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I'm hearing a LOT of foolish allegations, Mr. Fischer - Where's Your EVIDENCE???

You wrote what, Bryan Fischer? Are you serious? Who do you believe does the raping of men and women? Homosexuals? 

"The problem with the military is all those fags keep raping the ladies." 

~ Bryan Fischer

Perhaps you want to keep your mouth closed because you reveal your ignorant and bigoted thinking. If your neighbors, constituents and religious communities don't rise up in disgust over your lack of understanding, I have further evidence that evil exists in your world. Your smile covers up your mean spirit, but does not block you words. If there is a god, may you feel his/her/its wrath.

The American Family Association, if you do not denounce this bigot, we have further evidence of your bigotry, as if we needed more evidence. When an individual or a group lacks wisdom or intelligence and rejects natural processes, he or she deserves rebuke and the institution deserve dissolution. It already breaks down from internal forces. 

"The American Family Association needs smarter bigots."

~ (h/t Karoli)

Believers claim we are immoral because we don't believe in God.  I consider myself a moral person; however, the sooner Mr. Fischer leaves the world of the living, the better off humanity will be.  Thus, if I were a praying person I would pray for his demise.  Since I am not a praying person, I will only look forward to the same result, though of course, since I believe the world is chaotic and all but meaningless, I suspect I could easily go before Fischer does.  Still, I have no problem saying I wouldn't mind seeing him die, and the sooner the better.

Understanding the Perpetrator

Sexual Assault Prevention and Awareness Center 

  • Sex offenders comprise an extremely heterogeneous population.
  • There is no typical profile of a rapist, but they share some common characteristics.
  • Sex offenders are overwhelmingly male, typically have access to consensual sex, and were not sexually or physically abused as children.
  • Men are more likely to commit sexual violence in communities where sexual violence goes unpunished.
  • Sex offenders are experts in rationalizing their behavior.
  • Cross-cultural studies of rape identify the following factors as contributors to sexual violence: sex-role socialization, rape myths, lack of sanctions for abuse, male peer group support, pornography, adversarial sexual beliefs, lack of empathy, and all-male membership groups such as fraternities and sports teams.
  • Alcohol abuse has been identified as a strong correlate of college rape.
  • In a study on male sexual coercion, 23% of college men admitted to getting a date drunk or stoned to engage in sexual intercourse.
  • Alcohol can be a disinhibitor and increase sexual impulsivity, as well as lower women’s detection of risk and impair their ability to resist assault.
  • Intercourse cannot be consensual when the woman is incapacitated due to intoxication.

Rape: Myths and Realities

"Every nine minutes around the clock a woman is raped in this country. The FBI estimates that only one in ten of these rapes are ever reported to the police. There are many reasons for the alarming disparity between the number of rapes that actually occur, those reported, and the number of convictions. The most important factor is the presence of widely held false beliefs (myths) about rape, the victim, and the rapist."

"Myth:“It can't happen to me.” Rape is an isolated, infrequent event that only happens to certain kinds of people: attractive, young women who are promiscuous or provocative.
Fact: Anyone can be sexually assaulted. Studies show that victims include infants to people in their nineties, people of color, lesbians/gays, people with disabilities, and people from every racial, ethnic, religious, economic and social background. According to a study published by the National Victim Center and the Center for Crime Victims Treatment and Research (1992), approximately 683,000 American women were forcibly raped in 1990. Averaged over time, this comes to 1.3 rapes each minute; 78 each hour; 1,871 each day; 56,916 each month; and 683,00 each year. When the number of female children and males assaulted during that same period are added, it is likely that well over twice that many Americans were sexually assaulted."

"Myth: Only women can be raped.
Fact: It is currently estimated by the FBI that one out of ten men are victims of adult sexual assault. Other researchers have found that between one out of four and one out of seven male children are sexually abused."

Myths and Facts about Male Rape

In the past ten years, reports of men being raped have been on the increase. As more male survivors come forward and speak of their experiences, and more articles are published in newspapers and journals, public recognition of male rape has begun to increase and more crisis centers have begun to offer services for male survivors.

Because of the way men are trained/socialized not to ask for help, expect themselves to be in control at all times, and be active in sexual encounters, male survivors are often reluctant to talk to anyone about their victimization, much less report it to the police. A man who openly acknowledges being raped is violating everything we are taught to expect men to be. 

