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Comment by sk8eycat on May 29, 2012 at 6:59pm

Why am I just now getting email notices from AN regarding posts made LAST WEEK?

Grrrrr!  Snarrrllll!

Comment by Steph S. on May 29, 2012 at 11:29am

This is the funniest picture!

I hope you all had a wonderful relaxing weekend!

Comment by Simone Rosa on May 28, 2012 at 2:20am

I was raised as an atheist Unitarian and got married in a Unitarian church by my (atheist) Unitarian minister.  There are lots of theists who get wrapped up in the pomp & circumstance (so to speak) of a wedding but I saw my church as a nice place to hold a ceremony where all my friends and family could attend and enjoy the after-party.

 

As for the purpose of the ceremony/license, I have been hoping that the debate on gay marriage might (finally) get rid of the benefits our employers, government and society associate with a marriage license so that we'll all have the right to visit whomever we choose in a hospital or list whomever we choose as a beneficiary to our insurance.  One of the reasons my ex-husband and I got married was all the legal hurdles and the fact that I had to pretend to wear a wedding band every time he wound up in the hospital (which was often).  We also pretended to be married when we bought our house and cars to avoid all the legal hoops associated with having two "unrelated persons" co-owning property.  It all would have worked well as a "commonlaw marriage" if the Feds hadn't gotten rid of that little provision of the tax and federal code.  Of course the existance of a marriage license also made it harder for us to part ways (not as hard as the 1 yr mandatory separation in our home state of Louisiana but Georgia's 30 days was still more than necessary).  It is my firm belief, even after having been married for a number of years, that the addition of a marriage license and/or ceremony adds nothing to the relationship and I am therefore even more devoutly opposed to the idea of marriage than I was before I got married!  I'd love to have a long-term, committed relationship again but I see no reason to eff it up with a marriage license.  My ex and I used to quote a Goldie & Burt movie by telling people not to screw up a perfectly good relationship by getting married; I wish we'd stuck to that ideal instead of giving in to the pressure to "make it official".

 

As for the "polyamorous" concept, there are many women (myself included) who are still stuck with the evolutionary burden of being emotionally attached to one person at a time.  Men are evolutionarily predisposed to "sow their seed far and wide"  in order to ensure the continuance of the species but women are not wired that way and most of women are happy to continue the practice of "one at a time" regardless of religious affiliation.

Comment by Plinius on May 28, 2012 at 1:34am

multipartner options, what a good idea! A pity my husband couldn't cope with that. We went by tram to townhall, were married, told our families later. A wonderful solution if you want to avoid a lot of trouble.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on May 27, 2012 at 7:35pm

Joe, as a fellow polyamorist I wish marriage contracts allowed multi-partner options. Someday, perhaps, if we evolve.

Comment by Chantal Wallace on May 27, 2012 at 7:15pm
Even though most wedding are conducted in religious places, you still have to obtain a marriage license. It's a contract. And there are many benefits to getting married. Y'all can file taxes together, residency rights if your spouse isn't a citizen, y'all can share employer benefits (i.e. Medical insurance), etc. You don't have to have the whole fancy wedding in a church to get these benefits either. You just need a judge to sign the license. :)
Comment by Joe Meyer on May 27, 2012 at 6:11pm

Something I have always wondered about is marriage in general, wasn't it a religious custom and idea? Being a life long Atheist, and someone who has lived polyamorous once I have never understood the concept, but maybe I am just the odd ball lol.

Comment by Sarah on May 27, 2012 at 1:42pm

Well, I survived the wedding mass (all 85 minutes of it). But not without the staff at the Catholic church messing with me. The reading was supposed to be on the podium for me, so I wouldn't have to bring anything up. They had shown me the notebook on Friday and given me an exact copy of what was in the notebook so I would be able to practice with it and know where the words were on the page so I could look down gracefully. But the reading in the notebook on Saturday evening was TOTALLY different. Different format, different verses. GAH!

Comment by Patricia on May 27, 2012 at 12:35pm

I was married in church for the simple fact I didn't know any different back then....even though everyone knew my religion days were long gone. I didn't know back then either that I was a full on atheist.....just considered myself non-religious & left it at that until I found some reading to show me what I was. After one or two items, I knew where I belonged, & have wished many times I had had this reading material decades ago!!!

Comment by booklover on May 27, 2012 at 9:49am

We were married by a Judge in my mom's friends condo.  I don't think my mother-in-law was too pleased. Tough.  Our wedding, not hers.  On a different note, it is supposed to be in the 90's here in Northern Illinois today and tomorrow.  Yuck! lol.

 

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