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Darren, only if ballroom dancing is on the couch and includes coitus.
I have tattoos and you cant trust me at all either.
But you know, Cory was absolutely right. It is rather insulting to say "you're cute for an Asian."
Well, I don't know about you. But I won't live next door to a man with tattoos. I mean, you just can't trust those people.
I thought it was an interesting video. I agree that personal taste does not equal an 'ism. It's not a lot different from "I only like blondes" or "I only like hairy men" or "smooth men" or "I don't like men with tattoos". These tastes do not equal "I wont hire" or "I won't live next door to" or "I wont buy/sell from/to".
It's interesting to hear what people say about their experiences of discrimination, and what they call discrimination, and what they don't. I was reading online about ethnic food choices, and assumptions that people make, and thought, get over it, it's just foods. On the other hand, I feel 99% sure I experienced discrimination in the work place, over several years, but no one will say "I mistreat you because you are gay" or "I mistreat you because you are male" so I wind up wondering if I was just paranoid. But I don't think so.
I like watching videos on that web page, and wanted to share some of the diversity of experience and expression. I will probably post more. I would like to find comments about religious or non-theist aspects, but haven't found them yet.
Personally, I think he's very cute.
(Darren, my ex used to tell me about catching his grandparents in flagrante delicto on the couch. He thought it was funny. It gave him hope for a sexy old age :-)
Oh, and lets not forget about legs! I have a leg fetish! Love me a man with nice legs.
Dominic: but I don't have an actual rule. It depends on the person.
Dominic, I think that is a great way to put it. I have a tendancy (among many) to like tall, slender blonds. Yet I see many tall, slender blonds to whom I am not attracted in the slightest.
BTW, I never comment on anyone's race or appearance in a harmful way. I can't imagine being so rude. And then unless I'm driving and someone pisses me off. Then all bets are off.
Sure, there are many biggoted gay people, but the danger is that preference can be mistaken for some ism. I am heavy set and I know that there are many who are not going to be attracted to me, but I do fine in the sex department. It is hurtfull, not when somone is not attracted to you, but when people, gay or straight, feel that it is ok to comment on the appearance of someone else.
I think Cory is an attractive guy, but I am not usually attracted to asians or black men. I like whites and hispanics, but I'm also not generally attracted to people with red hair, but I don't have an actual rule. It depends on the person.
When any group experiences a lot of prejudice and/or discrimination, it is sometimes difficult to separate those experiences from preference. Years ago, a black man was trying to pick me up in a bar and I was very polite and told him that I was with friends. He stated that it was because he was black. Well it was, but not based on racism, it was based on the fact that I don't have a strong sexual response to black men.
It would never occur to me to judge his appearance or comment in a negative way about him, because of the color of his skin. But, I am amazed over the insensitivity and lack of manners which some people exhibited when dealing with anyone who does not fit the "normal" standard of beauty.
Being a 52 yr old "bear" type, I often feel as if I'm treated as a fetish because I'm not 20, blonde, smooth, and a gym rat. All I can say is that we older more experienced men know things that those twinks haven't learned yet. So there!
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