I've always considered myself a bisexual woman. I've had sex with both men and women and enjoyed it. However, lately I've been questioning whether I can have a long-term relationship with men. I have only had one long term relationship with a man and that ended badly. I've only had one long term relationship with a woman but in the entire year she refused to have sex with me. :( I'm trying to decide if it's me or I just haven't dated enough. Any thoughts?
I don't think you shoul worry too much about labels, and I don't think you should look at orientation as a switch that it turned to one side or the other -- at least unless you know that that is right for you. I, for example, am completely gay and I know nothing will or can change that. Not that I'd want it to. But some people are much more free in their likes and compatibility, and they have relationships with both genders. So whatever you feel comfortable with, and whomever you end up liking, just go with it and don't worry about labels or catagories.
Chizu Sando, just let your mind and emotions decide for you. There is no reason to choose other than it is what feels good for you. I am 100% gay but I have wondered many times if I can have a long term relationship with anyone. Turns out I can, but it was a long time coming and has been very different from what I ever expected. Some people love someone without the sex, and some people love the sexual part but that's all, and some people an do both. I've been in all of those situations.
Maybe dating more would be a way to find out. For me, things have always happened when I least expect, and usually when I gave up. Then it falls right into my lap.
Thanks for the support! I know I shouldn't panic, I guess I just felt that if I didn't like guys anymore I was somehow betraying myself and the people that I'd been close to. As if I had been lying? I'm really hoping it was just this relationship. It's good to have a place like this were I can freely express myself.
Sexual attraction is only one part of a relationship. The ability to sustain long-term relationships isn't the definition of sexual orientation (at least not for most people). As far as whether your issue is lack of experience or not, I can't comment.