I live in the "buy bull" belt....while there are pockets of like minded people in my neck of the woods, none tend to be in my age group, or if they are, there is just no attraction. I've been accused of being too picky, or setting my standards entirely too high....(wtf? I just know by now, what I can deal with, and what I can't. That's all...sheesh!) Being an atheist in the deep South....not so easy. Dating.....for an atheist intellectual....yeah...um...I don't date much...at all.....
Because I'm just awkward like that, hurr hurr~
I've never been in a relationship before, and I'm hesitant about getting into something that I would have no idea how to deal with. Also, I have issues. Not commitment issues, but more like, "OMG I've finally realized that you're flirting with me! Are you flirting with me? You're flirting with me! Shit. And I was flirting back. Great. Now I'm going to freeze up and pretend I never noticed and my twitchy behavior is going to freak you out and you're going to think I hate you when I actually kinda like you but just have no idea how to express myself and everything is going to be awkward. Yay."
Yes, that is my issue. Or, basically, I'm uber-cautious, live in my head, and have a tendency to back off from emotionally intense situations so I can gain some objective distance to analyze them. Then I get scared and run away before anything can come of it.
Also, once upon a time in 8th grade, a friend asked me out and I laughed in his face because I thought he was joking. Oops.
You know, Kacie, if you actually said that out loud, that might work for a lot of people. You're not the only one with issues like that. Though it's possible I've watched way too many sitcoms...
After much self-reflection, I've come to the conclusion that trying to get a date with me would be like trying to coax a skittish rodent-thing (like a mole rat?) out of its burrow with a peanut. Though I have no idea what I've been watching too much of to think in terms of burrowing rodents...
Could still be sitcoms, I suppose. "Everybody Loves Ratmond"?
I guess I'm just too shallow. My last two exes were only 18 when I started dating them. They were really hot too. But that's just way too young to have a serious relationship despite what they told me. I see that now. I gravitate toward younger girls like that because I want to start a family of my own and most females my age usually have a kid or two or look like they are like 20 years older than me. I know that makes me sound bad but it's the truth. I'm trying to change though. I'll never be happy getting into relationships with girls that are almost young enough to be my daughter. Who the hell do I think I am, Hugh Hefner?
Damn, don't I wish...
I've also dated males that were much younger than myself, usually people my age are way into sedentary home life, something which I do not desire.
As for breeding... we're headed for 8 billion Homo sapiens, we REALLY don't need any more, so wear condoms and date whatever age group you like!!! :)
I'm single by choice, though not mine. I know that's cliche, but that's the only way I can describe it.
It's either because nobody likes me, or because I like nobody. I'm uncomfortable socially when I don't know anyone and can be hard to get to know, just never worked out for me I guess. I became 'born again' pagan/atheist in 2007. Even if I stay single, which isn't so bad sometimes I would like to meet some new friends that don't have all that magical indoctrination going on.