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Sites and groups: What works, what doesn't?

What works for you? What didn't work? Any disasters? Anyone bold enough to go to a religious singles group as an atheist?

OK Cupid - A good dating site.

Local outdoor clubs and science groups.

The outdoor clubs I've been involved in tend to have about as many parties as nature hikes. Science groups tend to have smart people, and (so far) no overtly religious people.

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Permalink Reply by Heather McIntosh on December 12, 2008 at 10:10pm

Excluding the meetups, it bums me out to think of how small the chances are of going out some place and actually meeting a freethinker (especially in the south).

Permalink Reply by Scott Little on December 15, 2008 at 3:19pm

I definitely agree. You have to look hard around here (atlanta) that's for sure.

Permalink Reply by Patrice on January 18, 2009 at 12:37pm

We're all in hiding! I work in a place where people talk a lot about church and god all the time (or so it seems to me) and I pretty much keep my mouth shut. I know who some of my like-minded people are and it's always nice to have a sane conversation once in a while with one of them.

Permalink Reply by EccentricSM on February 16, 2009 at 12:20am

Yea, I know what you mean. I Live in Bush country, where openly admitting your an atheist puts you on the neighborhood watch list, right above child predator. Finding a date is difficult since about 80% of the population is written off from the start... At least I have convinced most of my friends that being an atheist , does not in fact, make me a devil-worshipper.

So... I guess i'm making progress :)

Permalink Reply by Jarrell on July 24, 2009 at 6:03pm

I know what you mean, living in TX especially the smaller towns, being an Atheist is not good at all. I remember growing up and made the mistake of openly saying i was an atheist and alot of my friends almost quit talking to me.

Permalink Reply by Timm Simpkins on April 26, 2010 at 10:26am

I wish my neighbors thought I was a devil worshiper. Then they would stop bringing me cookies and stuff as a veiled attempt to try and sneak in the good word.

Permalink Reply by Patrice on January 18, 2009 at 12:40pm

I joined OkCupid nearly a year ago and haven't had much success in meeting many new men, even just for friendship or correspondence. I'm not confident enough to make initial contact, and even when I do, it goes nowhere.

Permalink Reply by sunshinegirlie on February 15, 2009 at 8:09pm

Kristopher, you look just fine to me. Just keep looking. I'll give you the best advice I've ever received about dating. What one person doesn't like about you, the right person will love. It doesn't matter what she didn't like, just be true to yourself and open to finding love. Happy post-Valentine's Day.

Permalink Reply by Eric on March 9, 2009 at 10:07pm

Believe it or not, I recently met a VERY like-minded Atheist on Match.com. She listed herself as the oxymoronish "Spiritual But Not Religious", because she occasionally would get semi-threatening responses when she posted Atheist. As it is understandably less secure for gals to advertise their free-thinking beliefs on such dating sites, if we guys put it all out front, especially in a clever Bart Simpsonish-style, they will find us. It worked for me!

Permalink Reply by Sara Gwin on July 5, 2009 at 4:49am

Has anyone else tried Plenty of Fish? It's one of the few sites that is completely free. I've talked with quite a few atheists on the site, which seems like a positive sign. Though I live in a pretty non-religious area in Oregon, so perhaps it would be different somewhere else! Nonetheless, I'd say it's worth a try.

Permalink Reply by Michelle on July 22, 2009 at 5:19am

Meetup.com has saved my ass here in Missouri, since I am new here and don't know the area. I have found a ton of rationalist/skeptic/freethinker groups that are in my area that I intend to try out at some point. I also found a singles group that seems not to have a religious agenda, and I am going to their meet up soon.

I was actually in several outdoor clubs when I lived in Memphis... awesome folk, but no one even close to my age in them. And yes, they do know how to party. lol

Worst experience I ever had with a dating site was probably eHarmony. Like was mentioned earlier, there is no same-sex option, and besides, even when channeling the other side of my psyche all I got was this really strange sounding guy in rural Missouri who sounded like a chauvenistic asshole. Not to mention I got kicked off the site for using a fucking brand name in what I thought was a fairly funny joke. Geez, no one appreciates my humor. : (

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Permalink Reply by Carolyn R on April 3, 2010 at 8:57am

My brother found a most excellent atheist girlfriend on OK Cupid. They are in a stable long-term relationship, and seem very happy & well matched.

I'm on there now too, and I'd have to say it's by far the best site I've seen in terms of usability of the interface, good features, good design. I haven't found love yet, but this is the most hopeful I've been in the sense that I think it can actually increase my chances, where all the other sites seem like a total crap shoot.