Saudi judge says slapping wife for overspending is ok

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Permalink Reply by Angie Jackson on May 10, 2009 at 2:29pm

Amer isn't that because Mohammed's youngest wife Aisha was only 9 when they wed? Obviously very wrong, and yet so easy to religiously justify if you just turn off all internal morality.

Christianity also has scriptures to encourage the beating of women and children. "Spare the rod, spoil the child" is a favorite of abusive Christian parents (like mine).

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Permalink Reply by Medusa on May 10, 2009 at 4:54pm

Oh, how I detest that "Spare the rod. . ." quote!

Really gives abusive parents an excuse for their egregious actions.

I'd like to reply, "Use the rod, and find your ass in jail."

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Permalink Reply by Lord Scarab on May 10, 2009 at 7:01pm

whilst it is true one should not smack the crap out of children one should not discount a good light smack as a no-no when disciplining children... some of the little #*@%$ really do need it

but yes some abusive parents do over use that quote as justification for their douchebaggery

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Permalink Reply by Medusa on May 11, 2009 at 12:39pm

But what is a "good light smack?"

Teachers have said that they can always tell when a child is hit at home: s/he hits classmates.

More effective would be taking something away from the kid or making the kid sit somewhere and be quiet.

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Permalink Reply by Lord Scarab on May 11, 2009 at 7:42pm

Oh I don't deny that it is a punishment that would be saved for the most boneheaded of transgressions and other punishments are far more desirable in the majority of cases...

however as I said it is a punishment that shouldn't be ignored or baned a "light smack" on the rear will not truly hurt a child, it will however get the message across quickly and clearly.

And I would say there is a major difference between smacking a child and hitting a child, smacking a child is done for a reason and the child knows this, they acted up so they got a smack. Hitting a child is rarely done for a reason other than frustration on the parents behalf and so yes that will cause issues with the child.

This all said I was raised with a bloody cane (ouchie ouchie oww). But I never was one to go running around hitting people because of it (I would never say a cane is to be used on a child at all but it didn't mess me up) so I don't think it is accurate to say physically disciplining a child=bad because that's just silly. Before anyone asks my Parents are Atheists as well, my father just believed the cane was sometimes justified

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Permalink Reply by Medusa on May 12, 2009 at 4:02pm

I have read that a parent should never hit a child with anything but a hand, otherwise the parent may not realize how hard the child is being hit.

I was hit with a leather slipper. To this day, I do not like my father for using his strength to overpower me as a child. What had I done to get this punishment? Sometimes nothing more than making a face at him. Love him, yes; he did care and provide for me as I was growing up.

Did fear of getting hit make me behave better? No, it just made me very sneaky; I thought anything was Ok as long as I didn't get caught.

But I still think he was overreacting to my behavior. His father was a mean, bitter man who took all his frustrations out on his children. I never knew my grandfather (he died years before I was born), but my mother told me about the abusive rages my father endured when he was a child.

Poor parents tend to raise children who will also be inept at parenting.

And, yes, I did hit other children when I was growing up.

I don't know what kind of a mother I would have been because I have no children, but I wonder sometimes.

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Permalink Reply by Razrback11 on May 11, 2009 at 8:09pm

I'm with the Lord Scarab on this one. I was a little $%^# and my mom whipped me once and I instantly became a better child. I'm talking about a spanking, not serious Benny Hinn healing action.

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Permalink Reply by ɟǝןıx dǝʇɹɐɹ on May 10, 2009 at 7:55pm

the condition is that the smack should be applied with love

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Permalink Reply by Luke on May 13, 2009 at 6:40pm

An article in the Independent, UK
Yasmin Alibhai-Brown: Who'd be female under Islamic law?

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