If you have cancer.

If you had cancer.

If you know someone with cancer.

If you want to talk about cancer.

We won't pray.  We won't blame gods.  We won't give credit to gods.  

We face the diagnosis and know, it is what it is.  

To the extent that we can, we will define our own course.

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Cancer changes lives.

We have to deal with medical profession.

We have to deal with medications.

We have to deal with new discomfort and pain.

We have to create dignity, where there is indignity.

We have to deal with family members, friends, coworkers, and strangers, in a changed way.

We resolve to go forward with strength, resilience, purpose, pride, and integrity.

We define ourselves. Cancer does not define us.

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Comment by Joan Denoo on August 10, 2013 at 12:18pm
Mindy, let's hope the researchers continue their search for a complete cure. I can't imagine living that long with such a misery. You indeed have strong genes and courage!
Comment by booklover on August 10, 2013 at 11:11am

It was 4 years of extreme misery until they sent me to a specialist in Madison Joan.  No cure, but meds that make it about 85% better. I can live with that.

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 10, 2013 at 10:50am

Neuropathy of the Digestive System is new to me. It must have taken many experiments to find what works for you. That takes a lot of determination and persistence. Good for you! I hope there is a cure. 

Comment by booklover on August 10, 2013 at 10:12am

What a wonderful daughter and granddaughter you have Joan!  Such compassion.

While I am not comparing my medical condition to cancer whatsoever, I do have a chronic condition called Neuropathy of the Digestive System.  I can very much relate to the nausea and diarrhea.  Anti-nausea meds, which work in the brain, don't work for me at all.  The meds I am on work on receptors in the gut.  They do fairly well for me.  At least I have quality-of-life now, whereas 5 years ago, I didn't.

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 10, 2013 at 9:56am
March 19, 2013, my primary physician called to tell me my most recent breast exam and follow up revealed cancer. On Sept 4, I will have completed my 16 weeks of chemo, and on Sept 5, I start radiation with what they call a “simulation” in which they take measurements and figure out how to dodge my pacemaker, lungs and heart in order to “hit” the left breast cancer spot. That left side has caused problems with the pacemaker and heart. So far, so good. I expect to be finished with radiation five-days a week for six weeks on Oct 11.
Dr. Fairbanks, the radiologist, explained that although the cancer was found early, we started treatment immediately with surgery > chemo > radiation, because one is a very aggressive form of cancer, the other is just an ordinary cancer.

That will be seven months of living, eating, breathing, thinking, paying attention to my cancer.

The bad part of all this is the nausea, diarrhea, unknown and unfamiliar procedures.

The good part is I have experienced no pain caused by needles, knives, and awkward positions on strange pieces of equipment. No pain whatsoever!

My teams began to form at once, the family rallied in ways beyond my reasonable expectations even joining in a “shave Joan’s head party”, my medical team works together in a seamless flow of coordinated appointments and procedures, my neighbor team rallied and offers assistance, good wishes, and shared stories, my friends team rose to the occasion sharing their expertise in nursing, social services, mental health processes, and of course, my Atheist Nexus virtual team generously give encouragement, share histories, and funny thoughts.

In the Chemo Room, I’ve observed loved ones holding emesis basins as patients wretched, people just starting treatment with eyes revealing fear and anxiety, others finish treatment and they get a big group cheer as we send them on their ways, and I observe people who are alone, look lonely and afraid. My daughter and granddaughters reach out to them in the most loving, compassionate ways to bring them beverages or snacks or blankets and encouragement.

Life offers many opportunities to confront challenges with courage, intelligence, and determination. I expect to overcome this cancer challenge. I still have the fighter characteristic that seems to be so necessary for making life healthy, happy, peaceful, even as the warrior in me remains.
Joan Denoo, 2013-08-10
Comment by Patricia on August 9, 2013 at 11:03pm

I never initiate the religion subject myself, but after diagnosis, my dr. asked if I was a religious person & I burst out laughing & said religion is a man made farce meant to get money & control of people's lives. It just went on from there & we both tore strips off all the nonsense & had lots of laughs doing it.

When I was on the operating table for the mastectomy, my daughter was also on an operating table in another city, having baby #5 by caesarian, so we had to wait until evening to find out how each other was. She had her 4th girl, & I instantly lost 10 lbs. A date we'll not forget anytime soon!

I have plenty of digestive/bowel issues as well, & cancer treatments didn't help much in that department, but the anti nausea pills I had worked very well. I just can't remember the name off-hand.

You just have to take each day as it comes, & not "futurize" too much. I hope you can get good answers from your medics!

Comment by Sentient Biped on August 9, 2013 at 10:24pm
Patrica, your approach sounds similar to mine. I have taken the attitude of what do I need to do and how and when. My cancer is faily rare. Some of the optimism by the gastroenterologist and surgeon and oncologist were incorrect but I dont know what to make if that. Also they are not very good at managing nausea, which is kind of pathetic. But I think I figured that part out for now. And the diarrhea too. I hope.

I know a fair number of atheist doctors but have not asked the surgeon or oncologist. My primry care doctor is Jewish. He is a caring doctor and I drive 45 extra miles to see him.
Comment by booklover on August 9, 2013 at 9:46pm

Awesome!  An Atheist doctor!!!!!!

Comment by Patricia on August 9, 2013 at 9:13pm

Oh yeah....& an atheist doctor until he moved at the end of May.

Comment by booklover on August 9, 2013 at 9:00pm

Patricia, so glad you got through it and you have such a good attitude! Hugs to you and Daniel.


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