LGBTQI atheists, nontheists, and friends


LGBTQI atheists, nontheists, and friends

Nontheist lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and intersex people & friends.

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Comment by Sentient Biped on July 12, 2014 at 1:58pm

Actually, the LGBTQI...  collection comes out of many years of activism, debate, political correctness and incorrectness, and idealism.  If all of the pixels and bits and bytes and paper that went into the discussion, could be collected together and made into something, it would be very impressive.

wikipedia version of that history.

Back when the dinosaurs were lumbering across the Midwestern swamps - yet to be renamed "wetlands" - and I was a struggling gay young man, I joined gay rights groups whose purpose was to provide community, refuge, and debate issues of the day.  At the time, we referred to the issue as "gay", which we all thought was inclusive of anyone who wasn't "straight" in the supposed binary of sexuality.  Then, in this entirely subjective history, a few women joined the group, and it was changed to "Gay and Lesbian".  But that's not fair, so it was changed to "Lesbian and Gay".  Much time was spent then with complaints about how bad men are, and how gay men were no better than straight men.  These discussions managed to drive a lot of people away, and then there grew the realization that  oppression has always been there for many flavors of gender expression, so it was expanded to LGBT although some guys thought GLBT was more appropriate since they thought they existed first, not remembering Sappho.

Then there was the academic movement of the 90s and beyond, who felt that "Questioning" and "Queer" should be added, which alienated some of the veterans who experienced much persecution involving the word "queer" but which many of the younger, and older, members of the movement said, get over it you crusty old farts - of which I am proud to be, but agism isn't part of the paradigm.

I find it pretty appalling that intersex folks are often forgotten in all of this.  If anyone has been persecuted for their involuntary gender /sexual nonconformity, it's intersex people.  Often, mutilated shortly after birth, and then repeatedly for life.  Exactly which bathroom is an intersex person expected to use?

Oh well, enough of my rant.  With enough letters in an acronym, we can just call it "Anybody but Straight Homophobes", or "ASH".

I think all people should be able to choose how they label themselves, and others should respect that.  There may be limits to that, and the debate will never end.  Never.  Not ever.

Having much of my life been affected by persecution and discrimination, I don't care what labels people use.

Comment by James M. Martin on July 11, 2014 at 8:19am

@Jim G. I suspect the media made up the alphabet thing and that someone added the letter Q because they knew some of us do not identify completely with the other letters. Some of us initially disliked appropriation of the word "gay" (happy). I find myself increasingly quoting Emory, the most effeminate character in Mart Crowley's Boys in the Band who got some of the funniest lines. At one point, Emory says, "Show me a happy homosexual and I'll show you a corpse," which in the 60s was a fairly accurate statement. Originally, queer meant nothing more than "different." That's why I like it. Yes, it is an epithet in the mouths of homophobes, but that doesn't bother me. Look at the way African-Americans re-appropriated "nigger" in the 1960s and later. If I were African-American, I think I would like the N word, too. But I think I see the point made by those who want the word banned. I just do not like the obsessive attempts to be politically correct. Not sure what you mean by "the whole community thing."

Comment by Jim Greenamyer on July 11, 2014 at 4:42am
So, why do we use the alphabet soup to begin with? And what exactly is meant by "queer"? I guess I'm just getting tired of the whole "community" thing.
Comment by James M. Martin on July 10, 2014 at 6:00pm

Don't say "LGBT" when you "LGBT." It ought to be LGBTQ. Some of us don't like alphabet soup to begin with, and the four letter version is too confining.

Comment by Fallen Angel on July 10, 2014 at 5:55pm

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on July 9, 2014 at 10:21pm

Comment by The Flying Atheist on July 1, 2014 at 11:47pm

Hey, BJ.  Welcome, and hello to you as well.  Glad you could join us. 

Comment by Sentient Biped on July 1, 2014 at 2:31pm

Hi BJ.  I provided a welcome on your comments, but also welcome here.  How's life in TN?

Comment by James M. Martin on June 27, 2014 at 12:52pm
"i think so because majorities make stereotypes about them and look down on them, they might feel a little more pressured, yeah.." This is why the marriage equality movement is at the forefront of lgbtq liberation philosophy. I once objected to it as pandering 2 s8's, thinking of the old Bonzo Dog Doo-Dah Band lyric:
We are normal
And we want our freedom, our freedom
Freedom, freedom, freedom
We are normal
And we want our freedom
Comment by Fallen Angel on June 27, 2014 at 7:58am

@Silent Biped, i think that teenagers who are already feeling suicidal are the ones that try to get help, you know, to cure themselves, i never heard of a completely mentally and emotionally sound person going to get therapy, maybe some do but significantly lower than not, but, it could also be caused im assuming by the realisation that the treatment or "medication" isn't working and also a fear of disappointing the people who put them there in the first place, no doubt they are feeling a lot of social pressure and internal pressure, i think minorities tend to feel a higher social pressure, i think so because majorities make stereotypes about them and look down on them, they might feel a little more pressured, yeah...well, as always religion probably serves to make them feel worthless and sinful without God, it puts the burden on them to just "fix" things which aren't even broken, it gives you the burden of getting better and places God in the victims seat, he's the one that needs the attention and the care at your expense, ironic, anyways, this is just what i assume, also, being black and latinos were kind of shoved into the lower class by whites, though a number of them have made it out, the poverty cycle is a hard one to break, while once slaves to white masters they're now slaves to the religion that was forced upon them so violently in the past


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