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Permalink Reply by Cobbie Tigerpaw on August 20, 2010 at 3:53pm

nope and not looking for one particularly tho there are a few cute guys out there :) I have dated an Atheist I met on SL but I don't think we're compatible enough though he's a great person.

Permalink Reply by Nick Blair on August 20, 2010 at 11:16pm

I haven't, probably due in large part to the fact that the people I've actually met and enjoyed talking to since joining AN all live pretty far away. While I have met at least a couple of people who I would be interested in meeting in person and possibly dating, but none of them live in my area, so I can't imagine how much could come of that.

That being said, it's not that I'm totally opposed to trying to make a long-distance relationship work, I'm just trying to be realistic and admit that the chances are probably not great for a relationship like that to be successful. On the other hand, though I've not really dated anyone, so I couldn't know for sure, I do feel like I am fairly outgoing regarding things like this. If I were in a relationship with someone I truly cared about, I would be more than happy to do whatever I could to make it work, even if it meant having to drive for hours just to be with them.

I suppose the internet would be quite helpful as it would allow people to see and hear one another even from miles away, but even that isn't entirely the same as being with someone in person. I guess what I'm saying is, I'm optimistic, but not expectant. While I would like to find someone, I'm also realistic because I know that the chances of it working out are probably not in our favor. Still, I'm very much open to trying to beat the odds. ;)

Permalink Reply by Cobbie Tigerpaw on August 23, 2010 at 9:17am

As a serial long-distance dater in the past I don't recommend it!!

Permalink Reply by Cobbie Tigerpaw on August 24, 2010 at 12:26pm

That is really me in my avatar photo. I'm a Qwhilla. I know I look good, right?

Permalink Reply by Anna on August 26, 2010 at 8:18pm

f-ing hot:)

Permalink Reply by Lois Lane on August 26, 2010 at 8:08pm

I didn't meet anyone specifically through Atheist Nexus, but OKCupid.com may be a pretty good way for atheist and agnostic singles to meet each other. Being an atheist on that site has actually been found to correlate with a high response rate to emails. OKCupid is free, too.

Permalink Reply by Anna on August 26, 2010 at 8:18pm

I wish I lived in California! In the bible-belt I get rejected on those sites because of my atheism....

Permalink Reply by Michael on October 18, 2010 at 2:29pm

Doesn't change much - I lived in California for a while, and there you're more likely to get rejected because you're not a member of a weird cult. Same difference.

Permalink Reply by Michael on October 18, 2010 at 2:27pm

Unfortunately, many of the responses to mentions of atheism are very negative.

One has to be careful about making correlations. Just because X gets a high rate of response does not mean the responses are necessarily favorable.

Permalink Reply by Myke Sorrel on November 14, 2010 at 2:29pm

Going to try out this OKCupid site, it's sad us atheist have to go to so many means to find love, everyone just assumes you believe in God.

Permalink Reply by Michael on November 14, 2010 at 3:27pm

Go ahead and try it, but there's a couple things you should know.

1) The sorting criteria are not absolute. Just because you may select (for instance) "non-smoker" in your matching criteria does not mean that they will absolutely rule out all smokers; apparently they use some formula whereby if someone matches a certain percentage, they will be presented to you anyway, even if they miss on one or two things. Same is true if you select "atheist"; you will still get a small number of people who match in every other way, but are not atheistic. I guess they're trying to present the widest variety of choices, but it's a bit irritating that there is no way to absolutely rule out any specific trait.

2) Similarly, even though you can pose your own questions and label certain answers as "mandatory", that doesn't actually mean that people who answer in other ways will necessarily be screened out. (Although it does raise the probability that they will be.) So just remember that "mandatory" doesn't really mean that.

Other than that, the site is a lot of fun, and does seem to have a large selection of people.

Permalink Reply by Roy The Infidel on August 26, 2010 at 9:25pm

Dang, this post needs a sound track. :^)


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