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Comment by dr kellie on November 21, 2010 at 9:23am
There is nothing more joyful than the kindness of strangers.
Comment by Daniel W on November 21, 2010 at 9:22am
bizarre beleif system of a gay christian at the Moody bible institute. mlive.com. Citing statistics that suggest 91 percent of non-Christians see churchgoers as anti-homosexual, Yuan said Christian schools must spark dialogue instead of fear and anxiety. Then says that his homosexuality need not consign him to singleness forever. “We need to come around in how we view relationships,” said Yuan, stating that marriage should be less about sex than about a man and woman loving each other. “You don’t have to be heterosexual to get married. My identity in Christ is No. 1.” also :“I did not leave homosexuality because it was so bad. I left homosexuality because I found something better, and that was Jesus.” I think the truth is he did not "leave homosexuality", he's still gay and admits it, he suppresses it. Bet he's an interesting date on Saturday night.....

The comments on the article, as usual, do not build confidence in the intelligence of humans. Some aren't bad.
Comment by Daniel W on November 20, 2010 at 6:35pm
On the other hand, you could be like the dog chasing the bus, the bus stops, and the dog thinks "now what do I do?"
Comment by A Former Member on November 20, 2010 at 6:13pm
Well, we're just a miserable lot, aren't we! : )

To be honest, I'm neither aggressive or needy. I never even get to that stage. I can't even find someone to talk to. Seriously, how can I come across as needy if I can't find someone to spend 5 minutes with me over a cup of coffee?

I get cruised every once in a while, but that does not interest me, really. Plus, I'm not generally interested in the men who cruise me anyhow.

I think it is ridiculous. I live in Dallas Fucking Texas. We have a huge gay population, and I can't find a single gay friend or partner. What the fuck is wrong with us today?
Comment by katchaya on November 20, 2010 at 6:01pm
I have been reading this thread but this is my first post. I too have sort of given up on finding someone. I live in a small city in Mass where there are very limited options in meeting people. I am not a bar person. I am enrolled in college at the moment but at 47 I am almost 30 years older than most of the people I meet there. There does not seem to be an active GSA (I know that at one time there was) and no Atheist org that I can find there either. The local skeptic meetup is in Boston, almost an hour away. I just wish it was easier to meet new people. I do have hobbies and volunteer for a few local organizations. But right now at my house it's just me, 3 dogs, 3 birds and a cat. LOL. My best female friends are all str8. I have alot of gay male friends but almost no lesbian ones.
For a very long period of my adult life I had an undiagnosed and untreated mental illness that I know kept me from having any successful long term relationships. The last LTR which was not that long was in 2001. Now that my illness is under control with medication, I feel like it's time to really work on finding someone. But I agree with what others have said, looking aggressively and being needy is going to get you no where. So I continue to plug along and hope that unexpectedly I will finally meet someone.
The Atheist aspect just makes it that much more difficult. I don't think i could really be with someone that was practicing a religion. I have a hard enough time being friends with some of them! But i think that the idea that someone that compliments you instead of being just like you is what is going to be successful in a relationship. So the odds are stacked against me but maybe one day it will happen. I'll let you all know if it does!
Comment by Marx on November 20, 2010 at 4:50pm
Hey - I got my photo/logo back. It disappeared so I loaded it, but it did not show up for my second message either, so I just added it again and now it seems to be working. Technology can be so challenging some times.
Comment by dr kellie on November 20, 2010 at 2:12pm
I would love to provide a woman's input, but I don't think I have much. At 41, I feel like I know less about relationships and love than I ever have. My long term gf died 2 years ago. She was an atheist and she was going to be the one I could stick it out with. I'm really not the marrying kind, as I love being single and flirting and picking up girls, but I can make it work with the right girl.

I have lived in my little Texas town for 19 years, and I know everyone, so I am the go-to lesbian for women who want to "experiment." I'm the cute little gay vet who isn't threatening, and I play that card constantly. I don't know when or if I will ever be seeking a relationship. My constant companion these days is my darling main fag, Tom. He is an English professor, and since my gf died, we have been joined at the un-hip. I'm taking him home with me for Thanksgiving, which means there will be 4 gays (and 4 atheists) at the table (two of my cousins are gay)!

I hope all of you who are seeking love find it. At this point in my life, I am running from it.
Comment by Daniel W on November 20, 2010 at 11:58am
Dominic said: "that one must find someone who compliments you, rather than looking for someone who completes you."

Where were you 20 years ago when I needed you? :-) Time to pack up the U-Haul and move to FLorida. Although that might confuse and alarm my partner. This is a perfect expression of what I should have known. Although, my hormones were in overdrive and I might not have listened.

Would love to have some input from women on this thread too. My impression is that the dynamic can be quite different, but that's a view as someone who isn't exposed much outside of my little suburban silo.
Comment by Marx on November 20, 2010 at 11:40am
Thanks for your comments, Dom. You have a lot of great insights and I certainly understand what you are saying. I have not been an atheist for very long and I was fortunate enough to already be in a loving relationship as my world view evolved. Had I been an atheist when I first met James I am not sure that we would have developed the relationship that we have today. It is certainly helpful in the beginning to have shared interests and a lot of common ground. It is much easier, once you love someone, to accept the directions in which they grow and evolve, even if you do not grow in the same way or at the same speed. Neither James nor I are the same people that we were when we met, but we have been fortunate to be able to share our journeys.
Comment by Richard Healy on November 20, 2010 at 11:37am
My last relationship was with a relatively inoffensive Quaker. Who could possibly quarrel with a Quaker, as Stephen Fry once asked rhetorically .... well...

I tend to get a bit raise my eyebrow sceptical at nonsense, so while Quackerism may be in some respects the least doctrinal and accepting of Christian sects (blessing gay marriages for example) it still irritated the hell out of me when he spoke of "discerning" being a way of knowing (this is being compelled to speak in one of the Quakers meeting of friends, which can pass by in total silence if no-one does not feel the urge to speak... however so it's just like normal conversation then only..magic.

They don't believe in a god - but they do believe the "divine light" is in all of us. I'm sorry but my interior is dark and unilluminated and not in any way divine.

Things hit a nadir when he began complainign about "aggressive atheists and cited an interview Rabbi Sacks had done with Colin Blackmore where it was clear we each thought the other guy lost.

I'm sorry but I struggling to deal with anyone who's perspective is so at variance with reality.
 

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