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An association between the amount of fruit and vegetables people ate and their happiness? Yes indeed. People who ate 7 portions of fruits and/or vegetables a day were the happiest.…Continue

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Comment by Patricia on April 7, 2012 at 12:03am

Thank you all so much. I'm glad I can come here to sound off. I'm also glad Ian, that your ending was better.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on April 6, 2012 at 11:30pm

I'd be very angry too, Patricia. Thanks for sharing your story.

Comment by Ian Mason on April 6, 2012 at 10:19pm

Condolences, Patricia. My mother had a similar experience with morphin after a cancer operation but luckily was awake enough to say "no" to a second dose after the shift change. What was it Einstein said about human stupidity being endless?

Comment by Patricia on April 6, 2012 at 9:40pm

Thank you Rhonda. Yes, I had the best of the best for in-laws. 

Comment by Mrs.RB on April 6, 2012 at 8:43pm

Sorry for the loss, Patricia.  Sounds like they were two exceptional people.

Comment by Patricia on April 6, 2012 at 7:37pm

Update.....

My Dad-In-Law was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer & given 2 weeks.....he lasted 15 days & died March 7th. This has been such a sad & shocking time for all of us.

 

My husband's mom;

A lively, active, happily married 88 year old with a few minor forgetful issues & some blood pressure problems, but mainly very healthy. She & dad travelled, regularly hosted dinner parties for family & friends, walked a lot, participated in everything they could find to do outside their home, did her own cooking/baking, visited casinos, read, still drove the car, went to her fitness club several times a week, etc., etc.

June 6th, mom went to hospital to have a simple surgery, & was supposed to be released the same day but as she's a drug sensitive person, they kept her overnight. June 7th, they administered a blood pressure med which reacted badly enough to crash her blood pressure. She flatlined twice, & was brought back twice with CPR, then put on life support & moved to ICU.

Dad & their sons, (including my husband, as we happened to be visiting there at the time because I was going to do the cooking/laundry etc., while mom recovered from the operation,) were called to a meeting with the doctor about 'pulling the plug' that same day! No way of course without giving this feisty woman a chance to fight back!

By June 10th/11th, mom was up, eating, drinking her beloved Tim Horton's coffee, & bossing everyone around in the hospital, which she has a way of doing without causing any friction. She was moved out of ICU, & we thought we'd have her home soon.

The night of June 12th, they gave her the SAME DAMN BP MED AGAIN, which flatlined her.....AGAIN! Because she wasn't in ICU, it took longer for the staff to get to her & bring her back with CPR, only this time, they brought her back with severe & completely irreversible brain & liver damage. All because the nurse saw there was no bp med ordered & called for the attending doctor to order some.....not bothering to read all the paperwork!

We were called to another doctor conference to explain things & got the 'it was a mistake & we're sorry to have put you all through this' routine. Well......that's not enough, since this was far more than a 'mistake'! A simple reading of mom's whole chart would have shown her reaction to that drug, but the nurse chose not to do that. It was a staff change so you'd think the new staff would be more diligent about reading everything about a 'new to them' patient.

Dad has had a few mini strokes & although he can still function reasonably well, he can't live alone, nor attend to daily living & paying bills etc., without assistance. He & the whole family are shattered over this needless destruction of a perfectly energetic woman! We are all devastated, & very very, angry.

Thanks for listening. Patricia            

Comment by booklover on April 6, 2012 at 5:00pm

That's a great picture Pat.  At Thanksgiving at my mother-in-laws last year, after they said grace, I said "Thanks Mary(My Mother-in-Laws name, not the 'virgin', lol) for earning the money for, shopping for, and preparing the food".  Everyone just kinda said "yeah".

Comment by sk8eycat on April 6, 2012 at 3:10pm

@Pat - YES!

I have some friends who "got religion" a few years after they were married, and he became a very successful minister (they hang out with people like Tim and Beverly LeHaye...gack!).  A few years ago, during a class reunion, a bunch of us went to the hamburger joint where we had always gone after football games and dates when we were teens, and The Rev. insisted we all hold hands while he thanked his imaginary friend for the burgers and fries...for a very long time. 

I was so embarrassed!  I just sat there and stared out the window till he got over himself, then I looked him in the eye and said, what about thanking the cooks and our waitress?  He never did give me a proper answer...just tried to insert "gawd" into everything he said. 

We ALL put substantial tips on the table as we left.

PS: I still hear from his wife sometimes...she's always thought I should have been a stand-up comic.  [shrugs] 

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on April 6, 2012 at 2:21pm

A funny story, Justalysn. You breached their ignorance, so you weren't trustworthy. LOL

Great illustration of Grinningcat's point, Pat. Thanks.

Comment by Pat on April 6, 2012 at 12:31pm

@ Grinning Cat - I like the idea of giving thanks to those who actually do the work.

 

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