Does The Black Church Keep Black Women Single?

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Permalink Reply by Ralph Dumain on August 13, 2010 at 10:47am

I'm feeling deja vu, must check previous discussions. While Ms Cooper does communicate an important message, one wonders about where she is coming from with a book title called "Sucka Free Love!" Perhaps it is necessary to act ignorant to communicate with the ignorant, but I can't help being cynical.

Permalink Reply by Big A on August 13, 2010 at 4:34pm

I read this earlier last month. It has some great points mixed in with some poor generalizations, but I agree with the article.

Permalink Reply by JH on August 14, 2010 at 11:54pm

I agree about the mixed bag "logic" in the piece.

One point that resonates with me though is that while all the good church sistahs are waiting/hiding for Mr. Right, they are keepin' busy doing all that "free labor" for the congregation and providing $ for the pastor/minister/bishop/whomever.

Ka-ching.

(sorta like undercover polyygny)

Permalink Reply by Minute by Minute on August 13, 2010 at 5:11pm

I don't know if it helps, but I certainly can see how it hinders. Men are funny creatures in that when it comes to relationships, we don't like second place even to make believe. My agnostic base has not one thing to do with this stance. I find a lot of things attractive in women such as intelligence, humor, loyalty, the ability to share, character and of course--cash! I like independent women. Women that think for themselves and a Christian woman, no matter her denial, does not think for herself if she is truly a Christian. The Bible speaks specifically against thinking for one's self. All I see is an agenda floating my way and it is an agenda I will not like. I am not a fan of magical thinking and in today's world, I see it as a handicap, but that's just me. Of course, I wouldn't want a pagan priestess at least for any length of time, but women with depth of their own, ideas of their own and dreams of their own. Actually, it is a woman that doesn't need me except for whatever voids I might fill in her life and as a companion, friend and person to be with. That's all. Rules and regulations are not my strong suit when it comes to religion. If other black men are like me, then I can see very well how the church might be a major turn off.

Permalink Reply by Clarence Dember on August 13, 2010 at 11:04pm

As adults, some women and men want to be single. It's that simple.

Permalink Reply by Clarence Dember on April 17, 2011 at 10:17pm

No church exists without the biological, artistic and vocational productivity of human beings.

Permalink Reply by Seb Finn on August 20, 2010 at 8:43am

I don't think that the black church is keeping black women single. I grew up in a very religious family and background. However, a black male religious friend of mine told me that women in the church drop'em quicker than those outside of the church. You would be suprised at some of the things that goes on behind those church doors that violate the very topics the so-called pastors preach about. The pastor really want all the women for himself. You know he takes them in the upper room and show them how good god-(dog) is. LOL!

Permalink Reply by Ralph Dumain on August 20, 2010 at 8:48am

No surprises here.

Permalink Reply by Navitta Nelson on May 17, 2011 at 11:40am

Heck yeah!  I think so.  I hear so many sistaz say "jesus is my man".  wtf.  Then they expect some brotha to wait on sex.  Wait until they are married.  I had a friend that everytime her and her boyfriend had sex (after days of coaxing her) she would cry like a hooka in church!!!  Imeediately after the act.  He was so turned off by it.  He stopped asking her for it.  He slepted behind her back until they were married.  But most men, don't stick around long enough for a marriage to occur.  They run for the hills.