This question was asked before by another member of Atheist Nexus who, unfortunately, left the site about 6 months ago. When he left, his discussions went with him. (I hate that about Ning.) That is too bad, really, because that topic received more responses than any other discussion thread on A|N that I have ever seen -- well over 400, I believe.

Well, I don't plan on leaving A|N anytime soon, so I'm going to ask that question all over again. We've had a lot of new members since the first time, so this will be a good chance for all the new faces, and some of the old, to vent once again about why they are single.

So, why are you single?

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Whoah.  What's wrong with the men in your area?  Where are you meeting all of these guys who only want one-night stands?  I know you can sometimes get the idiot factor.  If you're attractive enough, most guys won't ask you out, because they shoot themselves down before they can even work up the confidence to approach you.  The only ones who end up asking you out are the player pricks.

Not that there's anything wrong with a one-night stand, if that's what you're looking for.  Just seems shallow to me.

I would have to agree with Joseph on this one.  If players are really all you're meeting, then you need to stop finding guys under rocks and make it clear to the majority of good men that you are in fact interested in them.

Most women I've encountered who complained that they couldn't meet any decent guys, simply had to learn to stop ignoring the ones that surrounded them.

I would say that being single at this point in my life is due to statistical probability.  Living in Kentucky as a proud atheist is pretty much repellant to most women in this state.  Also, I'm not the most in shape guy, but I do have a good job and have my own place, but I work third shift which barely gives me any time to meet anyone.  Also, being liberal doesn't help much in Kentucky either. 

At this point in my life, I am warming myself to the fact that being single has its upsides.  I don't have children (and I'm becoming increasingly opposed to having them year by year).  I have no one to answer to and I have good friends.  While it does get a little lonely once in a while, going on dates with different people the past two years has been lukewarm at best. I mean honestly, who wants to put in the effort to get to know a 26 year old, 3rd-shift, lab tech for a food company who lives alone? And who also likes board games and stand-up comedy...

I have no idea why I'm single. I haven't had a date since August. Prior to that, I'd had about 5 dates in 18 months and they were all total duds. Just today, yet another friend suggested that this is somehow my fault. So who knows what I'm doing wrong, but apparently I was born with a powerful man-repellant.

I'm single because my dating deal breakers are unique. I'm looking for someone who is childfree, doesn't want kids, is an atheist, and doesn't want to get married.

I suppose I'm asking for a lot in a match.

I dunno.  i wouldn't think you would have that many problems with that set of parameters.  Lots of guys are immature and can't handle raising kids, I imagine.  ^.^

 

I flip flop a lot on the kids issue, myself.  Sometimes i really want kids, and other times, I'm not sure I have the energy or commitment.  No problem with never getting married, either.  I'd be worried about legal rights, but there are documents to take care of that.

Well, I fit Harridan20's description, and I'm available.

Wow, and you're actually only about 150 miles apart.  Usually, any random two people are at least 1,000 miles apart.

Thanks Michael,

It's good to know there are some men out there that fit ALL three. Another prob I've noticed when looking for all three is that there are a group of men who might fit the three however they are focused on all things sci-fi. They are socially inept and awkward. They are immersed in video games and the world of fantasy fiction. I've seen a big percentage in a certain site. There isn't anything wrong with being this way however to some women it may appear they haven't aged past their teenage years. What's your take on it?

Personally I have never been computer-oriented.  Yes, I use computers for work, either with Microsoft Office or various engineering software.  But most computer programming tasks I delegate to others.  So I never developed an affinity for the sort of tinkering with computers that leads some people down the path of video games.  My games of choice are chess, bridge and Sudoku, all of which are successfully automated on the computer, but which are really just board-games gone digital.

You're right about a certain class of young man who is awkward and athletically limited in "real life", but aggrandizes an alter-ego in the virtual world.  This is fine as an occasional method of escape, but becomes problematic when the relative importance of the two realities reverses.  Note the analogy between fantasy video-games and religion... a means of escaping the travails of a cruel and unjust world, by creating a myth where wrongs are righted and the weak can feel powerful.  Computers are just tools to perform a certain job.  When the tool becomes more important than the job, the result is a sort of obsession. 

What does unfortunately happen in our "family oriented" culture is that men who by nature or by circumstance don't become "family men", end up as outcasts and recluses in one form or another.  Given the prevalence of computer technology and the relative dearth of mechanical arts (how many men take pride in working on cars these days???), the natural outlet for the recluse becomes the digital world.  And that is unfortunate, for both men and women.

Your writing rocks! You really should consider writing a book!

Michael OL,

I completely agree that technology has had a double edged sword. It is a great medium to connect or keep people connected. The dark side is that some people who are in the virtual world lose their original identity.

What I've experienced with online dating is unrealistic expectations and oversexed idealized casual sexual encounters. I've seen a resurgence of casual sex especially among young to middle aged men. I don't see anything wrong with this however how are you to truly know are person? This question can lead down a dangerous road. I agree with you about the other end of the spectrum which is men and women searching for the perfect spouse. One thing I don't understand is how is the potential spouse supposed to reveal themselves if they know that this person ALREADY has marriage in mind and is rating them.

I haven't found a happy medium between the two spectrum yet. Do you think there is one? Are we headed for a future of casual sex? Is it possible to find someone in a sea of muck?

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