The reluctance to report male report is reinforced by the scanty public awareness of the crimes and scarcity of services for male survivors. Emergency room doctors don’t question the source of injuries to male patients. Police don’t look for behavioral signs of sexual assault in men reporting muggings or robberies. This combination of personal and collective denial creates a circle of silence. Because male rape survivors aren’t finding the emotional resources to make their victimization known, people assume they don’t exist.

There is the mistaken belief that men and women have different needs after being assaulted. Although it is true that outreach programs specifically tailored to men are needed to reach male survivors, there is a common human response to rape. Shame, guilt, self-hatred, fear, problems with physical intimacy, and anger are common responses of both male and female survivors. All survivors need to know that they are not alone with their pain, that healing is possible, and that whatever the circumstances the rape was not their fault. Survivors need someone who will care enough to listen without judging them. As is the case with female survivors, there are many commonly held misconceptions about male rape and its survivors that add to the trauma survivors suffer and that encourage silence.

Myth: Men can defend themselves.

Fact: Men are often attacked by gangs, assaulted with weapons, and taken by surprise. Drugs and alcohol are sometimes used to incapacitate victims. Physical strength is not always sufficient protection when faced with what is experienced as a life-threatening situation.


Myth: Male rape is homosexual rape.

Fact: Rape is about power and control, not about sex. Male rape says nothing of the sexual orientation of either the survivor or the perpetrator. Perpetrators of male rape usually identify themselves as heterosexual in their consensual sexual activities.


Myth: Male rape only happens in prison.

Fact: Most male survivors were raped as children or as adults who were never incarcerated.

Outfits like the AFA like to run their mouths for the sake of those who can't be bothered to check facts or research these situations for themselves.  As with so many other things, they are preaching to the choir.  The problem is that they get heard outside the choir ... And They Get Called On Their Bullshit.

What needs to happen now is something like a practice that some Democratic candidates have used in elections past: when the opposition makes stupid statements like the above, CALL THEM ON IT IMMEDIATELY!!! Do that enough times and these jerks may learn that they can't get away with "The Big Lie" strategy ... and not even with little lies!

I agree Loren, "CALL THEM ON IT IMMEDIATELY!!!"

Loudly, clearly, specifically, concretely and demand valid and reliable data. 

Male Rape as an Act of Anti-Gay Violence

Unfortunately, incidents of anti-gay violence also include forcible rape, either oral or anal. Attackers frequently use verbal harassment and name-calling during such a sexual assault. Given the context of coercion, however, such technically homosexual acts seem to imply no homosexuality on the part of the offenders. The victim serves, both physically and symbolically, as a "vehicle for the sexual status needs of the offenders in the course of recreational violence" (Harry, 1992, p.115).

If You Are a Victim

Rape and sexual assault include any unwanted sexual acts. Even if you agree to have sex with someone, you have the right to say "no" at any time, and to say "no" to any sexual acts. If you are sexually assaulted or raped, it is never your fault -- you are not responsible for the actions of others.

Richie J. McMullen, author of Male Rape: Breaking the Silence on the Last Taboo, encourages seeking immediate medical attention whether or not the incident is reported to police. Even if you do not seem injured, it is important to get medical attention. Sometimes injuries that seem minor at first can get worse. Survivors can sometimes contract a sexually transmitted disease during the sexual assault, but not suffer immediate symptoms. Even if the symptoms of that disease take weeks or months to appear, it might be easily treated with an early diagnosis. (If you are concerned about HIV exposure, it is important to talk to a counselor about the possibility of exposure and the need for testing. For more information about HIV transmission and testing, contact the Centers for Disease Control National HIV/AIDS Hotline. Check the contact list at the end of this bulletin for the phone number and address information.)

Medical considerations making immediate medical attention imperative include: 

  • Rectal and anal tearing and abrasions which may require attention and put the you at risk for bacterial infections;
  • Potential HIV exposure; and
  • Exposure to other sexually transmitted diseases.

If the you plan to report the rape to the police, an immediate medical examination is necessary to collect potential evidence for the investigation and prosecution.

Some of the physical reactions a survivor may experience in response to the trauma of a sexual assault or rape include:

  • Loss of appetite;
  • Nausea and/or stomachaches;
  • Headaches;
  • Loss of memory and/or concentration; and/or
  • Changes in sleep patterns.

