCE introduced any of my boyfriends to him. Never even let them come to the door. I would wait outside for my dates to pick me up.  I didn't want anyone to see him almost passed out on the sofa or trying to be sociable, but slurring his words, obviously drunk.  (This was the 1950s...."Father Knows Best" time.)

Joining Holiday a few weeks after graduation was such a relief!  I didn't have to pretend anymore because we never played anywhere within 1,000 miles of SoCal. (We toured mostly in the midwest and the deep south, and ended the tours by playing Mexico City for a whole month! We loved THAT!)

I was on the road when there was one of those "confrontations" here, and he was dragged, kicking and screaming (well...not really, but reluctantly) to one of those drying-out hospitals.  It worked for him, but I think even today those places have only about a 50% success rate. If that.

But he was sober. So I came home and went to work for him....he had a small bookkeeping and tax preparation practice.  I was always rotten in arithmetic in school, but with a good old Addo-X, I found that balancing ledgers and reconciling bank statements could be fun.  I've always liked solving puzzles, and that's what it feels like to me, even now.

Years and years later, after he died, I finally figured out why he always refused to have anything to do with AA...I'm pretty sure he was a closeted atheist.  Mother, raised in the buybull belt, was the only one who talked about god and Jeebus and heaven and hell, and dragged me to Sunday school when I was little.

That's my story, and I'm sticking to it. 

 

Comment by Steph S. on January 8, 2013 at 6:09pm

I love that booklover!!

I am taking it for my collection.

You are right Melinda (booklover) you should not care what others think about you.

Congrats on your anniversary Patricia.

Comment by booklover on January 8, 2013 at 2:38pm

Here's a picture describing how we feel when others have a bad opinion of us. LOL

Comment by booklover on January 8, 2013 at 2:37pm

Thanks Patricia, realistic is a better word!  I'm 45 now and I'm so over caring what people think of me!  I can't believe how much I cared when I was younger.  That saying is SO true that youth is wasted on the young!

Grinning Cat, I feel like we're all getting to know each other better also!  Real friends!  The internet does have some very great uses!~ Melinda

Comment by Grinning Cat on January 8, 2013 at 2:11pm

Tony, I like the caterpillar/caterfly!

Felaine, Ruth, Melinda, I appreciate your stories, and feel like I too am getting to know you better.

When you have genuine caring and affection, compatibility in bed is a wonderful bonus!

... I'm lucky to have found a lot of much nicer guys. And smart enough to give back the engagement rings of the first two prospects, when their true nature showed through. Never regretted those decisions. My second husband has been the real keeper.

Ruth, that sounds like creating your own luck!

Comment by Joseph Corder on January 8, 2013 at 11:19am

Your welcome Flying Atheist!

Comment by The Flying Atheist on January 8, 2013 at 10:28am

Thanks for the John Lennon quote, Joseph.  I like it.  If there's one thing I'm good at, it's relaxing and wasting time.  I have a sneaky suspicion that I'm going to enjoy retirement when it happens. 

Sk8eycat, nice to have you back.  Always great to hear from you.  :)

Comment by sk8eycat on January 8, 2013 at 9:45am

Something weird: During the almost 2 weeks I was cat-sitting, I saw a lot of TV commercials for Angie's List, so I thought I'd check it out (you have to pay to join).  I looked at the long list of cities and towns in California that they have reviews of businesses for, and Burbank wasn't even there.  Bizarre!  They have listings for  some places up in Gold Rush country that are practically ghost towns, but not a city with a population of about 100,000, several major studios (and a lot of minor ones), medical centers, every business imaginable (except bordellos...maybe)...and....and...and.  I don't GET it. 

But I "saved" about $35 by looking before joining. 

Comment by Idaho Spud on January 8, 2013 at 9:38am

Love it Ian.  I sometimes feel like doing that to butt sniffers.

Comment by Joseph Corder on January 8, 2013 at 9:17am

If you enjoy waisting time, then it not time waisted (John Lennon).

 

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