First off dont get me wrong, whoever one chooses to love is certainly their business, and I have no problems with inter-racial couples. I myself have dated outside my race in the past, and would have no concerns about doing so again. However, truth be told I would love to find a sista, (woman of color-from wherever) who was atheist,or at the very least maybe spiritual but not religious. Talk about needle in the haystack! Maybe one that actually lives in my city, or state (we all cant relocate). Usually w/ sista's upon hearing my belifes, or lack thereof, 'the party's over". Which is not a bad thing I, since I certainly could not deal with the whole xtian mindset, customs yatta, yatta. I am not a god-fearing man and am very proud of it! At the same time there seem to be more white women for whom it is not a concern. So would I be settling? I mean, you fall in love with, who you fall in love with. Maybe I just feel my sista's eyes already rollin at me, just for the thought of it. But hey, a brotha cant wait "forever" for yall to come around.
Not patiently waiting.
if you are brave enough to be an atheist in Texas then your brave enough to handle whatever path true love leads you to, and anything else this life can dish out for that matter.
Brava. Well said Naomi. I think one of the issues in finding atheist women of color, which cirkus-frk got to was the taboo of a black woman and or another WOC calling herself an atheist. There are few things that afford us privilege and being a Christian is one of them. For a sista to be an avowed atheist is a social risk many may be scared or unready to take [both within the community and society at large].
Ultimately J.Muntu, I think someone who is strong in her non-theistic beliefs and a personality and values match, regardless of color would be a better match for you than someone who can simply tolerate yours.
Best of luck to you!
Thank you, I definitely agree, but in the mean time... Lol!!! I feel like a damn monk. In the sence that I feel bound not to have what I want. Now I'm as optomistic as the next person, heck even more at times, but I feel as if every woman that I'm attracted to is christian. then when I do find a atheist/agnostic, I feel like there's so much more pressure at least initally, since it is so rare that it happens. Then I'm always dissapointed due to us not being compatible in some way or many many miles apart. I imagine when I do finally find her out ther she will have been worth the wait (I know I am :) but damn will I be 80 or what! Lol!!!
Have a good one.
Love is love, period. If you find and fall in love with an atheist/ non-believer/ skeptic who is not black then so be it! I'd rather you be with this type of woman as opposed to being with a religious black woman who will more than likely refute your beliefs and/or try to "change" you (as a black woman, I HATE when other black women swear up and down that they can change a man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!).
My last relationship was with a dark-skinned non-believer (at that point in time, neither of us deemed ourselves as atheists. I realized that I am one after we broke up, however, religion was never an issue). Frankly, I am only open to dating other atheists, non-believers, and maybe a guy who is spirtual but not religious. Theists need not apply- AT ALL. Not sure if I'll find another black man who meets that standard here in New York, although I'm not really looking.
Good luck with the sistas, Mr. Muntu and the other brothas on this thread. We're not all religious assholes.