Depends what you mean about the financial side. According to my sister-in-law (who is Filipino), there's a big problem with men in their 20's, in the Philippines, who expect to be able to mooch off of their girlfriend. If you just mean that you'd like a college-educated guy or someone in a trade that makes decent money (like a plumber or electrician, maybe), then no worries. That's not to much to hope for.
Can't blame you on the age thing, either. Some guys are ready to settle down in their 20's, but I think they're uncommon. As a guy, I also have no problems with girls who like guys 5 to 15 years older. Can't complain. ^.^
Sucks, being an atheist in the Philippines, though. What do you do? Aren't Catholics something like 99% of the population?
I'm single because I just am. Not that I want to be but it's because I can't find the right woman. I don't have high standards, so I believe. I just want a down to earth woman who is funny, caring, loving, beautiful both inside and out, great personality, who works and is financially stable and who is an Atheist (Not quite important but I have never been with an Atheist Woman). I always hit 2 out of that list and it's always just the ones that aren't that important I get stuck with. Sounds like such an easy thing to find but it's harder then it looks. This is something I'd have to pray to the flying spaghetti monster for.
My story: I’m going through a divorce (so, not technically single) and have been separated from my future ex-wife for about 7 months. Why? Because after 8+ years of happily childless marriage, she suddenly got the craving to have children, and since I took medical steps to preclude that possibility, she announced that we must divorce. In the past few months, I have casually dabbled in various attempts at dating, but have been completely unsuccessful. The reasons?
Now having had some distance to reflect on what failed in our marriage, I realize that I “settled” for a woman who was not my type. I mean no disparaging remarks against her – and indeed, even though in some sense she betrayed me, I wish her the best in her future endeavors and in her aim to achieve fulfillment through motherhood. Rather, the point is that having been an awkward, reclusive young man, lacking poise and confidence, I jumped at the first instance where a woman would treat me seriously, without observing the distinct difference in personality, preferences, values and the like. Ultimately my wife left me not because we quarreled (we hardly ever did), but because her world-view was incompatible with mine, and we were too stubborn and insufficiently communicative to accommodate one another. That awkward young man was in the 1990s. Today I’m more middle-aged than young, but am still awkward and reclusive. In my profession I’ve established a reputation as a fairly assertive speaker, and have been privileged to be a successful mentor to the more junior employees in our organization. But sadly, professional-communication skills do not convey to personal-communication skills. But the largest difference of all, is that in professional life, one’s demonstration of competency (such as through scientific publications) forms a sort of introduction, a large part of the first-impression. It’s eminently useful to be friendly, cheerful, responsive, poised and the like; but these are peripherals. In personal life, the peripherals are the main attraction. How one comports oneself is more important than what one actually has to say. But again, the biggest problem is just “getting out there”… how to advertise oneself, how to announce one’s existence without flippancy or excessive sales-pressure, and yet being able to reach one’s audience.
I am single because my first fiance left me, the second one cheated on me, and ever since then I can only find men who want one night stands.
Whoah. What's wrong with the men in your area? Where are you meeting all of these guys who only want one-night stands? I know you can sometimes get the idiot factor. If you're attractive enough, most guys won't ask you out, because they shoot themselves down before they can even work up the confidence to approach you. The only ones who end up asking you out are the player pricks.
Not that there's anything wrong with a one-night stand, if that's what you're looking for. Just seems shallow to me.
I would have to agree with Joseph on this one. If players are really all you're meeting, then you need to stop finding guys under rocks and make it clear to the majority of good men that you are in fact interested in them.
Most women I've encountered who complained that they couldn't meet any decent guys, simply had to learn to stop ignoring the ones that surrounded them.
I would say that being single at this point in my life is due to statistical probability. Living in Kentucky as a proud atheist is pretty much repellant to most women in this state. Also, I'm not the most in shape guy, but I do have a good job and have my own place, but I work third shift which barely gives me any time to meet anyone. Also, being liberal doesn't help much in Kentucky either.
At this point in my life, I am warming myself to the fact that being single has its upsides. I don't have children (and I'm becoming increasingly opposed to having them year by year). I have no one to answer to and I have good friends. While it does get a little lonely once in a while, going on dates with different people the past two years has been lukewarm at best. I mean honestly, who wants to put in the effort to get to know a 26 year old, 3rd-shift, lab tech for a food company who lives alone? And who also likes board games and stand-up comedy...
I'm single because my dating deal breakers are unique. I'm looking for someone who is childfree, doesn't want kids, is an atheist, and doesn't want to get married.
I suppose I'm asking for a lot in a match.
I dunno. i wouldn't think you would have that many problems with that set of parameters. Lots of guys are immature and can't handle raising kids, I imagine. ^.^
I flip flop a lot on the kids issue, myself. Sometimes i really want kids, and other times, I'm not sure I have the energy or commitment. No problem with never getting married, either. I'd be worried about legal rights, but there are documents to take care of that.
Well, I fit Harridan20's description, and I'm available.
Wow, and you're actually only about 150 miles apart. Usually, any random two people are at least 1,000 miles apart.