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Betty Explains Religious Freedom (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Randall Smith on Wednesday. 9 Replies

Well, considering all the RFRA bills popping up all over the United States, plus all the fun and games ISIS is bringing to the good folks in Syria and Iraq, Betty Bowers, the epitome of well-dressed christianity, has decided to clarify the true…Continue

Tags: persecution, ISIS, Religious Freedom, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 6. 82 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Mar 29. 3 Replies

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 24. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

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Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on May 4, 2012 at 11:58pm

The Neptune Society option is interesting. I just asked that my useable organs parts be donated, the rest used by a medical school, and what was left could be disposed of the cheapest way that's legal. Taking up a cemetery plot seems so not-green. The ocean is greener.

Comment by sk8eycat on May 4, 2012 at 11:26pm

I don't know if the Neptune Society is a national organization or not, but I joined and paid in full more than 10 years ago.  They take care of the cremation and then scatter the ashes at sea.  They give you wallet cards with instructions for EMTs and hospitals, and papers with more complete instructions to keep at home. 

I told my Jehovah's Witless sister that she could just flush my ashes down the toilet with the cat poop if she wanted to. I don't care.

I think my dad was a closeted atheist, and some years before he died he told Mother that he just wanted to be cremated and be tossed in the ocean with no services, but mother forgot to tell me until after I'd made the mistake of having his body sent to Forest Lawn because I thought he'd bought a plot there.  (I'd seen receipts and cancelled checks when I worked in his accounting office.  Turns out he sold the plot back to them, but I didn't know that, and by the time it was obvious that he was going to die, he'd had a massive stroke, and couldn't speak.) We had to go through a lot of phone calls and extra paperwork to have them do things the way he wanted, and it cost a lot more than the Neptune Society. 

Dad's sister and her husband were offended that we didn't even have a memorial service...my uncle was "a son of a preacher-man."  He always had to pray over his meals, no matter where he ate.

I did call Neptune when Mother died.  Almost 20 years ago!  Seems like yesterday.  She was a bit of a fundie, and got more so with age and illness, but she thought funerals were a waste of money, and god wouldn't care..

When our neighbors have lost a family member, I usually avoid the funeral and send a single white rose, or a white or pale pink phaleanopsis (SP?) orchid, in a bud vase to the house.

I also wear a MedicAlert bracelet (because I'm diabetic and allergic to morphine) that has "DNR" at the very top.  If/when I stop breathing, that's IT.

Comment by Steph S. on May 3, 2012 at 11:14am

Well Jessica you could state in your will the kind of funeral or non-funeral you wish. I just want cremation .. no ceremony or nothing.

Comment by Jessica on May 3, 2012 at 10:57am

Thank you everyone!  Unfortunately, there was not a lot of money left for her to buried so there will only be a graveside service.  I feel selfish in being happy over this development but I will not have to sit in a church and I am thankful.  

My Father in law was an Atheist adn my mother in law comes from a fundie family with preachers and all.  He told her after he got terminally ill that she could have whatever funeral she would like for him.  So, they had an all out Christian one.  I sat there ill at what had happened.  Ii know when you die that is it but I will be damned that someone throw me a christian funeral in my memory.  I'm just saying...

Since she passed I thought a lot about funerals and christianity.  Anybody else had a similar situation? 

Comment by Steph S. on May 2, 2012 at 11:55pm
You're the only Atheist in your family Jonathan? Same here with me.
Comment by Steph S. on May 2, 2012 at 11:53pm
Sorry to hear about your aunt Jessica. My thoughts are with you!
Comment by Jessica on May 2, 2012 at 6:34am

My Aunt Wanda died last night.  She was a tough woman who did not even let polio slow her down.  Her daughter died in a motorcycle accident at the age of 18.  She had been in the hospital several times this last year but she kept recovering.  However, she was 92 and it was just a matter of time.  She was also a fundie so I know the funeral will be at the church she went to, a baptist church.  Soooo, I am going to have to sit in that church and listen to jesus this, gawd that.  It makes me extremely uncomfortable and if it wasn't for my grandmother I probably would for go the funeral and just go to the funeral home.  I am dreading it bc I do not have a poker face.  Any time I have had to go to church funerals I always make faces (unintentionally) when the preachers say ridiculous things.  I needed some where to share this, I hate baptists churches and their bs.

Comment by sk8eycat on April 28, 2012 at 10:51pm

I got home about 2 hours ago (we stopped at a nice restaurant for dinner), and I'm still speechless.  Most of the songs were written by Sir elton John, but the number that blew me away was set to "Swan Lake."  I'm still breathless, too.

So many memories...

Comment by Jessica on April 28, 2012 at 2:50pm

Thank you, I am feeling better finally.  It was a nasty virus and I won!  My mother is agnostic but she does not like me telling people i'm an atheist.  She is 58 I am sure the whole communism time really affected her as well. However, she is not afraid to tell people she is agnostic, double-standard. I'm going to print that out and give it to her.  I've been working on helping her become an atheist so I send her links to the different atheist sites if I see something that might make her go "hmmm."

Comment by sk8eycat on April 28, 2012 at 1:23pm

Ask them, or whoever shows up next, if they believe in Santa Claus (or Zeus, or Oberon, or any fictional character you can think of), and when they say, "no," tell them they are a-Santa-ists.  They are theists, and you are an a-theist.  It's really a simple little word, with no sinister connotations.  They probably won't accept that, but maybe, just maybe, you'll give them something to think about later on.

Go to the FFRF web site, and look up their non-tracts; I think there's one about "Myths About Atheism," or something like that.  You can print out a copy or three, and hand it to the next buybull-pusher that annoys you.  And give a copy to your mother, too. 

My mother was a bit of a fundie (raised in Oklahoma), and was mildly upset when I told her Genesis was wrong about everything, but she also was too curious about the natual world to not read popular articles about geology, anthropology, archaeology, and other sciences.  She never gave up on god altogether, but I remember how she was glued to the TV with the rest of us when Neil Armstrong first stepped onto the surface of the Moon.  She couldn't help having a mind, and using it.

I miss her.

PS: I hope you're feeling better.

 

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