Some of the psychological and emotional reactions a sexual assault survivor may experience include: 

  • Denial and/or guilt;
  • Shame or humiliation;
  • Fear and a feeling of loss of control;
  • Loss of self-respect;
  • Flashbacks to the attack;
  • Anger and anxiety;
  • Retaliation fantasies (sometimes shocking the survivor with their graphic violence);
  • Nervous or compulsive behavior;
  • Depression and mood swings;
  • Withdrawal from relationships; and
  • Changes in sexual activity.

Survivors of rape, and often of attempted rape, usually manifest some elements of what has come to be called Rape-Related Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (RR-PTSD), a form of Posttraumatic Stress Disorder(PTSD) . Apart from a small number of therapists and counselors specializing in sexual assault cases, few psychotherapists are familiar with the symptoms and treatment of RR-PTSD. For this reason, a rape survivor is usually well-advised to consult with a rape crisis center or someone knowledgeable in this area rather than relying on general counseling resources. The same applies to those close to a rape victim, such as a partner, spouse or parent; these persons become secondary victims of the sexual assault and have special issues and concerns that they may need assistance in dealing with effectively.

Local rape crisis centers offer male sexual assault victims direct services or referrals for services, including: counseling, crisis services and support services. Victims may contact their local rape crisis center, no matter how long it has been since the rape occurred. Counselors on staff can either provide support, or help direct the victim to trained professionals who can provide support. Most rape programs are staffed by women; however, some programs have male and female counselors. If you prefer one or the other, make that preference known when you initially contact the program. Whether or not they have male staff on call, almost all rape crisis centers can make referrals to male counselors sensitive to the needs of male sexual assault survivors. In addition, many communities across the country have support groups for victims of anti-gay violence.

Counseling can help you cope with the physical and emotional reactions to the sexual assault or rape, as well as provide you with necessary information about medical and criminal justice system procedures. Seeking counseling is an important way to regain a sense of control over your life after surviving a sexual assault. Contact your local rape crisis program even if services are not expressly advertised for male rape survivors. The number can be found in your local phone book listed under "Community Services Numbers," "Emergency Assistance Numbers," "Survival Numbers" or "Rape."

Sexual assault and rape are serious crimes. As a sexual assault survivor, you have the right to report the crime to the police. This decision is oneonly you can make. But because authorities are not always sensitive to male sexual assault victims, it is important to have a friend or advocate go with you to report the crime for support and assistance.

References

Brochman, Sue. (July 30, 1991). "Silent Victims: Bringing Male Rape Out of the Closet." The Advocate, 582: 38 - 43.

Bureau of Justice Statistics. (1997). Criminal Victimization in the United States, 1994. Washington, DC: Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Department of Justice.

Bureau of Justice Statistics. (March 1985). The Crime of Rape. Washington, DC: Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Department of Justice.

Donaldson, Donald. (1990). "Rape of Males," in Dynes, Wayne, ed.Encyclopedia of Homosexuality. New York: Garland Publications.

Groth, A. Nicholas and Ann Wolbert Burgess. (1980). "Male Rape: Offenders and Victims." American Journal of Psychiatry, 137(7): 806 - 810.

Groth, A. Nicholas and B. A. Birnbaum. (1979). Men Who Rape: The Psychology of the Offender. New York: Plenum.

Harry, Joseph. (1992). "Conceptualizing Anti-Gay Violence," in Herek, Gregory and Kevin Berrill, eds. Hate Crimes: Confronting Violence Against Lesbians and Gay Men. Newbury Park, CA: Sage Publications.

Isley, Paul. (1991). "Adult Male Sexual Assault in the Community: A Literature Review and Group Treatment Model," in Burgess, Ann, ed. Rape and Sexual Assault III: A Research Handbook. New York: Garland Publishing, Inc.

Lipscomb, Gary H. et al. (1992). "Male Victims of Sexual Assault." Journal of the American Medical Association, 267(22): 3064 - 3066.

McMullen, Richie J. (1990). Male Rape: Breaking the Silence on the Last Taboo. London: GMP Publishers Ltd.

Mezey, Gillian and Michael King. (1989). "The Effects of Sexual Assault on Men: A Survey of 22 Victims." Psychological Medicine, 19(1): 205 - 209.

National Center for Victims of Crime. (1992). "Rape-Related Posttraumatic Stress Disorder," Get Help Series, Arlington, VA.

