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Permalink Reply by John B on August 11, 2011 at 7:47pm

Hi Fellow Non-theist-People,

I am a 55, HWP, divorced, intelligent, nice guy who doesn't believe in a big granddaddy in the sky.

I also have a lot of hair left ;-).

I am hoping someday to find someone to get older with, and maybe some other (more fun) activities too.

Anyway, if you are visiting or live in the twin cities (MN), drop me a line, we might hit it off -- who knows??

It wouldn't hurt to have a glass of wine ...

john

Permalink Reply by Heather McIntosh on August 17, 2011 at 6:00pm

Okay, I have to ask... what is "HWP"?

Permalink Reply by Michael on August 18, 2011 at 1:11am

HWP = Height/Weight Proportionate. An abbreviation frequently used in personal ads as a shorthand way of saying that one is neither overweight nor underweight. Often used as sort of a politically correct way of saying "I'm not fat".

Permalink Reply by Telliyah Kennedy on August 22, 2011 at 4:31pm

Hello everyone,

My name is Telliyah and I am a 22 year old college student in Michigan. Dating for me anyway has always been hard because of my standards, but probably more because I am a super shy person as well. It would be nice to one day meet someone who thinks similar to me one of these days.

Permalink Reply by Scott Macauley on August 22, 2011 at 4:33pm

GO BLUE!!! =)

Permalink Reply by Telliyah Kennedy on August 22, 2011 at 4:37pm

Yea Michigan GO BLUE!!!

Permalink Reply by Scott Macauley on August 22, 2011 at 4:41pm

Tee hee.

Permalink Reply by Joseph P on August 22, 2011 at 9:58pm

I'm a heretic from Illinois. :-D

Permalink Reply by Joseph P on August 24, 2011 at 6:13pm

Hmm, so what sort of standards do most of the available men usually run afoul of?

Permalink Reply by Michael on August 24, 2011 at 8:10pm

The standards that I usually run afoul of are: (in order of frequency)

1) I'm not good-looking enough.

2) I'm not tall enough.

3) I want to have children. (And she doesn't.)

4) I'm not a member of the right political party.

5) I don't like the right sports.

6) I don't live in the right town.

7) I'm not rich enough.

8) I want to get married eventually. (And she doesn't.)

9) I'm not of the right religion.

10) I'm not of the right race.

11) I'm divorced. (Many women won't date divorced men, even if she's divorced herself.)

12) I don't eat the right foods.

13) I don't have the right job.

Managing to successfully navigate all the possible requirements is extremely difficult. Consequently I rarely make it through without getting caught on one or more of her standards.

Permalink Reply by Joseph P on August 24, 2011 at 8:14pm

Wow, what's up with the second half of the parenthetical portion of #11? That's kind of messed up.

Permalink Reply by Michael on August 24, 2011 at 8:22pm

I would agree. And I've never gotten a rational explanation for it. But it nonetheless seems to be true. A certain proportion of women simply will NOT date divorced guys. Under any circumstances. The phrase I've heard them use is that divorced men are "damaged goods". And I've asked, "How can you say that when you're divorced yourself?" The only answer I've ever gotten was "Oh, it's different for women."

It's not a religious thing, either; this has occurred with women who were non-theist.

So, yes, it's seriously messed up. And yet I've run into it several times. (shrug) Your guess is as good as mine.