Not counting the first 8 years (blame those on my parents - when I could think rationally I did), I have been a life-long atheist. I put that right in my profile ALWAYS. So why is it almost every message I get is from someone who claims to be an xtian? I understand it from the people who just message me with a "hi" or a "let's hook up" (they can't read big words), but from people who have an otherwise nice and interesting profile or people who obviosly read mine thoroughly..I just don't get it.
If your profile says "Christian and quite serious about it" why would you try to date an "atheist and quite serious about it"?
Do they really think they could convert me this late in the game?
Xtians make no sense to me..
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After thinking about it, I imagine that the people who do this must
a. Not really be religious but think that they have to say that they are to meet chicks. (irritating)
b. Be too stupid to notice your atheist status. (troubling)
c. Not believe in atheists. (?)
d. Want to hook up really bad and don't care that you are going to hell.
So, find out for us, Peggy.
Hmm, I like to think A isn't a high percentage of them. I think people are being honest, if they say they're serious about it. Plenty of people will say they're Christian, when they only really have some vague concept that there might be some kind of god. They were raised Christian, and they retain the label. The one's who stress it, though ...
I think B mostly accounts for the "Wanna hook up?" types. If they're not that sort of drive-by pickup artist, I figure they'll notice something like that.
C and D are probably high percentages, if you take both sexes into account. I think women are more likely to fall under C. I have personal experience with many who think that atheism means you just don't want to go to church ... that you just have to meet the right girl who will bring you back to Christ. Lots of women go into a relationship assuming they'll mold the guy into what they really want, including major changes like this.
I imagine most guys are more hypocritical about their religion and just want to get laid. We're known for thinking with the wrong head, most of the time.
Have you stated, at any point, that you don't believe in any kind of gods or supernatural forces? You don't have to use the A-word, but you may want to get it out there. Catholics in particular often completely ignore their religion, if it isn't Sunday.
That's not a completely bad strategy, but you should be very observant. Watch for any religious behaviors. Also, if the relationship ever becomes serious, you really need to have a talk about how you'll raise the kids. A lot of latent Christians will suddenly go loony fundie once their first child is born.
Besides that, go for it. Maybe you can help her rid herself of whatever residual religion she may have clinging to her. You never know.
Is Plenty of Fish free, or is it one of those deceptful sites - they are all like this except for okcupid - which lure you in by letting you set up a profile and refusing to tell you exactly how much the service costs, and then you either have to pay a membership fee to use the site, or you have to pay to message members.
i was in a short relationship with a girl who said she was catholic, who I met on okcupid. We met in person at an art museum, but she was late, and she had no intention of comming until I called her and convinced her to come. Then after an hour and 20 minutes, her friend called and asked her to sing at a gay discotheque because whoever was supposed to sing couldn't make it, so of course this girl was happy to do it. On a date your phone should be OFF, and you should not text or talk on the phone. You should show up on time (a few minutes early). She did talk on the phone with me a few times, but she sounded distracted, buzy on her computer or wandering around using the speakerphone feature, and she said she was a witch and that she gives her friends readings (predictins of their future?) every so often and this ordeal makes her tired for the next "week and a half." I guess she does wicca. One time also she said she had to go to church. Her profile says she is catholic, but she never said a work otherwise about religion. She talked as if she was trying to see how much she could tell me before I got creeped out, she was scatterbrained and flakey, saying she lost track of time at least 3 different times, so I just gave up on her after 6 weeks. There's more...