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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 6. 82 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Mar 29. 3 Replies

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 24. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

Richard Dawkins, Growing Up in the Universe

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 14. 2 Replies

Here is an oldie, the young Richard Dawkins teaching kids about the universe. I especially like the one demonstrating how the eye evolved. This should answer those who believe it was impossible to evolve an eye. Continue

Tags: universe, teaching, Dawkins, Richard

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Comment by The Flying Atheist on May 30, 2012 at 2:19pm

@Sk8eycat.  Yes, me too.  I'm getting e-mail notices of postings here on A/N that are eight days old!!   This is not the first time either.  This problem seems to pop up every now and then.  It's frustrating. 

Comment by sk8eycat on May 30, 2012 at 12:37pm

booklover, I would LOVE to see your daughter win one of the FFRF scholarships!  Every single one that I've read over the years in Freethought Today has just blown me away!  I could never have written such intelligent essays when I was in high school; of course I was still breaking my butt trying to believe in Jeebus back then, so my brayne was only working at half-power at the time.

Ummmm...if I'm being too snoopy, just tell me to STFU, but you don't have Crohn's, do you?  I have had a couple of frieinds who had/have it, and it's a total mystery, as far as I know.  And miserable.  (One frieind died almost 20 years ago, but NOT of Crohn's...he was careless, and caught HIV/AIDS.  I still miss him dreadfully.)

Best wishes to you and your daughter!  Feel better, please!  If I owned a Thinking Cap, I would send it to her, but she probably doesn't need one.

Comment by Steph S. on May 30, 2012 at 9:21am
I get the Freethought Today paper I would love to see your daughter's essay there Booklover. That would be so cool!
How is everyone?
Comment by Natalie A Sera on May 29, 2012 at 9:51pm

I have a female friend who is distinctly polyandrous, and it's causing her a lot of heartache, because she does truly love her husband, but she's also in love with and wants sex with other men. More than one. It's a really rough place to be in. And you're right -- why should laws complicate what is really an individual or group decision? I have nothing against polyandry or polygamy if all involved consent and are old enough to do so. My friend's problem is that it's her husband who is unable to love or let her love more than one person.

Comment by sk8eycat on May 29, 2012 at 6:59pm

Why am I just now getting email notices from AN regarding posts made LAST WEEK?

Grrrrr!  Snarrrllll!

Comment by Steph S. on May 29, 2012 at 11:29am

This is the funniest picture!

I hope you all had a wonderful relaxing weekend!

Comment by Simone Rosa on May 28, 2012 at 2:20am

I was raised as an atheist Unitarian and got married in a Unitarian church by my (atheist) Unitarian minister.  There are lots of theists who get wrapped up in the pomp & circumstance (so to speak) of a wedding but I saw my church as a nice place to hold a ceremony where all my friends and family could attend and enjoy the after-party.

 

As for the purpose of the ceremony/license, I have been hoping that the debate on gay marriage might (finally) get rid of the benefits our employers, government and society associate with a marriage license so that we'll all have the right to visit whomever we choose in a hospital or list whomever we choose as a beneficiary to our insurance.  One of the reasons my ex-husband and I got married was all the legal hurdles and the fact that I had to pretend to wear a wedding band every time he wound up in the hospital (which was often).  We also pretended to be married when we bought our house and cars to avoid all the legal hoops associated with having two "unrelated persons" co-owning property.  It all would have worked well as a "commonlaw marriage" if the Feds hadn't gotten rid of that little provision of the tax and federal code.  Of course the existance of a marriage license also made it harder for us to part ways (not as hard as the 1 yr mandatory separation in our home state of Louisiana but Georgia's 30 days was still more than necessary).  It is my firm belief, even after having been married for a number of years, that the addition of a marriage license and/or ceremony adds nothing to the relationship and I am therefore even more devoutly opposed to the idea of marriage than I was before I got married!  I'd love to have a long-term, committed relationship again but I see no reason to eff it up with a marriage license.  My ex and I used to quote a Goldie & Burt movie by telling people not to screw up a perfectly good relationship by getting married; I wish we'd stuck to that ideal instead of giving in to the pressure to "make it official".

 

As for the "polyamorous" concept, there are many women (myself included) who are still stuck with the evolutionary burden of being emotionally attached to one person at a time.  Men are evolutionarily predisposed to "sow their seed far and wide"  in order to ensure the continuance of the species but women are not wired that way and most of women are happy to continue the practice of "one at a time" regardless of religious affiliation.

Comment by Plinius on May 28, 2012 at 1:34am

multipartner options, what a good idea! A pity my husband couldn't cope with that. We went by tram to townhall, were married, told our families later. A wonderful solution if you want to avoid a lot of trouble.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on May 27, 2012 at 7:35pm

Joe, as a fellow polyamorist I wish marriage contracts allowed multi-partner options. Someday, perhaps, if we evolve.

Comment by Chantal Wallace on May 27, 2012 at 7:15pm
Even though most wedding are conducted in religious places, you still have to obtain a marriage license. It's a contract. And there are many benefits to getting married. Y'all can file taxes together, residency rights if your spouse isn't a citizen, y'all can share employer benefits (i.e. Medical insurance), etc. You don't have to have the whole fancy wedding in a church to get these benefits either. You just need a judge to sign the license. :)
 

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