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If you have cancer.

If you had cancer.

If you know someone with cancer.

If you want to talk about cancer.

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We face the diagnosis and know, it is what it is.  

To the extent that we can, we will define our own course.

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Cancer

Cancer changes lives.

We have to deal with medical profession.

We have to deal with medications.

We have to deal with new discomfort and pain.

We have to create dignity, where there is indignity.

We have to deal with family members, friends, coworkers, and strangers, in a changed way.

We resolve to go forward with strength, resilience, purpose, pride, and integrity.

We define ourselves. Cancer does not define us.

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Participant Observer, loose bowel syndrome, unexpected and unprepared.

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Patricia on Tuesday. 25 Replies

I thought I had given my last participant observer report, but just so others who may go through the same protocol as I did, here is another report on the loose bowel syndrome. The lesson here is,…Continue

Participant observer, toe and finger nails update

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Apr 2. 4 Replies

Finally got all through the red-tape of health insurance referrals and saw a podiatrist this morning. A man in his late 60s, I would guess. Extremely thorough about checking my health history, and…Continue

CD47

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 31. 0 Replies

CD47The most promising cancer treatment to date will begin human trials in mid-2014.CD47 is a kind of protein that is found on the…Continue

Tags: antibody based cancer therapy, CD47

Partipant observer update: cancer treatment and toe and finger nails

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 18. 4 Replies

My present pain is these damnable toe and finger nails, wanting to curl into my skin. I see the doctor today about my big toe. It is now infected and looks a little like this picture. The tips of my…Continue

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Comment by Patricia on August 17, 2013 at 4:02pm

I rely on music a lot, & have a huge collection.

This is one of many favorites that is also on youtube. Tim Wheater on flute.

http://youtu.be/r9sj6-YKt0U

Comment by Sentient Biped on August 17, 2013 at 3:47pm

Patricia, your attitude is inspiring.  Go with the flow, learn the new normal.  Those are almost, Zen?  Understanding, attachment to the present or past, can bring grief when those change.

Joan, I may need some of your learned optimism.  I'm introverted, and analytic, and try to keep on the line between optimism and pessimism.  Is the glass half full?  Half empty?  I'll say - it's at the 50% point.  Optimism would be better.

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 17, 2013 at 1:25pm

Mindy, I like your new photo. Your gorgeous face and bright smile, along with your great comments always cheer me. 

I am so sorry to learn of the young man's struggle with colon cancer. I hope he has the skills to take on such a challenge. The good news, these are all learned skills and can be learned at any age. We can also learn to be depressed and not know how to get out of it.

I discovered the long term effect of Learned helplessness, the condition of a human or animal that has learned to behave helplessly, failing to respond even though there are opportunities for it to help itself by avoiding unpleasant circumstances or by gaining positive rewards from Martin E. P. Seligman. He also developed the theory of Learned optimism, the idea in positive psychology that a talent for joy, like any other, can be cultivated.

These are both learned. 

Comment by Patricia on August 17, 2013 at 1:13pm

Some form of grief is quite normal for anything life-changing. We went through something like it when my husband went through his heart attacks & stroke, & of course how badly damaged his heart now is. But.....you go with the flow & learn a different way of living. Then nature chose me to fight with cancer, but I didn't notice the grieving process was as bad. I simply got on with what I needed to do, & despite it taking over my life for a time, I still did my normal things, along with plenty of resting. Chemo did affect my lungs & I get short of breath easily, but I just slow down & it's no biggie. I am soooooo glad I quit smoking 20 years ago, or I'm sure the chemo would have been a lot worse for that particular side effect.  

Comment by booklover on August 17, 2013 at 12:18pm

That's good to hear that your cousin is doing well 15 years later Daniel.

Thank you for saying you like me to be here.  Even though I don't have cancer, I just have a chronic condition that I have no choice but to live with, I just like being here with you, Joan, and Patricia.  You are such wonderful people, and listening to all of the wisdom and stories you share makes me a better person I think.  I am glad if I can ever make any of you feel good in any small way.  I am very grateful to have met all of you on AN.  I really wish we all could be having a meal together in person, but this is the next best thing. Hugs to you, my beautiful friends~ Mindy

Comment by Sentient Biped on August 17, 2013 at 10:26am

Joan,

I'm so glad you are here.  You are so important to me.  You make a difference with every post.  You have such passion, and compassion, and intelligence. 

I read on a website that it's typical to go through a grieving period, after diagnosis with cancer.  It's hard to deal with the change of perspective, plans, abilities, comfort that we take for granted. 

You are right, there is a new normal.  I hope you learn to take pride in your resilience, your adaptability, and unquenchable spirit.  It's OK to be down sometimes. 

The chemo can cause anemia, and once you are off that I think your blood count should rebound.  That should give you more energy.   I am so glad you have family and critters who make you happy.

Thank you for being here.

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Mindy, thank you for your presence too!

A 20something with colon cancer - must be a genetic syndrome.  I hope it was just a limited area and he responds to surgery.  My cousin had colon cancer in her 30s.  Her doctor kept telling her she was anemic because of heavy menses, and she kept saying, no, her menses were not heavy.  Fortunately she was diagnosed, had surgery, and as far as I know is doing well 15 or more years later.

Comment by booklover on August 17, 2013 at 9:12am

Joan, you are so good at getting into a positive attitude when the need arises.  I'm so glad you get to spend a week with your kids, enjoying nature and the animals!  The tiny frog sounds adorable!

One of my mom's best friends told her the other day that her nephew, who is only in his 20's, was just diagnosed with colon cancer. :(

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 16, 2013 at 11:42pm

I did have a devil of a time with depression and went into fight mode with positive thoughts and visualizations, whole body relaxation techniques, I checked with my nutritionist for any suggestions, and with my chemo doctor. She found I was becoming anemic and I started on iron pills. I have a therapy appointment to get my feet back under me and after doing all that I decided this is the new normal and I can adjust to that. I feel much better, "that which you resist persists!" 

I am at Laura and Larry's home for a week, and it feels so good to have breakfast in the forest. All kinds of critters come and go. A tiny little frog came on the patio this morning and sounded like a huge bullfrog. It was only about the size of a nickel. My grandkids and great-grandkids come and tell me their adventures and that cheers me so very much. Dominic, the black lab and Spaz, the Chiwawa/Pomeranian dog make me laugh.

I feel so much better! Thanks for all your encouragement, cartoons and music. I feel the care and compassion all around the globe with my virtual friends.

I hope each one of you have a really good weekend.    

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 11, 2013 at 5:50pm

Mindy, you should know by now that I have as much fun as you with my typing errors. I can't seem to type good. It always comes out god and I usually catch it. Yes, to make such a mistake on Atheist Nexus is doubly funny. good good good good good good good good good ... just doing my finger exercises - remember piano lessons? 

Comment by booklover on August 11, 2013 at 3:41pm

Joan, I know you know I wasn't making fun of your trouble with double letters!  I'm glad we could just laugh at how it accidentally said "god", and the irony of it being on this forum!  lol.

Patricia, that story makes me sick to my stomach.  Cancer, and it's treatments, are hard enough, but when it happens to a baby, and they can't understand what is being done to them, the awfulness of it all is just beyond words...

 

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