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For bisexuals, gender fluid, pansexual, omnisexual, swingers, etc... individuals in general and/or people who are just somewhere in the middle, confused, or whatever. Straight or gay people also welcome but the group is mainly for bisexuals.

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Bisexual? Pansexual? Omnisexual?

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In search of OUT queer ATHEIST

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Natural Selection for bisexuality in women

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John Corvino gets it

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Bisexuality on TV

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Bisexuals and the Slut Myth

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Lost Girl TV Series

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Helen Magnus character

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Loren Miller Oct 29, 2011. 1 Reply

The last person out of the closet? The bisexual male

Started by Little Name Atheist. Last reply by Freddie Aug 23, 2011. 10 Replies

Atheist booth at an LGBT pride day?

Started by Heather. Last reply by Grinning Cat Jun 25, 2011. 1 Reply

My Thoughts

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Share a Fantasy

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About me

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Comment by Prog Rock Girl on November 30, 2011 at 6:01pm

My basic dealbreakers are whether or not people find certain things about me to be dealbreakers.

Comment by Kylyssa Shay on November 30, 2011 at 10:46am

@Brad I'd suggest you try a dating website like OKCupid and answer a boatload of the match questions relating to your requirements, kinks, and preferences. I've had excellent luck finding people both as friends and as romantic or sexual partners on the site. 

In my opinion, your expectations of other people often determine who would be open to dating you.  If you have a ton of "deal-breakers" or things that make other people unacceptable to you like a very narrow age range or a very specific physical type or if you require a very specific combination of mental and physical characteristics in a mate then you'll dramatically narrow the pool of women willing to date you.


Comment by Brad on November 30, 2011 at 9:13am

so let's see. describing myself.....

atheist. independent with some libertarian leanings in certain ways. long haired male. socially awkward and often very quiet/introverted around strangers and public places, but fun loving around friends. I find books by Anton LaVey and Ayn Rand interesting, as well as even the Bible (as strictly mythology) and other religious/mythological texts. I can find things I like about even enemies and things I dislike about even those I admire, though I'm no rocket scientist. I guess you could say I'm somewhat a 'geek' in that I'm more into science fiction, horror and comic books than football, cars, and such. i work out 4 days a week at the gym and read often

somewhat bi (bottom) and very kinky but into women longterm and sexual philosophies are.....not sure if you'd wanna say polyamorous, since i only want one romantic relationship, but I just ideally would want a female partner whose open to exploration with occasional group play and select guys, gals and/or couples. I have a thing for women who smoke cigarettes even though I quit. I guess you could call it a fetish, but I have this one bad. I find namecalling, objectification, rough sex and sub/dom roles to turn me on a lot, but I'm not a BDSM nut, nor do I like the stuff that goes too hardcore with pain. I have occasional crossdressing fantasies.

since i seek a woman for romantic many women would be open to dating a guy like described above?

Comment by Jasmine Ellis on September 14, 2011 at 4:41am
@Renee - I am for monogamous relationships, but currently not in one. I missed a good conversation topic then!
Comment by Renee Christy on September 13, 2011 at 8:07am

Hello Jasmine. Things got lively when we were discussing biphobia a few weeks ago. Feel free to bring up any topic you may want to discuss.


I have a topic: Are you monogamous, polyamorous, or practicing some other relationship style?

Comment by Jasmine Ellis on September 12, 2011 at 1:52am
Hey, new to the site here. Could use some like-minded friends. :) I love conversations!
Comment by Kylyssa Shay on August 29, 2011 at 10:24am
Then there are the people who are bisexual and then become conservative and suddenly that girl you had a torrid, sexy, passionate four-year relationship with tells you it was only a phase.
Comment by Prog Rock Girl on August 28, 2011 at 5:00pm

I think the shaming of gays can also end up in someone rebelling against heterosexuality, and then they downplay their thoughts of the opposite sex. I've even read gay opinions that psychoanalyzed opposite-sex attraction as not being completely free of internalized homophobia, or something like that, and although most don't actually call you a traitor, some definitely make you feel that way.


Kylyssa, you have reminded me of the rejections I get from both sides: 1. bicurious experimenters who play games and 2. lesbians who play games b/c they assume I am a bicurious experimenter.


And ladies like the ones you met are the reason we get told "you're just bi 'cause it's trendy." It wasn't trendy when I was 9 years old.

Comment by Kylyssa Shay on August 28, 2011 at 8:08am

Bisexuality is definitely not a phase for me.  I've been bisexual since I first had stirrings of sexual attraction. 


But I understand at least some of where the perception that bisexuality is just a phase comes from. 


There has been so much pressure on gay people to remain closeted and so much pressure on gay people to just be heterosexual that many, many gay people remain closeted or try with all their might to be heterosexual.  Of course those who try to be heterosexual with all their might often fail.  I was married to a gay man who took the label of bisexual (and that only in extreme private and only to me; he presented a heterosexual front to the world) and then later realized he was gay.  If he hadn't been so indoctrinated that being gay was evil (Lutheran upbringing, Missouri Synod type) he could have grown up a well-adjusted gay man and he probably would never have used the bisexual label on himself or pretended to be heterosexual to the world.  (On a side note, we didn't divorce because he is gay but because he is controlling, jealous and wanted only "extracurricular" activity on his side though he claimed I could have a girlfriend if I wanted despite flying into rages when I mentioned flirting with women.  At the end, friends weren't even allowed.)  Many such marriages end badly and such "bisexuals" can end up viewed with rancor by heterosexuals, gays, and bisexuals alike because of the deception, whether intentional or not.


Another thing I've encountered with a few self-identified "bisexual" women is that they seem to be identifying as bisexual to be more sexy and interesting to men.  Just take a trip across OKCupid and check out the bisexual women in your area.  You'll see that the majority of them are only looking for men.  In person, I had two incidents with "bisexual" women who turned out not only to apparently be heterosexual but nasty as well.  One kissed me out in public after we'd had a few drinks together and then when I asked her out for coffee she asked me something to the effect of, "What do you think I am, a lesbian?" and never talked to me again but told our mutual friends I'm a perverted queer.  The other played a longer game, flirting and acting interested only to later explain that she's bisexual but only interested in men.  She said she flirted with me to try to interest the male friend I was hanging out with.  So, if I were a lesbian, I think those two in-person encounters and multiple online encounters of a similar nature might make me cynical about the existence of bisexuals.


However, we exist and, I'd wager, in larger numbers than anyone suspects.

Comment by Prog Rock Girl on August 27, 2011 at 12:01pm

Another reason for most bi people ending up in opposite-sex relationships is the willingness of gays to be in relationships with bisexuals. Lesbians have done nothing but play games with me--ironically, because they assume that as a bisexual I will play games with them.


The acceptance of the gay community is also a reason that people who are predominantly gay are reluctant to identify as bi, as if they're sellouts b/c they're occasionally attracted to the opposite sex. (Gay magazines have had articles about dealing with opposite sex attraction!) One of my bi acquaintances says that when she came out as bi, many of her gay colleagues confided in her that they were bi too. So instead of bi being a "transitional" thing, maybe people identify as bi until they're pressured to take sides.


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