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We won't pray.  We won't blame gods.  We won't give credit to gods.  

We face the diagnosis and know, it is what it is.  

To the extent that we can, we will define our own course.

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Cancer

Cancer changes lives.

We have to deal with medical profession.

We have to deal with medications.

We have to deal with new discomfort and pain.

We have to create dignity, where there is indignity.

We have to deal with family members, friends, coworkers, and strangers, in a changed way.

We resolve to go forward with strength, resilience, purpose, pride, and integrity.

We define ourselves. Cancer does not define us.

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Comment by Sentient Biped on February 4, 2014 at 6:07pm

I guess I'm different here. Maybe it's a gender thing. No tears, no anger, no denial, no panic.

Temperamentally I sometimes veer into depression, and there has been that. Or maybe grief is more accurate. Definitely for me there has been grief over losing the "no cancer" version of me, and some grief about other losses along with it. Some loss of the sort of physical or bodily integrity, where I've had to let other people do things to my body. I don't like that.

Also I feel I let my partner down by getting cancer. I do not want to put him through, what this puts people through. I still feel grief about when he came home and the EMTs were there getting me onto a gurney. He looked so panicked. He still tries to make me eat better and wants me to quit work, thinking that will help me get better.

I also feel some relief, that I am not putting my parents through this. They had good, long lives, and did not lose a child to cancer or to any other disease. That is a good thing.

Comment by booklover on February 4, 2014 at 3:22pm
I don't cry as much anymore. When my son, now 19, was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes at age 10, I HAD to be strong and be the mom. I certainly wasn't going to make him more afraid. I cried in the car by myself once, and that was it. I talked to him about how I hated it that he had it, and I wish I could have it for him, but I just let him know he would still do whatever he wanted in life, just with some extra work due to this sucky thing he now had. I everyone kept waiting for me to crash, but I just didn't. I think I went into warrior-mommy mode.
Comment by Joan Denoo on February 4, 2014 at 3:05pm

I'm a crier, at anything and everything. A real patsy for the stuff designed for gullible people. Usually the tears energize me to figure out what is so painful to hear or watch and attempt to make systemic changes. I guess crier, thinker, doer, celebrator just about sums me up. I am seriously lacking humor in that string

Comment by Patricia on February 4, 2014 at 1:44pm
I was always a ''crier'' about almost anything, but after my diagnosis all I had were a few tears & that's the last time I cried, even slightly, until we lost my inlaws. After they died, I haven't cried about anything. Even my husband mentioned to the dr. that I didn't react as expected to the cancer news. That's why I think nature froze my emotions.
Yes, we have gone through a lot with my husband's heart etc., but that's the way it is......nature doesn't give a damn.......
Comment by Joan Denoo on February 4, 2014 at 11:56am

There is no god that loves us, watches over us, answers prayers, has a plan for us, takes sides with us on the playing field or in the real field of life.
It is that simple.
We do have, however, all the stimulating factors of seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, feeling with our skin and feeling with our emotions, a brain, everything we need to think and act in the face of challenges.
The dependent, weak, acquiescent, obedient, submissive, fainthearted, compliant, passive, cowardly, docile among us will wring out all the time, energy and money from those who produce and feel justified in doing so. They do so in the name of their "god", whoever or whatever that is.

Comment by booklover on February 4, 2014 at 8:34am

You went through an awful lot Patricia!  I'm so glad you are doing well now.  See, talking about awful things people go through just floors me as to how anyone can think that there is a loving god who is letting this happen for a reason.  ANY reason isn't good enough!

Comment by Patricia on February 4, 2014 at 1:44am

I had to go to the cancer center in Kelowna to see the oncologist which was an 8 hour bus trip one way. They have places to stay near the center for people who need to do their treatments there, but luckily I was able to have mine here in the local hospital after the decision was made on what had to be done. Kelowna is where my daughter lives, & she drove us around to places, but we stayed in a motel near the cancer center which had medical rates. I couldn't handle being around her 5 kids after being so ill, & she had the newborn as well. I also got fitted for the prosthetic while there.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 4, 2014 at 1:22am

Yes, that is what I mean. You cry and then you think and then you act. That is emotional strength. Sure, one might run around for second opinions, or try magic potions before doing the real work. It isn't hard to sort out fact from fiction, especially in cancer treatment.

A dear friend from high school days, now living in California, called me on a regular basis telling me to drink hydrogen peroxide, and it would cure my breast cancer. I checked research reports, sorting out the nonsense from the real work, and it was easy to know what I had to do.

This false hope that so many are more than happy to shove down ones throat do more harm than good and should be told that.   

Comment by Patricia on February 4, 2014 at 12:22am

I don't consider myself emotionally strong, but I do think nature ''froze'' my emotions after a few tears at diagnosis. I just felt I had to do what I had to do as soon as possible. I also never felt I couldn't get through it, so facing up to reality right away, & let's get this show on the road was how I felt. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 3, 2014 at 11:42pm

Oh Patricia! What an ordeal. I can't help but think about the experiences of women of my grandmothers' and mother's era and what they had to go through. Those of us who have easy access to facilities and modern technology are fortunate today. For rural men and women the drives to and from treatments are gruelling. I talked to many people who had 6 and 8 hour drives from home to the CCNW facility. Some of them had meager means and had to camp out in the best arrangements they could make. There is now a place where people can stay for these frequent treatment. It just opened up. Kind of like McDonald House. 

I'm sorry you had that long wait for test results. Nine weeks are a long time to wait. Surgery, then chemo ... oh my goodness, you must have emotional strength of a lioness. "Cancer waits for nobody!" You are my inspiration.

 

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