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Permalink Reply by Joseph P on October 20, 2010 at 9:41pm

Just in general, I'd always call. Text is a bad way of conversing with someone who doesn't know you well. If she can't hear your inflection, she may misunderstand something, not catch that something is a joke.

Permalink Reply by Jo Jerome on October 20, 2010 at 9:58pm

I'm the anomaly who prefers conversing via email than verbally.

Key word though; "Anomaly." I imagine most women would prefer the call. Especially since when someone texts me and I haven't attached a name to the number yet, I often have no idea who is texting me.

Permalink Reply by Miisa on October 21, 2010 at 2:01am

I have problems/fears regarding phone conversations, so I much prefer texting anyway. Or e-mail. But then I tend to eff up whatever I say in any medium, but I'd rather have a guy not write back than react live over the phone.
People scare the bejeebers out of me.

But I am probably not typical of women in general, most appear to love being on the phone.

Permalink Reply by Kelly M on October 21, 2010 at 3:45pm

Sometimes I don't like to talk either. Sometimes I am not really sure how a conversation will go. A witty text can be a really cool icebreaker! But that is just my opinion.

Permalink Reply by Heather McIntosh on October 21, 2010 at 11:40pm

I'd start with a text and then ask her if she'd like you to call her.

Permalink Reply by T Rose on October 22, 2010 at 2:57am

I don't mind texting. I agree with Heather that asking if you can call via a text is a good idea. Sometimes I'm not in the mood to talk.

Permalink Reply by dr kellie on October 23, 2010 at 2:54pm

I'm glad I noticed your question, because I bitch about this occasionally. As a gay girl, if I give a woman my number, and she texts me, I am instantly turned off. Grow some balls and call. Texting is too passive. Even worse (to me) is when a gal texts me and I call her back and it goes to voicemail, and then she responds with another text. My attitudes regarding this may be related to the fact that I am 41:)

Permalink Reply by Joseph P on October 23, 2010 at 3:14pm

*cheers*

Permalink Reply by T Rose on October 23, 2010 at 5:17pm

Hmm that might be part of the answer Myke. You may want to take the woman's age into consideration. Younger women might be more OK with texting than older women.