I'm not sure you're right there, Robert.
Being pretty gives a woman a larger choice - but attractive men are rarely romantic because they can get all the breeding opportunities they need without having to work for them.
Conversely, ugly gits like me have to work - and hard!
Jeez, if only I could find a girl interested in a little romance with ME. I do see so many couples out at the "clubs" (small town here, so they're uh.... fall a bit short of real clubs), girl's all dressed up, looking hot, and her guy is just some trashy looking douche with his ratty jeans sagged around his butt, 3 day old neck hair growth, and a smelly hoodie. Then he gets hammers and pukes outside in the parking lot. How romantic.
Seriously, I don't get why girls are with guys like that. I'd love to surprise and delight a girl once in a while. It seems they don't want romance any more. Just booze and weed.
I've lost my trust in dating because in my last two relationships, my boyfriends were charming, loving and romantic for about 6 months--just until I was hooked. Then they shut down, backed off and I was left wondering what happened. The first time took me a couple years of waiting and wishing for the guy I thought I knew to appear again. The second time I got out much quicker.
Now I have a wonderful dog who loves only me!
Yes, I regret the years I wasted on women who were, it turns out, just using me. Never again, that; the first time she shows her true colors, I'm gone.
I'm curious - how do you usually meet guys?
Nope. Tried that.
Poetry, compliments, flowers, massages, music, cooking, etc. did nothing to keep either of my major relationships. Not a day would pass when I wouldnt tell my women that i loved them and that I would trade a life in the sun for a single loving smile. There is more to a relationship than expectations. Looking for a single point of failure or success is a poor plan.
However, if you had to pick two items to demand I would go with communication and reciprocity.
Im sorry to hear that Philip. I agree with what you've said, but not with the tone you have unjustly used against yourself.
Ive been married to two women (different times, Im not a bigamist) for half of my life. You grow together or you grow apart and there is no implicit fault in the latter.