I feel like there are too many social pressures to meet most of the expectations driven by popular culture... besides, my lousy job and other factors make it nearly impossible to find, much less maintain, any meaningful relationships.
Anybody else find themselves in the same situation, or am I the only ape here left grooming themselves in the corner?
So ask more girls out. Meeting potential dates in person, you're going to find that 75% or 90% of the people are completely incompatible, once you start discussing personality details.
You work from opposite directions, online and in person. Online, you can sort for compatibility, then get together in person and find that you have zero chemistry. In person, you sort for chemistry, then find out about compatibility afterwards.
Given the small percentage of the population that any of us would be compatible with, online services can be advantageous. But, when you're out in the sticks, you're going to have fewer people from within your area in online forums. Just get used to it not working out, and go talk to the next cute girl.
Try looking on the public bulletin boards around the campuses. There are many events sponsored around specific activities which may attract more of the non-religious types. Look into those.
Umm, dude, chasing after college girls ... 18 - 22, on average. What part of that sounds like pedophilia? Last time I checked, college girls were well past puberty.
That aside, I would avoid the freshmen anyway, even if they are legal. Most freshmen girls are still in the silly, high-school mentality. Give them a couple years to grow up a little more.
Then, there are graduate students. They're only 3 or 4 years younger than you, if they didn't take a few years off between getting their 4 year degree and going back for their Masters.
Anyway, yeah, go out and meet the group. If they're at all like my local group, they'll spend a lot of time talking about politics and social issues ... a good bit of bitching about religion ... just basic stuff. They tend to be much more intellectual than the population at large, though.
You ought to be me. I am a total Existentialist, severely Buddhist influenced, Social Nihilist, Minimalist, Atheist and I have never met a woman that would even have a clue what I just typed except the Atheist part and probably heard of Buddhism. Oh yea... people keep telling me I'm old. I don't watch television, don't care about grownups playing with toys or driving things around in circles or increasing my personal wealth or possessions. Everyone I know lives to distract themselves from real life and looks for someone that likes the same distractions. Even though my chances are nil of finding someone I remain optimistic. Not to be confused with I'm hopeful that I find someone. It's a Buddhist thing. Why waste your life wishing it was different? It's the only one you have and it is what it is. To wish it was different only diminishes your life experience. Your only life.
I was just trying to cheer up Apeman Jim. I have plenty of love, entertainment and work. Sex... well... And it is true that my personal philosophy makes me a bit of an under achiever, but I don't care. I'm sooo content just to flow, in the Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi sense, with things as they are. The point is I am way outside the norm, and I like where I'm at, but just try to start up a conversation about the nature entangled photons with the girl sitting next to you at the bar and you will get a sense of the futility of being me. Not that I care, but it should cheer Jim up.