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Why are you single?

This question was asked before by another member of Atheist Nexus who, unfortunately, left the site about 6 months ago. When he left, his discussions went with him. (I hate that about Ning.) That is too bad, really, because that topic received more responses than any other discussion thread on A|N that I have ever seen -- well over 400, I believe.

Well, I don't plan on leaving A|N anytime soon, so I'm going to ask that question all over again. We've had a lot of new members since the first time, so this will be a good chance for all the new faces, and some of the old, to vent once again about why they are single.

So, why are you single?

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Permalink Reply by Joseph P on October 12, 2010 at 8:27pm

Heh, a license to vent is one interpretation for the thread subject line, yes. Most take it as a call to self-analysis, but the alternate angle could make the activity pick back up.

Permalink Reply by Jo Jerome on October 14, 2010 at 12:15am

The reason that I am single is because my girlfriend wanted to get married and me follow her around the world while she does her military duties. I'm just not a puppy-dog with nothing else to do.

Hmmm, I suppose that's yet another issue for me. I sort of am leading a gypsy, move-where-work-and-the-wind-take-me life. So that further narrows my options to "Single Male Atheist, roughly my age group, non-smoking, politically/morally/personally compatible, who also happens to be a wandering gypsy and happens to be wandering the same general areas that I am."

What's the term again? Needle-in-a-haystack?

*Sigh*

Permalink Reply by Rayray on October 14, 2010 at 10:28am

But the needles are out there in this big haystack world. Just be patient and persevere. Until then focus on why you like being single. There is a man out there looking for you.

Permalink Reply by Jo Jerome on October 14, 2010 at 12:36pm

Thanks Rayray - hopefully my "needle in a haystack" is as positive a thinker! Let's see, reasons to enjoy being single:

- When I wake up, I don't have to worry about waking someone else up, and vice versa.

- No fighting/compromising over what to watch on TV (or computer screen in my case) or listen to on the radio.

- I can fart in bed without worry that I've totally turned someone off.

Permalink Reply by Craigart14 on October 14, 2010 at 2:30pm

All laudable goals.

Permalink Reply by Michael on October 14, 2010 at 2:17am

Probably because, like a size-14 shoe, I don't fit very many people. Nothing wrong with me, I just don't match up very well with an average Jane.

Permalink Reply by Joe Marciniak on October 15, 2010 at 11:59pm

The only reasons I'm still single is that I have baggage from my last relationship that has for some unfounded reason sapped all the confidence out of me and that I'm horribly shy.

Permalink Reply by athiest engineer on October 16, 2010 at 7:14am

you can simply say being an atheist in a Muslim majority country like Egypt means to be single .
there is no simple solution
i can't declare my atheism because either i will be killed by my family or get prisoned by the state or at least live totally isolated and no one will like to hire me for work :) .

marriage is obligatory if you want not to be single, leave the details like your marriage must be plessed by sheik (a Muslim priest). civilian marriage is unidentified in Egypt.

the problem is how to get an atheist partner in a country like mine without declaring your atheism , besides this atheist partner must be from a Muslim family , so marriage be acceptable socially.

i really envy you western atheist for your freedom .

Permalink Reply by Jason Spicer on October 16, 2010 at 3:35pm

Well, atheist engineer, that certainly puts things in perspective. I hope you find a way to be yourself and be happy.

Permalink Reply by Rayray on October 17, 2010 at 12:26pm

Agreed.

Permalink Reply by Caleb Cochran on September 9, 2011 at 9:31am

Whew..Here we go.

I'm single because I'm socially awkward, when I say something there is a 50/50 chance of it hitting and making people laugh or making an awkward silence simply because they ignore it and no one else says anything. I'm a bit overweight, I did weight 270 but now I'm at 242 or so, but I've not seen much of a physical change other than in my face. I'm an Atheist in the Bible Belt which means anyone that can conjure god into any conversation is automatically a turn off regardless of how physically attractive they are. I am the nice guy, (Agh..I've said this so many times before...) I saw stereotypes about men blah blah, made sure i didn't make those mistakes. Unfortunately, girls my age don't want the nice guy. Especially not the fat Atheist nerd lol

In a whole, it's a conglomerate of different things. I think alot of it is that I haven't been around Atheists, specifically women. Even more, there are far less Atheist teenagers than you think.

Wow i just realized this is a really old post...

Permalink Reply by Orson_Zedd on September 9, 2011 at 12:41pm

Alright, so I've learned to small talk in the last three years, but I still can't seem to get past the first date. I've come up with a few alternative theories to hopefully explain the problem:

1. The Universe hates me for some reason.

2. I'm stuck in a simulated universe with very poor AI and programming.