Atheists, Addictions, 12 Step Recovery, and Alternatives


Atheists, Addictions, 12 Step Recovery, and Alternatives

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Desiderata (Revised)

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.

Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars, you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with it, whatever you conceive it to be.

And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace with your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.

Be cheerful.

Strive to be happy.

Discussion Forum

Drug addiction isn't a disease

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Recommended reading

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New in recovery

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Drug addiction isn't a disease

Neuroscientist: Why It's Dangerously Wrong to Approach Addiction as a Kind of Disease

Neuroscientist, psychologist and former addict Marc Lewis offers a refreshing take on addiction that  fits with other research I've read.

To have a disease — instead of, say, a dangerous habit — is to be powerless to do anything except apply the…

Fictional look at AA culture in a zombie apocolypse setting

A book just came out by a New York lawyer by day, 12 Step prowler and author by night who goes by the pen name Michele Miller.

The setting is this new zombie apocalypses craze, a la Walking Dead or WWZ, neither of which I have every seen. I don't make time for this genre of story…

The growing secular voice in 12 Step Recovery

I am really happy to find this community. I was reading about the introduction of a secular 12 Steps to NA World Service. That sounds like a great idea that will meet some resistance. Organizations either adapt or reify into obscurity. AA is having a hard time getting a spirituality pamphlet approved by the Conference floor and some say it's because the inclusion of atheists and agnostics talking about their AA life is untenable to some of the more superstitious members.

I do like…

Back in "Sober Living facility" and getting beat over the head w/the "Bill's Big Book" need suggestions!

Hi, I just got out of detox (from Methadone/Buprenorphine) and have managed to land myself in a 3/4 house.  I haven't had time to read all the posts here yet but just wanted to re-introduce myself.  I've been a member of Atheist Nexus for a while now but I don't remember finding this particular group.  But there's a lot I may not remember lol.  Anyway all atheist help will be appreciated!

New in recovery

 I have one week of sobriety. I am glad that I found this group. I went to an AA meeting and hated it because of the talk of a higher power. Being brand new at sobriety I could use any support and friendship that I can find.

Looking for something better than Alanon

Hi Folks! I've been part of Atheist Nexus for years, but haven't been all that active recently. My husband (a superstitious, anti-organized-religion, theist) started attending AA meetings last year, and suggested I start attending Alanon. I can't stand the opening/closing prayers, the reading to the 12 steps, most of which makes reference to god/higher power. I feel like everyone at these meetings drank the coolaid, and I wonder what brainwashing is going on in the AA meetings my husband is…

Confronting the Fellowship of NA.

Greetings All,


          My name is Bill, and I am currently involved with the NA program. Im not a cookie-cutter member of the fellowship, as it were. My program does not involve the use of a god, and I feel my recovery is solid, as I have mulitiple years clean. My current journey brings me to the position of confronting the fellowship as a whole, about the inherent bias that runs through the literature/mtgs. They (NA, and the ppl involved) say that it is up to the…

New to group

Hi everyone,

I've been an Atheist Nexus member for awhile, but I've never posted anything before.  I'm an all-around addict... alcohol, pot, prescription drugs, and possibly biggest of all, food. 


I'm a nurse (which has given me lots of access to substances I don't need to be around), but I'm not working right now because I'm taking care of my mother, who is in poor health.  She requires 24 hour a day care, and I get no help from anyone else in her care.  My…

HAMS: Harm Reduction for Alcohol

I have been using a harm reduction model for cutting back on my drinking and found hamsnetwork.org to be helpful with this aim.  They have a chatroom, books, worksheets, and more for people who have found the 12 step programs lacking.  They deal with moderation, harm reduction AND abstinence.  Just wanted to share, and to see if there are other "Hamsters" out there.

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Comment by Misha H. on June 8, 2015 at 11:44pm

Thanks, Joe.  There certainly are a lot of metaphors in twelve step world.  I find a lot of good people and honesty, and a lot of nonsense, but I try to take it one metaphor at a time.

Comment by Joe C on June 4, 2015 at 11:05am

Hey Misha, you have that right - it's not just the theism in AA's twelve steps, it's also full of Judeo/Christian morality, too. The idea of powerlessness and insanity are contentious. Are these things true? It is for some and not for others. Is addiction a disease? NA talks about addiction the disease like it's a scientific fact; some AA's do, too, but for many, it's just a metaphor.

Blogs and podcasts from critics within AA:



You might already know TheFix.com, it has some critical exposes about 12-Step modality and culture. Some are harsh fault-finding rants (but still entertaining) and others are more analytical.

AA and NA are evolving. There is more literature for and by atheists in recovery than every before. In 2010 there were two books, now there are a dozen good ones. Some like to rely on SMART, SOS, Sobriety for Women for their main recovery platform and complement that with AA meetings. If you live in an urban area there are so many groups and they're all different: six people, six-hundred, ritualistic with lots of readings and protocol, anything goes discussion groups, liberal meetings, conservative meetings, religious overtones, secular meetings. Some meetings invite critical discussion and others are more evangelical.

I say meetings/groups are like bars; some of them make you feel totally uncomfortable and you can't wait to get out, some make you feel right at home, right away and still others take some getting use to.

Comment by Misha H. on June 4, 2015 at 12:48am

I am interested in critiques of 12 step work, not only based on the god/higher power terminology, but the religious structures built into the process - sin, confession, etc.   Anyone know of anyone who has written about that?   To me, while I appreciate meetings and such, my issues with the steps themselves can't be resolved by secularizing the vocabulary.   

Comment by Joe C on January 4, 2015 at 1:40am

Durker, I don't know if KC is driving distance for you:


Comment by Joe C on January 4, 2015 at 1:37am


That's a worldwide site of A.A. meetings for atheists & agnostics, no praying, no god-talk, just peer to peer help. there are several Facebook and Google and Yahoo groups for freethinkers, secular humanists, atheists, et al. more links can be found here:


there are now several books writing by nonbelievers about getting sober and clean with or without 12 Steps.

Comment by Ian Mason on January 3, 2015 at 8:50pm

Hat off to you, Durker. I remember how frustrating it was at those meetings with the "holy" who regarded me as everything between a poor lost sheep and the "Red under the bed". Your way works for you; well done in finding it and keep it up.

Comment by DurkerLewitz on January 3, 2015 at 8:33pm
I'm an alcoholic addict with 9 months clean. I am required to go to AA/NA (Read church) 4 times a week by the halfway house I'm at. There are no S.M.A.R.T. recovery meetings in my city. I detest these meetings. However I go, and they make me stronger in my recovery by reaffirming my outlook on life. I counter every religious statement I hear with a rational one i.e. "god showed me a better way" in my head "I sought help and make a conscious choice to see the positives everyday". I hate having to listen to their brain washed non-sense, but I don't let it affect my recovery. After all they are addicts, and I can take something from their struggle, as I hope they do mine.
Comment by Loni on March 8, 2013 at 12:14am

This group is kind of hard to find...I'm here because I need help being the lover of a recovering addict who struggles because he feels that he can't go to meetings without having GOD in his life.  I can't watch him relapse.  What is the appropriate thing to do here?

Comment by James M. Martin on February 27, 2013 at 7:53pm

Take wine and strange drugs, they shall not harm ye.

Comment by Ian Mason on February 26, 2013 at 10:49pm


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