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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Joan Denoo Apr 21. 81 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Mar 29. 3 Replies

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 24. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

Richard Dawkins, Growing Up in the Universe

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 14. 2 Replies

Here is an oldie, the young Richard Dawkins teaching kids about the universe. I especially like the one demonstrating how the eye evolved. This should answer those who believe it was impossible to evolve an eye. Continue

Tags: universe, teaching, Dawkins, Richard

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Comment by sk8eycat on September 8, 2012 at 1:16am

@Idaho Spud: About the 100 lb bag of manure...It was very much a physical sensation when I suddenly realized the whole book had to be fiction. 

I was trying to find the answers to personal problems (I'd been told to "take my troubles to Jesus"), and had been struggling for more than 10 years with my inability to believe as whole-heartedly as the other people in my church seemed to, so I read the whole book, from beginning to end.  By the time I got halfway through Revelation, I was thinking, "This guy is tripping on acid!"  (I had NO idea at the time that diseased rye and other "recreational drugs" were widely available in the whole Mediterranean for centuries. I read about that much later in Colleen McCullough's "Masters of Rome" series.)

Anyroad, I thought back over other "miracle" stories, Jonah and the whale, the flood, Jesus raising an already decomposed man from the dead...I looked at the book in my hand and said out loud, "This is CRAP!"  I was appalled at myself for an instant, but I did feel as if I'd shed a heavy burden I'd been dragging around for years (I was in my mid 20s at the time). 

I had always felt that there was something wrong with me, that my problems (alcoholic father that I loved, for one thing) were my fault because I didn't believe enough, or something ....

I have always been fascinated with science, even though I lack the education, but at the time I was going through all this, all sorts of amazing scientific discoveries were making headlines, and I ate them up like mad.  They proved beyond a doubt that Genesis was just plain silly, and Darwin was right...I'd been struggling to keep my mouth shut about that in Sunday school for years. (I never did have a problem knowing that our ancestors were related to apes...I thought it was exciting.)

I wanted to know why "god" didn't tell "his chosen people" the truth about their origins, or about the shape of our planet and solar system, etc..  Woulda saved a lot of trouble.

Once I realized that the buybull was nothing but myths and lies, I stopped worrying about it, and got on with my real life. (My Dad went into rehab and sobered up, too.)  And nobody EVER asked me why I wasn't going to church any more.

I'm babbling...sorry.  It just is a long story because it took me so many years to get my head straight, and that final "This is CRAP!" was a surprising bolt out of the blue.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on September 7, 2012 at 11:37pm

Be true to yourself first! Indeed.

Comment by Derek Bly on September 7, 2012 at 11:29pm

Ruth, thank you for your comment.

I agree socializing is an important part of being human. But I came to realize the only reason I was attending the UUF was because i like the people . . . even though I wasn't on the same page about spirituality. In a way, I was pretending I was simply to hang out with them. I've let them know I still want to stay in touch, but I need to be true to myself and that means not attending their services anymore.

Comment by Steph S. on September 7, 2012 at 11:26pm
Yeah Ruth - I'm glad you got out of an abusive relationship early - you were so smart to see the signs. No one should take abuse of any kind. It is good to socialize - I agree. So, I am always here it seems - on the Nexus with all of you. So glad to have you!
Comment by Joan Denoo on September 7, 2012 at 11:18pm

Tony, lovely, evocative words and image. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on September 7, 2012 at 11:18pm

Ruth, thank you for telling your story and comments about socializing. You were wise, young. 

Comment by Steph S. on September 7, 2012 at 11:17pm
I love the poem you wrote Tony! Beautiful!
Lovely photo too!
Comment by Tony Carroll on September 7, 2012 at 11:12pm

Getting ready to go to sleep. Have to get up and go to work tomorrow. A little something for all of yoy, my friends.

28 Days

     He gathers. For 28 days he gathers. Roses, orchids, lilys, carnations, any and all flowers he can find. For Selene. His Selene.

     For he knows she is lonely. Achingly, torturedly, excrutiatingly lonely. And only his gift, lovingly offered, holds the pain in check, renews the spirit, allowing her to wax and wane, shining in the night sky.  For 28 days.

    For tonight he will gather his gift, mount the Pegasus and ride. Ride her moonbeam hair to her cold mansion of reflected glory, and lay, at her feet as she slumbers, his gift of renewal.

     Then to return, to rest but for a moment, only to gather again. For 28 days. For Selene. His Selene.

 

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on September 7, 2012 at 11:11pm

Derek Bly, I don't see socializing as a crutch. We human beings need to socialize, it's not a bad thing. However, Atheists haven't created a  huge variety of concrete opportunities to socialize. Were a UU church near enough, I'd be tempted to try. But woo might drive me out. I experimented with UU for a year as a college senior, but I'm more discriminating now.

Good for you sk8eycat, for bailing on the engagement. I bailed on my first engagement when my fiance showed symptoms of being an abuser after several months. Never regretted that either.

Comment by Tony Carroll on September 7, 2012 at 10:05pm

Joan, as usual, anytime. Whatever I have is yours, repost away.

I'm with the mule. I LOVE parfait!! LOL. :)

 

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