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Hi ya'll.

I'm a 49-going-on-50 androgynously identified, polyamorous pansexual. I live in rural Vermont, USA within view of the Green Mountains with my partner, two cats, lots of plants, and even more dust mites.

I came out bisexual around 21. That's about twenty-eight years now. It wasn't a big formal coming out, and I didn't tell everyone... just when it came up in conversation. It was not well received by some of my acquaintances, friends, and family.

In the early 80s, some women in leftist activist circles had become political lesbians. What I mean by "political lesbians" is that they felt that, because of a long history of misogyny, they should only have relationships with women. "Political lesbians" are not to be confused with actual lesbians. So, I got shunned by that group.

Around the late 80s, I started reading "Dykes To Watch Out For" by Alison Bechdel. In one strip, a character was wearing a BiNet shirt. That was the first that I'd heard of this organization. I was excited! So, I did some research, found it, found that there were some women trying to organize a BiNet Vermont, and got involved.

Of course, the women who were helping start the group moved to Seattle (is Seattle still a bisexual Mecca?), and I moved to Maine. Briefly got involved in doing some bi organizing. Moved back to Vermont.

I've been identifying as pansexual for a while now. I define that as being attracted to people who don't just fall within the Big Two Gender Binary. I've found some bi people only are attracted to girly girls and macho men, which is why I made the label change. I generally have to elaborate on what I find attractive emotionally/intellectually/physically anyhow, or explain the being bisexual or pansexual isn't just about sex.

When I'm in gay and lesbian groups, I identify as bisexual, just for the visibility. When I'm in bi groups, I identify as pansexual, just because it's most accurate.

Good to see so many people here, and hope that the group continues to grow!

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Permalink Reply by William Young on February 6, 2010 at 10:47pm

62 here and totally AC/DC. I am attracted to both sexes equally and if I was in a room with one male & 1 female and could choose only one for a sexual encounter, the only way I could choose would be to flip a coin.

Permalink Reply by Little Name Atheist on February 13, 2010 at 5:35am

Howdy fellow coin flipper.

Permalink Reply by William Young on March 13, 2010 at 9:29pm

Howdy back

Permalink Reply by Creature on February 13, 2010 at 12:43am

I joined awhile ago but just came across the introductions thread a few minutes ago.

I'm 26 going on 27, and I've been open about my identity for a little over a decade. Open being that while I don't try to hide it and, and when relevant to the conversation will talk about it but generally don't talk about my sexuality with people I'm not close too. I'm comfortable with the term bi or bisexual though I don't think it's entirely accurate, as I've always found people that fall out of the gender binary to be attractive as well.
I'm in a bit of an odd situation where my long term relationship has never officially been monogamous, yet that's how it's worked out. I think this is often why people that have known me for a long time seem shocked by my orientation. My mother, the second person I told, get's very uncomfortable when I talk about it. It's as if she thinks the years I've spent in a hetero relationship have somehow "cured" me of my "confusion". Which strikes me as odd, considering that she's comfortable talking to me about bodily functions, hetero sex, masturbation, and bashing the church.

is Seattle still a bisexual Mecca?
I don't know how it is as far as people outside of my age group, or more mainstream people but a majority of the friends I've made up here are either bisexual, open to it, or comfortable around it. When I was clubbing all of the time it was pretty normal for the girls to flirt with each other whether or not there was a male counterpart around. There was still that girl-girl bias, but no one really looked down on the boys for being the same way.

Permalink Reply by Little Name Atheist on February 13, 2010 at 7:19am

Howdy Creature.

Open being that while I don't try to hide it and, and when relevant to the conversation will talk about it but generally don't talk about my sexuality with people I'm not close too.

Same here.

Thanks for the update on Seattle. My intel was from the early 90s.