National Center for Victims of Crime. (1995). "Sexual Assault Legislation,"Get Help Series, Arlington, VA.

Porter, Eugene. (1986). Treating the Young Male Victim of Sexual Assault.Syracuse, NY: Safer Society Press.

Bibliography

Allers, Christopher et al. (1991). "HIV Vulnerability and the Adult Survivor of Childhood Sexual Abuse." Child Abuse and Neglect, 17: 291 - 298.

Baker, Timothy and Ann Burgess, Ellen Brickman and Robert Davis. (1990). "Rape Victims' Concerns About Possible Exposure to HIV Infection." Journal of Interpersonal Violence,
5(1): 49 - 60.

Bradway, Becky. (1993). Sexual Violence Facts and Statistics. Springfield, IL: Illinois Coalition Against Sexual Assault.

Burgess, Ann and Timothy Baker. (1992). "AIDS and Victims of Sexual Assault." Hospital and Community Psychiatry, 43(5): 447 - 448.

Comstock, Gary. (1991). Violence Against Lesbians and Gay Men. New York: Columbia University Press.

Fuller, A. Kenneth and Robert Bartucci. (1991). "HIV Transmission and Childhood Sexual Abuse." Journal of Sex Education & Therapy, 17(1).

Gostin, Lawrence et al. (1994). "HIV Testing, Counseling, and Prophylaxis After Sexual Assault." Journal of the American Medical Association,271(18): 1436 - 1444.

Jenny, Carole et al. (1990). "Sexually Transmitted Diseases in Victims of Rape." 
The New England Journal of Medicine, 322(11).

National Center for Victims of Crime. (1992). Looking Back, Moving Forward: A Program for Communities Responding ....Arlington, VA: National Center for Victims of Crime.

National Center for Victims of Crime and Crime Victims Research and Treatment Center. (1992). Rape in America: A Report to the Nation. Arlington, VA: National Center for Victims of Crime.\

For additional information, please contact:

Centers for Disease Control National HIV/AIDS Hotline
American Social Health Association
P.O. Box 13827
Research Triangle Park, NC 27709
(800) 342 - AIDS
(800) 344 - SIDA (Spanish)
(800) 243 - 7889 (TDD)

Provides information 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, about HIV/AIDS and will send free, written information, including legal services, counseling and therapies.

Men's Resource Center
12 Southeast 14th
Portland, OR 97214
(503) 235 - 3433

Men Stopping Rape
306 North Brooks Street
Madison, WI 53715
(608) 257 - 4444

National AIDS Clearinghouse
Centers for Disease Control

P.O. Box 6003
Rockville, MD 20849
(800) 458 - 5231
(800) 243 - 7012 (TDD)
Distributes a variety of educational materials to the public. Provides expert referrals.

National Coalition Against Sexual Assault
125 N. Enola Drive
Enola, PA 17025
(717) 728 - 9764

National Crime Victims Research & Treatment Center
Medical University of South Carolina
171 Ashley Avenue
Charleston, SC 29425
(843) 792 - 2945

National Gay & Lesbian Task Force
2320 17th Street, NW
Washington, DC 20009
(202) 332 - 6483

Your state Attorney General, county/city prosecutor, or county/city law enforcement:

Check in the Blue pages of your local phone book under the appropriate section heading of either "Local Governments," "County Governments," or "State Government."

All rights reserved.

Copyright © 1997 by the National Center for Victims of Crime.   This information may be freely distributed, provided that it is distributed free of charge, in its entirety and includes this copyright notice.

I have only begun to find resources on rape. From my personal experiences, I have never been raped but I have been assaulted. The first time was as a little girl by an adult male church member, . Second time as a college student, I was physically assaulted by a church deacon who I had to fight off with my fingernails. I have been to 32 nations of the world, travelled alone all over USA, and parts of Mexico and have never been so much as insulted or harmed. A Muslim in Turkey groped my breast, and I was in public place and screamed. Another Turk groped my crotch, and again in public.

As to homosexuals and rape, the only report I found so far was by the American Family Association and the report used no documentation, only opinion of a psychiatrist.

Using Anti-gay groups + homosexuals + rape, there are tons of information there.  Go for it!

Searches related to Anti-gay groups + homosexuals + rape,

Please forgive me James, for using up so much space to vent my disgust and attempt to get some information out that is valid and reliable. Next time, I promise, I will reply with a link and a short summary. 

Joan

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