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Comment by Darrel Ray on January 29, 2014 at 9:28pm

I was on The Thinking Atheist last night. We really got into things like how to talk to your children about sex and the bogus notion of sex or porn addiction. If you or someone you know, believes in sex addiction, listen here. It is only a figment of the Christian imagination and their sex crazed guilt.
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thethinkingatheist/2014/01/29/religion...

Comment by northern lights on July 29, 2013 at 11:26am

i am quite bored

Comment by Earther on November 26, 2012 at 7:35pm

What gets you in the mood?

Comment by Philip Jackson Armstrong on October 31, 2012 at 4:49pm

 I joined OK Cupid a year and a half ago. I described myself and a beer drinking Buddha influenced (not Buddhist influenced) existentialist social nihilist atheist vegetarian with no armpit hair (true) that hasn't watched TV in years. I explained that I named my 3 identical kittens all Sir Charles Cyrus Cuddlemonkey so I could tell them apart, as an example of how I wasn't crazy. It was just your basic schizotypal rant. The point was to repel anyone that couldn't read between the lines. It turned out that was everyone. For  4 months nothing, and then, came the girl of my dreams. We've been together for over a year now.  Anyway, my theory was to expose myself, the good, the bad, the what I like to call unusual (don't like the connotations of GF's professional medical opinion) and let things fall where they may. You have to make YOU attractive to someone, not your profile. The fewer people that are attracted, the better the odds that you find someone that's right.     

Comment by Nayr Namel on October 31, 2012 at 2:48pm

If you want to of course :p im not demanding.

Comment by Nayr Namel on October 31, 2012 at 2:26pm

I guess when it comes down to it im not trying to attract someone who will just skim what they are reading and generally will look at a word and think "I don't know what that means oh well" but you are right Joseph if i was trying to attract the average person i would deffinitly use what you've told me but because im very different from alot of people im not trying to find the average person.

 

Jeffrey your close :p, "I presume you are hoping to find someone who not only agrees with your philosophy" I wouldn't say who agrees with me but who has the same way of approching something when trying to understand something but of course because we as humans are flawed even in non-opinion based arguments we both are still going to be arguing about stuff. Of course im not trying to find a female version carbon copy of myself, although if i did it wouldn't be a bad thing, because what is important to me is not what she likes but rather what she does when she likes something, it isn't important that she has the same interest as me but why is she interested in the things she is interested in and what she does with those interest. So i guess what im trying to say is what I find that is important is not what the actions of someone are but why they choose those actions to begin with. Now in this comment im having a little trouble articulating what i want to say so I guess if you don't understand what i mean i don't blame you :p just ask a question that might clear it up lol

Comment by Jeffrey Carl on October 30, 2012 at 1:58pm

I've enjoyed watching this thread... it's been thought-provoking.

I'm not an expert, but I think when writing a personal ad it's better to focus on feeling than fact. Whether it should or shouldn't be that way, that's the way it is.

I presume you are hoping to find someone who not only agrees with your philosophy but also likes you and wants to be around you because being around you makes them feel good. Parts of your ad sound like you're throwing down... "Here are my bona fides - take it or leave it." Not exactly an invitation to spend some time getting to know you.

My unsolicited advice would be to try something that's honest but showing some warmth. Maybe save the nihilism chat for the second date. ;)

Comment by Joseph P on October 30, 2012 at 1:50pm

I guess what I'm trying to say is that if you want precision, you need to break it down and explain how you think, in simple, clear, descriptive sentences.  Any list more than 3 or 4 items long isn't going to do the job you intend it to.

Don't list the 3 types of nihilism to which you subscribe, mixed in with a bunch of other items.  Describe what the three types of nihilism say about your worldview.  Be a little more verbose, and give an example, funny if possible.

Someone's only going to analyze you in depth after they're already interested enough to give you more than a glance.  What you're trying to do here is garner that kind of interest.

Comment by Joseph P on October 30, 2012 at 1:45pm

Heh.

#1, you wrote the list.  You're not looking at it with the same eyes as everyone else.

#2, people don't read lists like that in detail.  They skim.  If you want people to absorb lists of characteristics, you have to put them in narrative form.

Moral Nihilist, Mereological Nihilist, Existential Nihilist ...

All I got from that, when I first read it, was that you're some sort of nihilist.  When you stack things up like that, they all start to blur together.

Plus, I already knew what reductionism is, but most people don't.  You need to compromise between precision of vocabulary and using words that most people have an immediate grasp of.  In writing, you can rely on context helping your readers understand words they don't have a precise grasp of.  In list-making, there's no context.

Comment by TNT666 on October 30, 2012 at 1:43pm

"Apparently" conflicting items in a self description list can be the most excellent ice-breakers!

 

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